About Adoptee Rage

Statistics Identify large populations of Adoptees in prisons, mental hospitals and committed suicide.
Fifty years of scientific studies on child adoption resulting in psychological harm to the child and
poor outcomes for a child's future.
Medical and psychological attempts to heal the broken bonds of adoption, promote reunions of biological parents and adult children. The other half of attempting to repair a severed Identity is counselling therapy to rebuild the self.

Friday, February 7, 2014

"The Expert's Opinion" Theories Over Time are Revised, Changed and Abandoned From Resulting Psychological Damage


The "Expert's Opinion",

Over Time are Revised, Changed, Abandoned and Proven Wrong.
Fear based parents are the first parents to rely on and spread old wives tales and misinformation. The emotionally codependent parent believes the inaccurate information based on the perception of a trusted friendship is a reliable source, and not  the reliability of the information itself. The compromised parent utilizes the information that is not based in fact as an exclusive source of parenting knowledge.
Adoptive mothers who rely on their friend's expert advice from women's social organization, groups, clubs etc. also are experts in the field of gossip. He, she said..., I've been told..., We have herd..., They tell us that..., Expert's say...., What we were told..
All of these introductions say to the listener that "They" Don't know shit! Who is "they" that have the power to influence you?
The excuse "because we didn't know" is not an acceptable reason to live and raise children by the guidelines of gossip. The past forty years almost every small town in the United States has a public library to read about child development and related topics. The current status of public internet access means the only excuse in relying on gossip based knowledge is laziness. What most mothers of the past were too busy to bother with in reading about raising children, In fact the raising of children is the most important accomplishment in a women's life.
The type of parent that is developmentally stuck in a developmental stage of childhood, has not mastered the phase to progress to the next stage is the most detrimental mother to a child's autonomy. The mother may have graduated high school
but has not engaged herself in learning beyond that time long ago in High School, she is stalled at that point in time mentally.
The developmentally stalled may have conflicted religious control
due to the stall in mental progress of identity formation. As children reach adulthood their learning progress will bi pass the parent and the parent will respond negatively to the child's growing and reaching mental capacity. The development arrested parent will discourage the child's goals for higher education, try to dominate the child with religion's moral control where fear base is presented as a lifestyle. The developing arrest attempts against the adolescent forming identity and attempt to shape the rocket into a housewife hopefully will fail.


Psychiatry Is a Dangerous Place for Child's Developing Brains Due to 
Psychotropic and many other RX Drugs.
Expert or ?  Advice on Shaping the Compliant Adopted Child...

Child and adolescent psychiatrists recommend that the child be told about the adoption by the adoptive parents. Children should be told about their adoption in a way that they can understand.
There are two different views on when a child should be told they are adopted. Many experts believe the child should be told at the youngest possible age. This approach provides the child an early opportunity to accept and integrate the concept of being "adopted." Other experts believe that telling a child too early may confuse the young child who can't really understand the information. These experts advise waiting until the child is older.
In either case, children should learn of their adoption from the adoptive parents. This helps give the message that adoption is good and that the child can trust the parents. If the child first learns about the adoption intentionally or accidentally from someone other than parents, the child may feel anger and mistrust towards the parents, and may view the adoption as bad or shameful because it was kept a secret. (Adoption and the false new Identity and first identity is a secret)
Adopted children will want to talk about their adoption and parents should encourage this process. Several excellent children's story books are available in bookstores and libraries which can help parents tell the child about being adopted. Children have a variety of responses to the knowledge that they are adopted. Their feelings and responses depend on their age and level of maturity. The child may deny the adoption or create fantasies about it. Frequently, adopted children hold onto beliefs that they were given away for being bad or may believe that they were kidnapped. If the parents talk openly about the adoption and present it in a positive manner, these worries are less likely to develop.

All adolescents go through a stage of struggling with their identity, wondering how they fit in with their family, their peers, and the rest of the world. This struggle may be even more intense for children adopted from other countries or cultures.
 In adolescence, the adopted child is likely to have an increased interest in his or her birth parents. This open curiosity is not unusual and does not mean that he or she is rejecting the adoptive parents. Some adolescents may wish to learn the identity of their birth parents. Adoptive parents can respond by letting the adolescent know it is okay to have such interest and questions, and when asked should give what information they have about the birth family with sensitivity and support.
Adoptive parents often have questions about how to deal with the circumstances of adoption. These parents need support from mental health and health professionals.
Some adopted children may develop emotional or behavioral problems.
 The problems may or may not result from insecurities or issues related to being adopted. 
If parents are concerned, they should seek professional assistance. 
Children who are preoccupied with their adoption should also be evaluated. A child and adolescent psychiatrist can help the child and adoptive parents determine whether or not help is needed.
Adolescence is the time for understanding of the dual identity 
The Adopted Child ID, and The Real Self ID, two separate coping identities.