About Adoptee Rage

Statistics Identify large populations of Adoptees in prisons, mental hospitals and committed suicide.
Fifty years of scientific studies on child adoption resulting in psychological harm to the child and
poor outcomes for a child's future.
Medical and psychological attempts to heal the broken bonds of adoption, promote reunions of biological parents and adult children. The other half of attempting to repair a severed Identity is counselling therapy to rebuild the self.

Monday, February 10, 2014

Self-Esteem Instability Review, Self-Esteem Instability In Adopted Children

Unstable Self Esteem In Adopted Children
Self-Esteem Instability Review

Adopted children are forced into adoption compliance without their consent, knowledge or understanding of the concept of adoption. The adopted child arrives in the adoptive home bearing the serious narcissistic wound and eventual scar from the infant's trauma of the legally severed maternal bond from the infant's real and true mother. The child's developing relation with adoptive care giver is a coping and defense mechanism type of agreement. By this point the infant has received care from three or more care givers that are not the infant's mother, the infant's inability to cognitively process this loss is filled with general anxiety suffering and in time reduced to a depression state. The adoptive mother resents the child's fear based disposition and unwillingness to bond with her. The Mother becomes angry and resentful of the child's rejection of the adoptive mother. The adoptive mother and adoptive child engage in the "rejecting dance" and refuse to accept each   other to the point of ignoring the child's cries, ques and signals.
The adoptive mother's previous narcissistic wound of infertility, (child death, etc.) Cause the adoptive mother to use "projection" of the previous narcissistic wound on to the child. Now the child's cries are a constant reminder of her failure to parent and the failure of the "Fix plan" of adopting a child to (get out of) ignore the mourning and depression of her future potentials lost.
"The Psychological Projection" of the adoptive mother's narcissistic wound is projected onto the adopted child that makes the mother angry. as the mother's anger grows and expands at the non-compliant infant with each refusal, the child is deserving of her anger and the mother constantly feels provoked. The repressed anger, the psychological wounds and current new hostility is now directed daily at the child.
The adoptive mother's commitment to raise the adopted child is done from a distant, deep seeded rage which will be obvious in the adopted child's future personality, lack of self esteem and psychological dysfunction from compensating to fit in the family.
Time will pass, the child will grow and the only way for the adoptive mother to cope with the non-genetic child is if the child serves a purpose in the family. Many adopted children serve the position of the family scapegoat and the fact that the adopted child is not deserving of the mother's love attention or nurturing. The adoptive mother's focus on the deserving, genetic children's nurturing, support and success. Since the adopted child is a guest in the home they will not challenge the position as the temporary attention object for the narcissistic personality disordered mother and serve the needs throughout the adoptive mother's life. Self esteem in the infant is non-existent and will remain in deficit during childhood.


What is self-esteem (in)stability?

Self-esteem stability refers to immediate feelings of self-worth which, generally, will not be influenced by everyday positive or negative experiences. In contrast, unstable self-esteem refers to fragile and vulnerable feelings of self-esteem which will be influenced by internally generated, such as reflecting on one's social life, and externally received evaluative information, for example a compliment or a failed course. Rosenberg makes a distinction of baseline instability and barometric instability. Baseline instability are long term fluctuations in self-esteem that occur slowly and over an extended period of time. For example, decreases in self-esteem level are common as children transition from the relatively safe environs of elementary school to the more turbulent middle school environment, often followed by slow but steady increases in self-esteem through the high school years. Barometric instability, on the other hand, reflects short term fluctuations in one’s contextually based global self-esteem. This means that someone with an unstable self-esteem will value him/herself positively on one day, but negatively on the other, this can even vary with every situation. One important feature of individuals with unstable self-esteem is how they can react very strongly on experiences that they view as relevant for their self-esteem, within this they can even see relevance for their self-esteem when there is not. 
Unstable self-esteem may take numerous forms. Some people may experience dramatic shifts from feeling very positively to very negatively about themselves, others may primarily fluctuate in the extent to which they feel positively or negatively about themselves. Another distinction made in the research on stability of self-esteem is between fragile and secure high self-esteem. Secure high self-esteem reflects positive feelings of self-worth that are well anchored and secure and that are positively associated with a wide range of psychological health and well-being indices. 
Fragile high self-esteem, however, reflects positive feelings of self-worth that are vulnerable to threat, as they require continual bolstering, protection, and validation through various self-protective or self enhancement strategies.

What influences does an unstable self-esteem have?

Research of self-esteem in adolescence and adults has shown the importance of (un)stable self-esteem in terms of social-emotional functioning. Unstable self-esteem is negatively viewed and research has shown that an unstable self-esteem is an important predictor for internalizing and externalizing problems. For example they found that self-esteem variability is a predictor of social anxiety, public self-consciousness, and self-perceptions that interpersonal problems reflect social avoidance. Self-esteem variability was also negatively associated with frequency of social interactions in the course of daily life. They concluded that self-esteem variability is associated with fear and avoidance of social contexts. Furthermore, they also found that self-esteem variability interacts with self-esteem in the prediction of depression. Self-esteem was most predictive of depression for persons high in self-esteem variability. According to them it seems reasonable to conclude from these and earlier findings that individuals may be vulnerable to depressive tendencies as a result of high variability in, and low levels of, self-esteem.

How does this UN-stable self-esteem develop?

Several research has been done on the development of (in)stability of self-esteem. These studies provide converging evidence about the stability of self-esteem between the ages 6 to 83. There was found that stability is relatively low during early childhood (probably because of lack of cognitive growth), increases throughout adolescence and young adulthood, and then declines during midlife and old age.

Only little is known about the underlying causes of stability and change in self-esteem. However some research has been done, for example on genetic and environmental influences in adolescence. Genetic effects might account for stability, another possibility is that different genes may get turned on later in adolescence, which would result in genetic effects contributing to change. Environmental factors could also play a role, such as stressful life events may lead to changes in self-esteem during adolescence. Results of a study by Kamakura indicated that stability in self-esteem was due to genetic effect and in addition there was found that environmental factors partly explained stability in self-esteem. It is however uncertain which aspects of non-shared environmental factors influence stability in self-esteem. Factors including over-reliance on the evaluations, love, and approval of others, an impoverished self-concept, and excessive dependency needs have been implicated for why immediate feelings of self-worth of some individuals are highly unstable. Furthermore, developmentally, harsh or controlling family environments are thought to promote fragile, unstable feelings of self-worth. Possessing a well-developed self-concept also is implicated in optimal psychological functioning. 
When self-knowledge is confused and conflicted it will fail to provide meaningful input into people’s behaviours and reactions and instead promote heightened responsiveness to immediately salient situational cues and outcomes. When these cues and outcomes are negative, this heightened responsiveness can be particularly detrimental. Having a poorly developed self-concept may lead individuals to rely on and be more affected by specific evaluative information, thereby enhancing unstable self-esteem.

How to measure self-esteem instability

There are two well-known measures of self-esteem instabiity. The Harter Pictorial Scale of Perceived Competence and Social Acceptance for Young Children (PSPCSA) can just be used for children aged 4 to 7. The PSPCSA is focused on four scales: cognitive competence, physical competence, peer acceptance, and maternal acceptance. Every scale contains 6 items and each item contains two pictures of a certain action or activities (for example, a child doing a puzzle or playing with other children). A pictorial format engages a young child's interest, is understandable, sustains the child's attention, and leads to more meaningful responses.  For each item the tested child is read a brief statement about each child depicted in the pictures. The first task is to indicate which of the two children it is most like. The second task is to indicate how much it is like the child on the chosen picture, a lot (represented as a big circle) or a little (represented as a small circle). When conducting this test longitudinally (for example five days in a row) the stability of self-esteem can be measured, the higher the standard-deviation, the more unstable the self-esteem is. The second measurement is the Rosenburg  (RSES). This is a 10-item Likert-type scale designed to measure global self-esteem, but when taken longitudinally it can be used as a measure for self-esteem instability.