Adoptee Rage! This blog is written exclusively for the 38% of Abused and Neglected Adopted Children. The U.S. HHSA Identifies #1 Risk: Maltreatment, Child Abuse and Risk for Death In Adopted children. Childhood domination, Coping compensation. Research in Adoption Psychology, Developmental Trauma"The Adoption Paradox". By Rainstorm Red-Smith
About Adoptee Rage
Statistics Identify large populations of Adoptees in prisons, mental hospitals and committed suicide.
Fifty years of scientific studies on child adoption resulting in psychological harm to the child and
poor outcomes for a child's future.
Medical and psychological attempts to heal the broken bonds of adoption, promote reunions of biological parents and adult children. The other half of attempting to repair a severed Identity is counselling therapy to rebuild the self.
Thursday, January 23, 2014
Identity Crisis of Adopted Children in Adolescence Is Never Resolved Without Search and Recovery in Adulthood
Identity Crisis of Adopted Children and Adult Adoptees
Adoptees Have No Trusted Identity and Seek Any Other ID.
Those who emerge from the adolescent stage of personality development with a strong sense of identity are well equipped to face adulthood with confidence and certainty. This sort of unresolved crisis leaves individuals struggling to “find themselves.” They may go on to seek a negative identity, which may involve crime or drugs or the inability to make defining choices about the future. “The basic strength that should develop during adolescence is fidelity, which emerges from a cohesive ego identity”.
Erikson's own interest in identity began in childhood. Raised Jewish, Erikson appeared very Scandinavian, and felt that he was an outsider of both groups. His later studies of cultural life among the Yurok of northern California and the Sioux of South Dakota helped formalize Erikson's ideas about identity development and identity crisis. Erikson described those going through an identity crisis as exhibiting confusion.
They often seem to have no idea who or what they are, where they belong or where they want to go. They may withdraw from normal life, not taking action or acting as they usually would at work, in their marriage or at school. They may even turn to negative activities, such as crime or drugs, as a way of dealing with identity crisis. To someone having an identity crisis, it is more acceptable to them to have a negative identity than none at all.
Erikson felt that peers have a strong impact on the development of ego identity during adolescence. He believed that association with negative groups such as cults or fanatics could actually redistrict the developing ego during this fragile time. The basic strength that Erikson found should develop during adolescence is fidelity, which only emerges from a cohesive ego identity. Fidelity is known to encompass sincerity, genuineness and a sense of duty in our relationships with other people.
Erikson described identity as "a subjective sense as well as an observable quality of personal sameness and continuity, paired with some belief in the sameness and continuity of some shared world image. As a quality of unself-conscious living, this can be gloriously obvious in a young person who has found himself as he has found his communality. In him we see emerge a unique unification of what is irreversibly given—that is, body type and temperament, giftedness and vulnerability, infantile models and acquired ideals—with the open choices provided in available roles, occupational possibilities, values offered, mentors met, friendships made, and first sexual encounters."
Identity crisis, according to psychologist Erik Erikson, is the failure to achieve ego identity during adolescence. Research Psychologist Erikson coined the term.
The stage of psycho-social development in which identity crisis may occur is called the Identity Cohesion versus Role Confusion stage. When Adoptees growing out of child phase cognitively.
The adopted adolescent child is confused by the adoptive parent's denial of the fact of the adopted child's real, true and original identity is not the name the family refers to him as.. The adopted child is now cognitively questioning the validity and finding fault with the accepting of his adoptive name, adoptive family and the awareness that his name does not belong in the adoptive "Family Tree", and does belong to his "genetic Family's Tree". The longing to know who our biological parents are will give us what our potential was, and a clue to who we can become. We as adoptees become seriously aware of who we are not, the persona of what the forced adoptive relationship has made us become. Example: The adoptive family that is a wealthy, exploitative of poor and lower class workers of which the family profits off the miserable wages paid to the workers, The right wing political rants herd daily at home based on ignorant biblical principles of multi-class systems to keep the lower classes without opportunity to live outside of poverty.The families human right abuse perpetuation ranting, ignoring any compassion of the poor causes the adopted child inner turmoil from forced living in anxiety and stress. The adopted child is a Cherokee child who refuses to eat meat, refuses cruelty of people, exploitation of animals and watching the family's exploitation and materialism is against the basic genetic personality and personal ethics based in biological cell memory. The adopted child is abused, mistreated and scapegoated by the family for not fitting in, being different and not conforming to the way the family thinks and behaves.The child constantly questions themselves, feeling surrounded by evil in the family's materialism needs and desires. The family promotes and abuses alcohol consumption, gambling and physical altercations such as verbal confrontations, psychological manipulation and violence, but does not know why she feels so out of place and a world apart from the family's normal daily living habits. The adopted child is frequently overwhelmed by the difference in the self from the family, if the child engages in the families habits the child feels that she has betrayed the principles in her and is filled with guilt, the adopted child frequently sees suicide as the only alternative for escape from the family and the adopted child's miserable adoptive existence. The adopted child has no choice until she can run away at legal majority 18 years old.
During this stage (adolescence), we are faced with physical growth, sexual maturation, and integrating our ideas of ourselves and about what others think of us. We therefore form our self-image and endure the task of resolving the crisis of our basic ego identity. Successful resolution of the crisis depends on one’s progress to pass through all previous developmental stages centering on issues such as trust, autonomy, and initiative. (Trust?)
The adoptive child due to the lack of normal development progression the adoptive child is mentally immature and can not look to the future in a series of plans. The adopted child can only see running away to escape the prison of adoption. The process to find who they are is a separate task as in adoption search and reunion. The lack of normal development has set the adoptive child in a perpetual compensation stage like treading water to avoid drowning, but not swimming to the edge. Adoptee's can not process complex plans for resolve as the education of adoption process,adoption science, adoption psychology, adoption paradox and adoption resolve education have all been strategically kept from the adopted child's knowledge. Most adoptees are unaware of the availability of the literature needed to comprehend what adoption means to the victim of the forced relationship of adoption and the concealed truth that is kept from the population of bought and sold adopted children.
The only way for an adoptee to overcome these forced legal, psychological, and identity based disabilities is the education on the adoption experiments that failed society and the adopted child population of adults stumbling through life or Falling into mental facilities, prisons or committing suicide. The ability to find your true self lies in the truth of one's origins. The search and reunion may not bring new relationships with biological parents but it will give the adoptee a sense of who they really are without the title of "adoptee".