The Evolutionary Psychology of Biological Parenting
How the Natural and Normal Biological Parent Regards their Offspring
The Baseline for Adopted Children's Understanding of What A Normal Biological Parent Relationship Might Be Like....
The adopted child at birth or older, Is severed and barred from the continued nurturing bond of the infant-mother's natural relatedness.
Of this enduring biological bond, the mother-child relationship is a "forever connection" only separated by space, time and unconscious memory.
Although the infant-mother are separated at birth, their bond continues on throughout the lifetimes of the child and mother regardless of proximity, environmental factors, identity changes, restrictions and refusals.
The adopted infant is subjected to forced substitutes, impostors and fraudulent adults masquerading as the child's biological parents, but the newborn infant is fully aware of the deception but can't defend himself, utilize language skills or cognitive reasoning. The Infant is alien to the placement family specifically the adopted mother, as she has no biological connection to the infant, is not driven by the pregnancy and birth's hormonal drives which delivers the maternal instinct to the particular child that is born of the body that provides these essential components for intuitive maternal knowledge of one's own offspring, which can not be replaced or substituted without serious complication and damage to the infant.
The consequences of birth separation, placement in adoption substitution, the infant's cognitive foundation is set for life:
#1. Abandonment, #2. Deception, #3. Disconnected non-biological family
The psychological cognitive foundation is the infant-child's basic understanding of the world environment applied to the independent child specifically. The foundation is the base of understanding in which all future knowledge is applied to and from this basic understanding of the child's foundation of knowledge. What is first experienced interactions from the infant's point of view, can not be reversed, and will endure as the principles unique to the individual's personal early life experiences lasting forever in the mind of this individual.
The Arrogant Denial of Adoptive Parents
The Denial that a child is an independent individual, fantasy of what the adoption can give the parent, Wishful thinking that they can love the child unconditionally, Ignorance that adoption is the same as raising biological children, and Arrogance that the child can be saved from his own life by the wants of the Adoptive Parent. Adoptive parents believe that they can overcome the emotional traumas caused by adoption severing by their mere presence. The common ignoring of past, present and new traumas caused by adoption, the discounting of children's past and assumed child ignorance. The adopted parent's tactical ignoring of what someone else has experienced is not counted as important to that child's life. as when the new parent takes control of a new child's life. The adoptive parent is not only ignorant but selfish and arrogant to the realistic psychological needs of a non-biological child.
The arrogant parent only considers her own selfish needs and how the child can fill the void in her life, and be instrumental to the needs of the adoptive parent. The reality of adoption are the grim consequences for the child that is auctioned at market like livestock. The best interests of the adoptive parent, The best interest of the social services organization's financial stress, and The best interest for financial gain of a private adoption agency's payroll. There is no "Best Interest" for a child outside of their biological family. When abuse is involved the biological child still retains his identity, who he is and the knowledge of where he is from is intact.
Evolutionarily speaking, offspring have a greater bond to mothers than fathers; women are universally known to be the direct caregivers in a parent-offspring relationship, whereas males are seen as material resource providers or involved only with their own reproductive success. Women have the naturally driven "Maternal Instinct" to aid, assist, embrace and invest in their offspring. Males are evolutionarily known to invest less due to paternal uncertainty and therefore seek as many sexual partners and seek for an increase of their genes among society. However, males also have a role in securing a connection with the offspring by taking part in making an offspring's decisions when involved in a household. The vast evolutionary differences between direct and indirect care provided by mothers and fathers, respectively, are therefore overlooked and both parents influence the life decisions of the offspring. Different parenting styles across cultures also influence the temperament of an offspring. Additionally, varying attachment styles can influence the development of an offspring, impacting their future choices on their own mates and parenting skills. Such parental influences lead to the theories of inclusive fitness as well as parental investment in illustrating the roots of parenting styles relayed upon offspring, such as to ensure the parents' reproductive success as well as their fitness through resources that which offspring obtain when making mating choices.