The Adoption Paradox of Legally Calculated Denial
The Psychological Manipulation Tactic of Keeping Adopted Child-Adult Hostage From His True Identity Forever
The principals of denial is a common theme in the lifelong struggle of pain in adopted children. These principals are compounded by the denial of the adoptive parents denial that the adopted child exists in the world as an independent human person outside of the adoptive legal contract. The adopted child is denied the fact that they have a biological mother, father, siblings, grandparents, aunts, uncles, extended family, culture, race and independent religious belief systems, values and norms that exist on a cellular and intracultural level. The mystery of the adopted child's origins is the key to the adopted child's IDENTITY, and can't reach full identity maturity until these origins are fully understood by the adopted child-adult.
The most obvious malicious denial and psychological insult to the lifelong development of the adopted child is the legal action to hide the child's true identity from the child forever, essentially keeping psychological maturity from the dependent adopted child as long as he or she lives. The legal act of keeping the adopted child/adult in a perpetual state of psychological immaturity in theory will keep them dependent on the adoptive parents to never leave the adoptive captivity to pursue their independence of identity.
Essentially keeping the adoptive child hostage to his ignorance forever.
- Simple denial: deny the reality of the unpleasant fact altogether
- Minimization: admit the fact but deny its seriousness (a combination of denial and rationalization)
- Projection: admit both the fact and seriousness but deny responsibility by blaming somebody or something else.
Denial of fact
Denial of responsibility
- Blaming: a direct statement shifting culpability and may overlap with denial of fact
- Minimizing: an attempt to make the effects or results of an action appear to be less harmful than they may actually be, or
- Justifying: when someone takes a choice and attempts to make that choice look okay due to their perception of what is "right" in a situation.
- Regression: when someone acts in a way unbecoming of their age (e.g. whining, temper tantrum, etc.)
- Troy breaks up with his girlfriend because he is unable to control his anger, and then blames her for everything that ever happened.
Denial of impact
Denial of cycle
Denial of denial
...I have observed that actual abusers threaten, bully and make a nightmare for anyone who holds them accountable or asks them to change their abusive behavior. This attack, intended to chill and terrify, typically includes threats of law suits, overt and covert attacks on the whistle-blower's credibility, and so on. The attack will often take the form of focusing on ridiculing the person who attempts to hold the offender accountable. [...] [T]he offender rapidly creates the impression that the abuser is the wronged one, while the victim or concerned observer is the offender. Figure and ground are completely reversed. [...] The offender is on the offense and the person attempting to hold the offender accountable is put on the defense.