About Adoptee Rage

Statistics Identify large populations of Adoptees in prisons, mental hospitals and committed suicide.
Fifty years of scientific studies on child adoption resulting in psychological harm to the child and
poor outcomes for a child's future.
Medical and psychological attempts to heal the broken bonds of adoption, promote reunions of biological parents and adult children. The other half of attempting to repair a severed Identity is counselling therapy to rebuild the self.

Tuesday, February 18, 2014

Psychological Repression of Adopted Children


Psychological Repression Of Adopted Children


Psychological repression, or simply repression, is the psychological attempt by an individual to repel one's own desires and impulses toward pleasurable instincts by excluding the desire from one's consciousness and holding or subduing it in the unconscious. 
Non-Conflictive Adoptive Relationship Psychological Repression
The Psychological Repression is commonly observed in populations of Adopted Children growing up in healthy psychological environment of adoptive parent homes and the emotionally supportive primary caregiver adoptive mother.In the adoptive child's unconscious and conscious mind, cooperation behavior and compensating for the lack of genetic connections (maternal bond, maternal and familial ques, gestures and non-verbal communication) to the adoptive relationship is conditional legal relationship not based in heredity. The child's actions, habits and behaviors are the product of coping strategy and unnatural compensating reactions to fit in where he does not belong. Although the child is not the victim of maltreatment, the base of not having genetic connection to the adoptive parents causes counteraction reaction that is a substructure (Past abandonment #1) foundation (fear) (Present-abandonment#2) (Future-Abandonment #3) rooted in the child's fear of future abandonment regardless of family and parent tolerance or stability of the adopted child. 
*The adopted child's primal wounding experience has established the foundation of Narcissistic Mortification in a person that can not yet speak or understand. This foundation is the basic block of human capacity which all things in life are measured against this first trauma. The deliberate head trauma resulting from severing the child from himself (the mother-child organism) is continual psychological dysfunction compensating (Compensation) in place as the adopted child's perceived personality, (which is a defense mechanism of daily adjustment).
Public opinion polls list the number one most devastating occurrence in a person's life as the death of a child, or loss of a child. What about the child's lost mother?
"The forced hideous horror of dreadful shocking terror devastation rendering a soul unable to go on drawing breath....The primary wound of the severed newborn will negatively effect future relationships throughout the child's life. Interaction with the psyche-damaged child functions on basic drives and coping mechanisms.

Conflict Based Adoptive Parent Relationship Psychological Repression
The adopted infant's permanently injured Psyche adds significant distress to the new adopted family relationship. The grief stricken newborn can not be comforted
or substituted as the infant's suffering is continuous from the horrific loss of his mother. Yet the adoptive family expects the infant to get with the program and become the adoring child like other people's baby.
The conflict based dysfunctional family goes on as usual making the unusual behavior of the adopted infant the target of the family's blame. All of the families problems were supposed to be solved by the adopted child and now new problems and conflict are additionally difficult as the parents are particularly troubled by the death of their expectations. The adoptive mother begins to resent the child's needs and ignores the child's cries. With each unrealized dream of good fortune mother's the depression takes center stage. The adoptive mother regrets the adoption and wants her freedom back. She begins to slip back into old habits and focuses on her own wants and desires to be fulfilled. Babysitters frequent the home as the parents enjoy their freedom from responsibility. No one "fell In Love" with the adopted child, and the child is the last in line for handouts of attention. When the child enters school the mother is too lazy to get the child to school and hours pass as the child sits in the dark waiting to go home. The mother does not allow the adopted child to act like a child, the child is easily punished, criticized and always the subject of the mother's disgust. The child knows better than to think or feel as the negative reinforcement type of parenting
combined with growing narcissistic behavior in the disinterested mother. The old wives tales, folklore and gossip are relied upon for parent education about raising an adopted child. The mother's broken self image is amplified in the adopted child's expected responses. The child responds correctly or she is beaten. The child is perceived as a liar, thief and illegitimate bastard offspring, so they expect the worse as the child grows older. The child is set apart from the family so the mother can truly enjoy a vacation without having to expend her energy punishing the child. The parents rarely speak to the child due to the constant punishments the child is deserving of. When the family is together quietly watching TV, the adopted child is sent to bed to prevent the family's annoyance by the child. If the family is gathered the child is sent away, to the room, to bed. The child does not know how to engage and can't sit quiet so the family members prefer the child to leave the room and stop acting like an annoying child. The child has no value in the family, nothing to contribute, nothing of interest to say. The family avoids interaction the child. The shared view of the family is that the child is annoying and interferes with family cohesion. Because the child is avoided and punished when in the room while the family is relaxing the child is often the family's point of blame, and scapegoat for serious family related problems. The child lives in fear of punishment and would never talk back or defend themselves verbally.
The parents constantly use the old wives tale phrases: "speak when spoken to", "Do as I say, Not as I do". In constant failure at school when the teacher requests a conference with the parents the child is prematurely punished as the predictable outcome will be failing in school. Punishment for causing stress, fear, annoyance
or making demands of the mother's time. All child maltreatment is deserved and rationalized through the mother's thought processes. The mother's constant belittling, nagging, nit-picking in the form of negative projections at the child are accepted without "bad attitude"of the adopted child.
 The mother says things like: the child "Is Lazy","not right" "Procrastinates" "she can't finish anything she starts" "she is a spoiled brat"..."And no body likes a spoiled brat" The mother goes on drunken rages at the child, calling her a horror, a slut and in general tries to verbally ruin the child without drawing attention to herself as the child acts like she would prefer to be beaten.
The mothers fear based childhood and childhood abuse fuels over-reactions reactions to ordinary child behavior which will not be tolerated.  No age related rites of passage are observed as the mother sees the child at a single young age.
The child is expected to accept and be what the parents vision, although the visions are unrealistic of a bygone era, domestic violence, the mental and physical restraints have kept the child from normal psychological development. The child will emerge into the world with an extreme problem of repressed childhood emotions. There will be signs of the anger like the tip of an iceberg peeking out.
18 years of held in hostility will begin eating away the stomach in the form of ulcers. When a person has learned by force to repress their emotions for decades or longer the act becomes a normal behavior where the person no longer responds to grief, happiness, anger, jealousy, Commonly known as sociopath.
At the sociopath level of functioning has no reverse.  

Psychological Repression
Repression plays a major role in many mental illness and in the psyche of average people.
'Repression, a key concept of psychoanalysis, is a defense mechanism, but it pre-exists the ego e.g. 'Primal Repression'. It ensures that what is unacceptable to the conscious mind, and would, if recalled, arouse anxiety, is prevented from entering into it'; and is generally accepted as such by psychoanalytic psychologists.
However, regarding the distinct subject of repressed memory, there is debate as to whether (or how often) memory repression really happens and mainstream psychology holds that true memory repression occurs only very rarely.

Freud's theory

As Freud moved away from hypnosis, and towards urging his patients to remember the past in a conscious state, 'the very difficulty and laboriousness of the process led Freud to a crucial insight' The intensity of his struggles to get his patients to recall past memories led him to conclude that 'there was some force that prevented them from becoming conscious and compelled them to remain unconscious...pushed the pathogenetic experiences in question out of consciousness. I gave the name of repression to this hypothetical process'.
Freud would later call the theory of repression "the corner-stone on which the whole structure of psychoanalysis rests" ("On the History of the Psycho-Analytic Movement").


Freud considered that there was 'reason to assume that there is a primal repression, a first phase of repression, which consists in the psychical (ideational) representative of the instinct being denied entrance into the conscious', as well as a 'second stage of repression, repression proper, which affects mental derivatives of the repressed representative: distinguished what he called a first stage of ' primal repression' from 'the case of repression proper ("after-pressure").
In the primary repression phase, 'it is highly probable that the immediate precipitating causes of primal repressions are quantitative factors such as...the earliest outbreaks of anxiety, which are of a very intense kind'. The child realizes that acting on some desires may bring anxiety. This anxiety leads to repression of the desire.
The threat of punishment related to this form of anxiety, when internalized, becomes the superego, which intercedes against the desires of the id (which works on the basis of the pleasure principle). Freud speculated that 'it is perhaps the emergence of the super-ego which provides the line of demarcation between primal repression and after-pressure'


Abnormal repression, as defined by Freud, or neurotic behavior occurs when repression develops under the influence of the superego, and the internalized feelings of anxiety, in ways leading to behavior that is illogical, self-destructive, or anti-social.
A psychotherapist may try to ameliorate this behavior by revealing and re-introducing the repressed aspects of the patient's mental process to her or his conscious awareness - 'assuming the role of mediator and peacemaker...to lift the repression'. In favourable circumstances, ' Repression is replaced by a condemning judgement carried out along the best lines', thereby reducing anxiety over the impulses involved.

Later developments

 Otto Fenichel stressed that 'if the disappearance of the original aim from consciousness is called repression, every sublimation is a repression (a "successful" one: through the new type of discharge, the old one has become superfluous)'.
Lucan stressed the role of the signifier in repression - 'the primal repressed is a signifier' - examining how the symptom is 'constituted on the basis of primal repression, of the fall, of the Unterdr├╝ckung, of the binary signifier...the necessary fall of this first signifier'.
Family Therapy has explored how familial taboos lead to 'this screening-off that Freud called "repression"', emphasising the way that 'keeping part of ourselves out of our awareness is a very active process...a deliberate hiding of some feeling from our family'.

Related concepts: repressed memories

One of the issues Freud struggled with was the status of the childhood "memories" recovered in his therapy from repression. He concluded that 'these scenes from infancy are not always true. Indeed, they are not true in the majority of cases, and in a few of them they are the direct opposite of the historical truth'. Controversy arose in the late 20th century about the status of such "recovered memories", particularly of child abuse, with many claiming that Freud had been wrong to ignore the reality of such recovered memories.
While accepting 'the realities of child abuse', Elaine Showalter considered it important that one 'distinguishes between abuse remembered all along, abuse spontaneously remembered, abuse recovered in therapy, and abuse suggested in therapy'. Given that psychologists, such as Elizabeth Loftus have shown that it is possible to implant false memories in individuals, it is possible to 'come to doubt the validity of therapeutically recovered memories of sexual abuse...[as] confabulations'. Many however continue to give them evidential weight.
There is related debate about the very possibility of the repression of psychological trauma While some evidence suggests that 'adults who have been through overwhelming trauma can suffer a psychic numbing, blocking out memory of or feeling about the catastrophe', it appears that the trauma more often strengthens memories due to heightened emotional or physical sensations. (However these sensations may also cause distortions, as human memory in general is filtered both by layers of perception, and by 'appropriate mental schema...spatio-temporal schemata').
Because of ethical and methodological reasons—for example, a researcher cannot put an experimental group of people through a traumatic experience, and one could not prospectively secure a trauma-free control group in essence—the information about repression that experimental research can provide is especially limited, despite claims of psychologists and psychiatrists about repressed memory. However, the ignoring (rather than suppression) of information chosen for consideration in the present or future - because it is viewed as aversive - has a powerful relationship to what will be drawn out of the unconscious to be made available for honest, conscious deliberation.