About Adoptee Rage

Statistics Identify large populations of Adoptees in prisons, mental hospitals and committed suicide.
Fifty years of scientific studies on child adoption resulting in psychological harm to the child and
poor outcomes for a child's future.
Medical and psychological attempts to heal the broken bonds of adoption, promote reunions of biological parents and adult children. The other half of attempting to repair a severed Identity is counselling therapy to rebuild the self.

Thursday, January 16, 2014

The Psychology of Blame



In the United States, normal average citizens perpetuate the childish, ignorant and deceptive behavior of Reactionary Blame.
When some act of injustice is secondarily viewed by the public or in a news related media, blame is demanded. Historically when a crime was committed, authorities would choose a person (scapegoat) to assign the blame and punishment.                      The predictable reactions of the public are used and manipulated for other purposes as in propaganda for political gains. The abuse of news media to manipulate the public's reaction is common in the U.S.. The utilization of such media is a strategy to keep the reactionary public's favor to gain wealth.,
The Creation of diversion tactics is seen in the ten billion dollar annual adoption industry to set the blame far from the offending organization. The bad guy is publicly detested while the industry is free to exploit, abuse the system and traffic children without regard for the fact that they are human children. The industry grows as entire generations of children are used to satisfy the temporary whims of hungry consumer.

The Psychology Of Blame

Blame is the act of censuring, holding responsible, making negative statements about an individual or group that their action or actions are socially or morally irresponsible, the opposite of praise. When someone is morally responsible for doing something wrong their action is blameworthy. By contrast, when someone is morally responsible for doing something right, we may say that his or her action is praiseworthy. There are other senses of praise and blame that are not ethically relevant. One may praise someone's good dress sense, and blame the weather for a crop failure.
 We constantly consciously and unconsciously make judgments about other people. Our basis for judging others may be partly ingrained, negative and rigid indicating some degree of grandiosity or arrogance.
Blaming is also a way of "devaluing" others. The end result is that the blamer feels superior. Others are seen as less worthwhile making the blamer "perfect". Off-loading blame means putting the other person down by emphasizing his or her flaws, faults and imperfections. Adopted children raised in negative circumstances are emotionally susceptible to bear the blame for an entire dysfunctional family's problems is known as scapegoating.
Adopted children are frequently the victims of manipulation and abuse, feeling primarily responsible for causing negative feelings in the manipulator or abusive adoptive parent. The abusive adoptive parent who has negative regard for their adopted child and behaves negatively towards them. The resulting anxiety in the adopted child becomes the only consistent feeling the adopted child is aware of. This self-blame often becomes a major feature of the victims psychology. 
The victim gets trapped into a perpetual negative self-image of victimization. The psychological profile of victimization includes a pervasive sense of helplessness, passivity, loss of control, pessimism, negative thinking, strong feelings of guilt, shame, remorse, self-blame, depression. This way of thinking can lead to hopelessness, despair and suicidal thoughts.
There are two main types of self-blame:
  • behavioral self-blame – undeserved blame based on actions. Victims who experience behavioral self-blame feel that they should have done something differently, and therefore feel at fault.
  • characterological self-blame – undeserved blame based on character. Victims who experience characterological self-blame feel there is something inherently wrong with them which has caused them to deserve to be assaulted.
Behavioral self-blame is associated with feelings of guilt within the victim. While the belief that one had control during the abuse (past control) is associated with greater psychological distress, the belief that one has more control during the recovery process (present control) is associated with less distress, less withdrawal, and more cognitive reprocessing.
Counseling responses found helpful in reducing self-blame are supportive responses, psycho-educational responses (learning about rape trauma syndrome for example) and those responses addressing the issue of blame. A helpful type of therapy for self-blame is Cognitive reprocessing (reconstruction) or  Cognitive behavioral therapy. Cognitive reprocessing is the process of taking the facts and forming a logical conclusion from them that is less influenced by shame or guilt.

Victim blaming

Victim blaming is holding the victims of a crime, accident, or any type of abusive maltreatment to be entirely or partially responsible for the incident that has occurred in their life.