About Adoptee Rage

Statistics Identify large populations of Adoptees in prisons, mental hospitals and committed suicide.
Fifty years of scientific studies on child adoption resulting in psychological harm to the child and
poor outcomes for a child's future.
Medical and psychological attempts to heal the broken bonds of adoption, promote reunions of biological parents and adult children. The other half of attempting to repair a severed Identity is counselling therapy to rebuild the self.

Friday, June 28, 2013

The Discounted Needs of Adopted Children


The Discounted Needs of Adopted Children

The public sector of non adopted people have no opinion on the sensitive matters in the adoptive children and adult community.
The lack of empathy and bad manners with the non adopted groups who perpetuate human trafficking.

Adopted children and adults have many unresolved issues that manifest as anger, sadness and pain. Money can not fill the void of the leftover from childhood. The needs are valid and problems are real. There are too many conflicts of interest tied to selfish, self motivated behavior and basic ties to the 5 billion dollar strong adoption industry. The adopted child emerges into adulthood or age of majority without the skills negated to the general public. The psychological effects post adoption are fact based problems that the general public discounts and invalidates adoptees. The enormous emotional stress that each adopted child must bare there entire life in silence. Adoptive children are bought and sold at premium prices internationally and domestically. The adoptive parent that goes abroad to avoid U.S. protocols has usually been denied for some reason in the U.S..

Adopted Children are psychologically Wounded
By the ignored essential to identity needs:

#1. To Know Who they truthfully are:
      A. The name given at birth and last name.
      B. To enable their individuality of identity process

#2. To know who their parents are by real Birth Certificate.
      A. Future ability to initiate contact & Relationship formation.
      B. The health records of maternal & paternal families.
      C. To meet biological grandparents Time constraint.

#3  The Specialty "Adoption Psychotherapy" counselling:
     *Therapists with extensive "adoption psychology" training.
      A. Begin to address adoption issues in childhood.
          Without signs of distress, before they begin.
      B. Access to psychotherapy in adolescence & adulthood.

#4. The access to Adoption Psychology Science information  
       A. the access and ability to enhance self knowledge of
      the adoption paradoxes, studies, thesis, dissertations,      
      history and process to personally understand the risks,
      detrimental outcomes, and the high risks for mental defect.
The general understanding of Adoption Science & Study includes
all professionally written information, without bias, motivation and is not bound to pro, con or anti.
Motivated information is persuasive with the goal of the sale.
The organizations with adoption industry ties will attempt to bury negative adoption issues, problems and psychological damage to the adopted child from the adoption itself.
The adoption industry's pro adoption pamphlet of great outcomes in family cohesion., As this is not a representation of
truth or based on factual evidence. Pro Adoption Information is advertising the benefits to the adopting parent customers. Where the negative everyday problems and lifetime issues of child adoption are completely avoided. The pro Adoption information  is not based in fact and is misleading and biased information called Adoption ADVERTISING. Adoption advertising is an excellent way to benefit the adoption industries profits.


Adoptees Seeking Answers Beyond Search-Reunions, The Adoption History Project University of Oregon, Valid Scientific Research on Adoptees


Adoptee Healing & Emotional repair

It is my hypothesis that the education of adoptees on the basic issues, risks and problems will help adoptees to understand the fact based risks of adopted children behavior. To identify with the various problems outlined in adoption science and seek professional assistance to explore the various topics and issues significant to them. The Validation of similar feelings, the struggle to form a valid identity, and the adoptive parent force that keeps pulling the adoptee back into childhood., Where the adoptee is viewed only as an ignorant child.

Beyond Search-Reunions Adoption Research is Essential to Know
the truth of why Adoptees are this way. The factual history of Adoption Project at the University of Oregon gives great insight
to the searching Adoptee's Seeking Questions to understand the personal Void in all of us.

Search Reunions are vital to the Adoptee in the formation of a new and real identity. But are not the only answer to the plight of the broken, used and insufficient adopted child.
The Research Aspect of Adoption, into the lives of Adopted Children provides clarity to Adoptees about what the issues are.

Adoptive Parents Strange Behavior at the birth of grandchild


Understanding the Jealousy of Adoptee's Fertility

Adoptive mothers, becomming grandmothers display strange
behavior at the birth and with adoptees who give birth to
grandchildren.  The expectant adoptee has no interior skills
or experience to deal with the impending birth. The adoptee
will rely on their primal protective fear to care for the new baby. The pregnancy is filled with fears of someone stealing her baby as she was stolen and sold to adoption.  The primal fear and protective urges are her basic skill that she will rely on to raise her infant.
The adoptee wanting her adoptive mother in the delivery is bitter sweet, as she has to constantly remind the mother to calm down and stop squeezing her arm numb.
The laboring adoptee asserts control of the room, throwing out unnecessary personnel in protective domination of her comfort zone. Because the focus in the hospital is on the adoptee, and not on the adoptee's mother, she can assert control and does out of fear, which is in direct conflict with the adoptee-adoptive mother relationship. The adoptive mother is in her own world
and the adoptee keeps reminding the adoptive mother to be calm. The thoughts about the mother's behavior will be
pondered again and again in the coming weeks. After the baby is born the adoptive mother will go home to nurse her old wounds of infertility or stillbirth. The arrival home will bring normal in regard to the babies schedule. The adoptive mom will arrive at the door with more formula and diapers then leave....What?
The adoptive parent's participation or witness to the simple, natural and easy birth will overwhelm her psyche with pain, jealousy and bad memories. At the time I did not understand why the adoptive mother stayed far away, now I am beginning to understand the adoptive parent psychological dynamics and
suffering. She was a great grandmother, just not so great at the nurturing of an adoptive child. There is a grand difference.

Monday, June 17, 2013

Adoptee's Search and Getting-to-know-you Behavior Topics

ADOPTEE RAGE!    Healing, Formation The Post Search Identity

Some predictable behavioral topics of the Adoptee's search and
Getting-to-know-you process I have personal experience with.

An Adoptee search is a deeply personal satisfying process necessary to the Adoptee's formation of their new adult Identity.

#1. The Adult Adoptee, "AA":
  A. Has grown beyond the forever child personification.
  B. The AA resents the ignorant child role by AP.
  C. The AA's drive for legitimate identity is their life quest.
  D. The AA has a personal right to know facts of their life.
  E. Has trouble digesting all information at once.
  F. Takes time to sift through false identity claims of BP, and           small and big lies about themselves get caught easily.

#2. Adoptive Parents, "AP":
  A. Adoptive Parents Struggle to Hold Control Over Adoptee
  B. The Jealousy and anger as the adult child is forcing change.
  C. The AP was happy with the parent-child-forever relationship.
  D. The AP resents the search, the AA's longing and the BP.
  E. The ungrateful Adoptee is at fault for instigated changes.
  F. The AP thinks search will bring closure, No it brings open.
  G. May create drama to focus off AA's search or banish AA.

#3. Biological Parents, "BP":
  A. BP Feels Guilt for the child's adoptive circumstances.
  B. Genuine hope to make up for the lost years.
  C. May tell tall tales about their hero status in life,
      Telling Lies about themselves for the AA's benefit.
  D. Does not want their cover of good christian,citizen blown.
  E. Pretends Not to be affected by years of absence.
  F. Holds in the pain, guilt from relinquishment.
  G. Pretends Lost Memory by Choice and Convenience.
  H. BP Avoid responsibility, Avoid AA relationship from
      repressed anger, pain and hostility in personal life,
      and holding in shame of themselves for relinquishment.
This list is an ongoing topic....as it unfolds in my awareness.

Sunday, June 16, 2013

How Normal Biological Fathers Feel Toward their Daughters

Adoptee Rage!

I stumbled across this post this AM and was strongly
affected on how biological fathers regard their daughters.
I was dumbfounded and felt significant lacking inside to
understand how the other side lives in biological splendor.
How a biological father worries about how his child will be
treated by her future husband, and the precious personal       and unique identity he has worked so vigilant to form, groom and grow in her. I naturally felt jealous, anger at my own
parent lacking and sad for myself for my pitiful state. But
this reality is for children who's parents have a commitment
to their lives, unlike Adopted Children. This is what defines
our most inner being, the awareness that bio children will grow up to be individuals and adopted children are forever objects.

Full Article:

Dear Cutie-Pie,
Recently, your mother and I were searching for an answer on Google. Halfway through entering the question, Google returned a list of the most popular searches in the world. Perched at the top of the list was “How to keep him interested.”
It startled me. I scanned several of the countless articles about how to be sexy and sexual, when to bring him a beer versus a sandwich, and the ways to make him feel smart and superior.
And I got angry.
Little One, it is not, has never been, and never will be your job to “keep him interested.”
Little One, your only task is to know deeply in your soul—in that unshakeable place that isn’t rattled by rejection and loss and ego—that you are worthy of interest. (If you can remember that everyone else is worthy of interest also, the battle of your life will be mostly won. But that is a letter for another day.)
If you can trust your worth in this way, you will be attractive in the most important sense of the word: you will attract a boy who is both capable of interest and who wants to spend his one life investing all of his interest inyou.

Saturday, June 15, 2013

Search For Roots Is the Only Real Feelings An Adoptee Can Depend On As Natural Reality, Why Adoptee's Search for their Identity


The Search For Biological Parent Is the Only Real Drive an
Adoptee Can Depend On As the Natural Reality.

The Drive is the only basic biological reality for Adoptees.
All other inner information created through emotional suppression can not be depended on as it is all fabricated.
Living a dual personality, the truth of who we are gets shuffled
around inside us as we loose control of our personality and forget who was us and where the line of deception began and ended. Our vigilant compliance as adopted children is done out of necessary survival. And when we are free we feel still enslaved to the persona that is expected of us. The life of deception does not end at 18 years old as we have become the slave of the phony personality. Breaking these chains is psychologically demanding and we have to come to terms with
living lies. When we want to heal from this malpractice, we have to come to terms with the fact that we weren't adopted to become our true selves. We were adopted to be the object and personification of the adopted mother's wants and demands.
Some of us will never find the courage to conquer this unnatural
me, and will go through life in self hatred of who we are not.
Suicide, mental hospitals and prisons are a great escape from the self loathing we feel. To ignore the fact that our natural identity has been hijacked and we are left with the grim reality of who we have become. Being intentionally held back striving for the possibilities we could have been fills us with anger, helplessness and the feeling of being forcefully stuck where they want...To be dependent, mentally relying upon others as we do not have the self worth to make any intelligible decisions. We are societies failure to have any worth beyond providing entertainment to our adoptive parents. This is why we were purchased in the first place, to give the adoptive parent happiness, Although this only provides us with grief and self hatred. To some Adoptees providing for the needs of the adoptive parent is not satisfying and causes us to hate ourselves for why we have allowed this to continue beyond our contract expiration.  Many of us are brainwashed with fear and trust nothing about ourselves like what we think or dream about.
We know that our hopes and dreams will always disappoint
to the level of incapacitate and numbness. The natural feelings of curiosity can help us to understand were in this world we might belong and confuse us more. But this secret hope is at  the core of every human being that has been separated from their roots. Just thinking about who and where we are from is a hope inspiring thought pattern, that is natural to everyone and can be depended on as real. The inspiring feelings lead us to take that chance of a first baby step of hope, in the secrets kept from us that keep us mentally incarcerated servants and slaves to our adopters. Have you ever thought about why they don't want us to have the dignity of our identity? Because we will be forever mentally free from our captors, by simple information.
The freedom is a feeling that is new to adoptees that the general public takes for granted, but if they were denied who they are would be a different story...Public Outcry!

Thursday, June 13, 2013

Adoptees Raised by Narcissistic Adoptive Mothers


ADOPTEE'S Raised By Narcissistic Adoptive Mothers

The complexed problems of Adopted children with all of the
expected emotional Issues that are common in the Adoptees
detachment of the replacement relationship.
The addition of an Adoptive Narcissistic Mother is an unfortunate prevalence and standard among U.S. adopters. The narcissistic adoptive mother has a personality defect that becomes seriously damaging to the child's forming identity, self worth, personality and psychological well being. The combination of the two deficits
brings the risk percentages of child abuse extremely high.

The narcissist can get their ultimate needs met by buying a child
for themselves. In the eyes of the narcissist The adopted child is
their doll, toy and they own it. They bought a childhood that will last forever in their perspective. They will never grow up and need constant correction to prevent the child from developing
independence. The Adoptee is the object to supply temporary happiness, when the narcissist feels need or thinks about it.
The "Object" Adopted child is stupid and should rely on the wisdom of the worldly parent for all thinking and decisions.
The Adopted child is discouraged by parents from learning, yet punished for poor grades in school. The inconsistantcy from the parents is confusing as the "Rules" are constantly changing and punishment from breaking the changing rules is dependable.
It seems as though the adoptive narcissist parent looks for a reason to punish the child as a way to vent their anger at the
husband or life in general. Beat the scapegoat and feel better.
The Object has no experience, no opinion and no educational
knowledge that can be relied on. When the Adoptee attempts
to interact with views that are unacceptable to the parent, she
will be slapped in the mouth...As a reminder that the child was Adopted for her opinions. Any legitimate knowledge coming from the Adoptee  will be ignored, sarcastically questioned and strongly invalidated to the extent of humiliation. The Adoptees
primary and secondary education, worldly knowledge, specific topic studied, informational learning and cognition all mean nothing ....The strange belief concept that the child's intelligence is an act of insubordination and disobedience, attempting to be smarter than the parent is a contemptible offence.
The Adoptee's behavioral compliance will be rewarded if she keeps a pleasant attitude, maintain a proper appearance and keeps her mouth shut.  The Puppet Adoptive Child can never win against the narcissist, the only way to gain some peace is
to avoid the narcissist.

Tuesday, June 11, 2013

Adopted Child Abuse Invalidation Psychological Damage


The Impact of Invalidated Feelings

The impact of abandonment, isolation, invalidation, and rejection brings a feeling that surfaces unexplainable and perplexing behaviors and contributes to an attachment pattern that is secure or insecure—reactive or maladaptive.  Quite often, when we see children or adults that demonstrate perplexing behaviors — that we may not understand, there is something not seen. Unseen forces are at work creating a ricocheting pattern of emotional responses– events in life that bring a wave of peculiar behaviors that affect every area of life now and everything happening in the future. While some people may believe that their actions are independent and well thought out, the truth is that what is happening in life is inextricably connected to the experience of attachment and the concurrent developmental process.

The Parents Repetitious Words of Invalidation:

 "You are too sensitive" and "Too Dramatic"
Parents tell us that we should not feel the way we feel.
We are dictated not to feel what we feel inside.
Our feelings are judged, Ignored and punished for.
We are told that something is wrong with our feelings.

We question anything that comes naturally as wrong,
and seek constant approval of simple thoughts.
This form of psychological abuse disturbs the child's
self image forever. 

The Child's Psychological Manipulation with Invalidation

A sensitive child who is repeatedly invalidated becomes confused and begins to distrust his own emotions. He fails to develop confidence in and healthy use of his emotional brain-- one of nature's most basic survival tools. To adapt to this unhealthy and dysfunctional environment, the working relationship between his thoughts and feelings becomes twisted. His emotional responses, emotional management, and emotional development will likely be seriously, and perhaps permanently, impaired. The emotional processes which worked for him as a child may begin to work against him as an adult. In fact, one defintion of the so-called "borderline personality disorder" is "the normal response of a sensitive person to an invalidating environment" (2)

Psychiatrist R.D. Laing said that when we invalidate people or deny their perceptions and personal experiences, we make mental invalids of them. He found that when one's feelings are denied a person can be made to feel crazy even they are perfectly mentally 

Recent research by Thomas R. Lynch, Ph.D. of Duke University supports the idea that invalidation leads to mental health problems. He writes "...a history of emotion invalidation (i.e., a history of childhood psychological abuse and parental punishment, minimization, and distress in response to negative emotion) was significantly associated with emotion inhibition (i.e., ambivalence over emotional expression, thought suppression, and avoidant stress responses). Further, emotion inhibition significantly predicted psychological distress, including depression and anxiety symptoms.

Invalidation goes beyond mere rejection by implying not only that our feelings are disapproved of, but that we are fundamentally abnormal. This implies that there is something wrong with us because we aren't like everyone else; we are strange; we are different; we are weird.

None of this feels good, and all of it damages us. The more different from the mass norm a person is, for example, more intelligent or more sensitive, the more he is likely to be invalidated. When we are invalidated by having our feelings repudiated, we are attacked at the deepest level possible, since our feelings are the innermost expression of our individual identities.

Telling a person she shouldn't feel the way she does feel is akin to telling water it shouldn't be wet, grass it shouldn't be green, or rocks they shouldn't be hard. Each persons's feelings are real. Whether we like or understand someone's feelings, they are still real. Rejecting feelings is rejecting reality; it is to fight nature and may be called a crime against nature, "psychological murder", or "soul murder." Considering that trying to fight feelings, rather than accept them, is trying to fight all of nature, you can see why it is so frustrating, draining and futile. 

Friday, June 7, 2013

Adoptee's Search for Parents Is not the Single Fix for a Lifetime of Abuse, Commitment to Counselling Gives Adoptees Tools Not Before Explored


Adoptee's Search for Biological Parents is not the Single Fix
for the lifetime of Abuse.

Although County adoption agencies want us to think that if
we find our real parents all will be repaired. The reality of abundant psychological issues in a majority of emerging adult Adoptees., Adoption agencies want to avoid their responsibility
to the children they sold and acted on behalf of. Adoption Agencies as an industry reached the five billion mark in 2012, Having obvious resources to be held accountable for damages
caused directly from the adoption agency decisions.
The adoption agency liability is the solution for Adoptee's mental restoration. The financial cost of psychological based counseling therapy is provided yearly to state agencies by federal funding of "Post Adoption Services". Adoptee counselling is a process,
commitment and hard working investment in human hope.
Not all adoptees will flock at the offer of treatment but to those
who seek improvement, Therapy should be available. Without
psychotherapy the rates and cycle of child abuse will continue
on multi generational. The mounting costs from domestic violence related problems and crime can be changed by a society that values the benefits of behavioral results through therapy.  
When one person seeks professional help to learn how to change their lifestyle, ten people are positively effected from
dangerous behavior, chronic situations and chaotic lifestyles.
When Adopted children are given the tools to repair, learn and grow into productive members of society. Psychological therapy
is the most important tool to assist adopted children and adults to mentally untangle the troubled and free the person inside.

At 18 years, the age of majority, You are entitled to
certain personal information from the adoption sales agency
that sold you., My sales agency was the county of San Diego.
You must present,provide two current forms of I.D..
You will receive random and personal information
#1. Some random pages from your birth,
#2. Case file pages of non-Identifying Information
(With your parents last names blocked out in black pen)

This packet is called the "Post Adoption Services"
Hundreds of millions in revenue are designated to state adoption agencies to implement and fund the "Post Adoption Services".
I was astonished that it took so much money to copy the paper.

#1. 10+ page packet of various adoptee information
#2. Lists & search registry & websites to help find your parents,
#3. Including people and search agency you can hire to search.
#4. Several pages describing the life long problems                         of trauma and adult related adoption issues
      commonly associated with adopted children and
      adopted adults.

The Emerging Field Specialty of Adoption Psychology


The Emerging Field Specialty of Adoption Psychology

The Psychologist who's specialty in the field of Child
and adult Adoption Psychology is expanding due to thriving
adoption industry in the U.S.. In four years the adoption industry jumped from generating one billion dollars per year to
five billion in 2012.
The massive and growing populations of adopted children are filling the mental health facilities and seeking outpatient therapy from certified Adoption Psychology specialists. This field of study
was first observed in the 1960's where hospital staff physicians
noticed an influx of adopted children filling mental hospital beds.
These psychiatric doctors at that time began compiling data on the effects of adoption on their patients. A great amount of research, study and observation was conducted and published
with the physician being threatened, fired and ruined for crossing the line of unfavorable public discourse. Doctors were
discouraged to publish any negative findings that would damage
or vilify the industry of selling children and smear the impeccable image of adoption to the public. The research conclusions from child adoption research include adverse effects, harm, injure, and mental impairment to name a few.
The peer reviewed research conclusions of negative mental health outcomes in a majority of adopted children. The adotion disparity cases challenge the foundation of what American citizens hold dear in the pursuit of happiness. The needs, wishes, cravings, wants and the ability to satisfy these personal desires through commerce. The business of Child Adoption is no longer based on the innocent needs of orphaned children. Today's Industry of adoption is corrupt with greed, kidnapping and child trafficking. Current adoption law is complimentary to the child buyer and the adoption industry. The biological parent may receive compensation, counselling and the new state disability insurance classification. Does the child product benefit? The adoption child is not compensated and psychological needs go unmet until the inevitable trauma. The Adoptee does receive high risk factors of mental illness and disease, child abuse, and child abuse related death. Childhood health and well-being is in   direct conflict with standard adoption practices in the U.S.
The pioneers in Adoption Psychology have practiced proper medical ethics in the observation and treatment of their adopted children and adult patients. The psychologists have provided groundbreaking research that is cited and utilized today on adoptees at great risk to their livelihood as physicians.

 damaged Adoptees.

Adoption's Cinderella Effect of Non-Biological Child Abuse


Cinderella Effect Theory

Full article at wikipedia.org/cinderella_effect

In evolutionary psychology, the Cinderella effect is the alleged higher incident of different forms of child-abuse and mistreatment by step and adoptive parents than by biological parents. It takes its name from the fairy tale character Cinderella. Evolutionary psychologists describe the effect as a remnant of an adaptive reproductive strategy among primates where males frequently kill the offspring of other males in order to bring their mothers into estrus, and give the male a chance to fertilize her himself. 

The United States indeed incur greatly elevated risk of child maltreatment of various sorts, especially lethal beatings".[4] Studies have found that not biologically related parents are up to a hundred times more likely to kill a child than biological parents.[5]
Powerful evidence in support of the Cinderella effect comes from the finding that when abusive parents have both step and genetic children, they generally spare their genetic children. In such families, stepchildren were exclusively targeted 9 out of 10 times in one study and in 19 of 22 in another.[6] In addition to displaying higher rates of negative behaviors of abuse toward Adoptees and stepchildren, stepparents display fewer positive behaviors toward step and adopted children than do the genetic parents. For example, on average, step parents invest less in education, play with stepchildren less, take stepchildren to the doctor less, 
This discrimination against step and adopted children is unusual compared to abuse statistics involving the overall population given "the following additional facts when child abuse is detected, it is often found that all the children in the home have been victimized; and (2) stepchildren are almost always the eldest children in the home, whereas the general (…) tendency in families of uniform parentage is for the youngest to be most frequent victims."

Thursday, June 6, 2013

Estranged Adoptees, Being Banished Is Normal To Us

Adoptee Rage!

Estranged Adoptees, Being banished Is Normal to us.

The act of being thrown out of the family home with no
money and with the cloths on your back. Told by your
parents "Never come back"!
This is Banishment, usually a beating will precede the final
throw-out. The act of being banished is not something that
can break an Adoptee, We suffered the same horror at our
first day of birth and we survived. All of the adults involved
in and out of our lives make terrible decisions on our behalf.
These adults assigned to us for our well being aren't doing a
good job and are negligent as parents. 


The Estranged Adult Adoptee


The Estranged Adult Adoptee

Unfortunately, many times throughout my life
I have experienced Banishment and Estrangement.
The realization of estrangement is a perpetual family
roller coaster, they kick you out, you leave angry and
after time start feeling peace, self sufficient and mental
wellness. When the parents decide you have been
satisfactory punished they will allow you back into the
web of family struggle. Where you will again loose the
sense of independence and peace of mind that you felt
during the estrangement.

Each time I was banished was a time of personal growth,
a ticket to freedom from the people who hated me and
the recognition that only my family treated me that way.
Each time I was allowed back was a regression to childhood
where my parents denied the estrangement and banishment.
They simply pretend It did not happen, Mom would say "It is
all in your mind", You are so dramatic and We were only kidding.
Talking about the estrangement was non existent because in
the eyes of my adoptive parents it simply did not happen.
"It is all in your mind" We would never do such a thing.

My final estrangement was my choice to get off the roller coaster of cruelty.
"Any communication must be in writing" then I know what
I can talk about, what really has happen in valid written truth.
....still waiting..

The Ignorance of Celebrity Followers Adopting Children


The Ignorance of Celebrity Followers Adopting Children

Potential Adoptive parents stand one hundred people deep
waiting in line to snatch up someone else's baby.
Although the child belongs to his parents he will be taken
regardless of the mothers protest and sold to the highest bidders.

The celebrity trend setting is not as detestable as the followers.
The american stupidity follow what celebrities do, like religious
cattle following the religious hate because the church endorses it. But Jesus would never steal other peoples children and pass them off as his own legal child as Americans do.
Celebrities began sporting lapdogs, monkeys and moved up
to children. The following public made saints out of celebrities
who stole children from poor countries. The president set by
these celebrities caused a free for all of Americans going abroad
to adopt. The self delegated humanity of the year awards come
with brown and yellow babies when the parents are white.
The celebrity behavior set in motion a terrible plague on families in third world countries who actually value their children.

Wednesday, June 5, 2013

Where Human Development Begins that are Deprived in the Adopted Child


Where Child Psychology and Human Development Begins

Adopted Children are Deprived of these basic needs.

All studies of human beginning begin at Attachment Theory.

Attachment theory describes the dynamics of long-term relationships between humans. Its most important tenet is that an infant needs to develop a relationship with at least one primary caregiver for social and emotional development to occur normally. Attachment theory explains how much the parents' relationship with the child influences development. Attachment theory is an interdisciplinary study encompassing the fields of psychologicalevolutionary, and ethological theory. Immediately after World War II, homeless and orphaned children presented many difficulties,[1] and psychiatrist and psychoanalyst John Bowlby was asked by the UN to write a pamphlet on the issue which he entitled maternal deprivation. Attachment theory grew out of his subsequent work on the issues raised.
Infants become attached to individuals who are sensitive and responsive in social interactions with them, and who remain as consistent caregivers for some months during the period from about six months to two years of age, this is known as sensitive responsiveness. Attachment theory and dependency needs, which is the vital, originally infantile needs for mothering, love, affection, shelter, protection, security, food, and warmth, place an important role within each other. When the infant begins to crawl and walk they begin to use attachment figures (familiar people) as a secure base to explore from and return to. Caregivers' responses lead to the development of patterns of attachment; these, in turn, lead to internal working models which will guide the individual's perceptions, emotions, thoughts and expectations in later relationships.[2] Separation anxiety or grief following the loss of an attachment figure is considered to be a normal and adaptive response for an attached infant. These behaviours may have evolved because they increase the probability of survival of the child.
Research by developmental psychologist Mary Ainsworth in the 1960s and 70s reinforced the basic concepts, introduced the concept of the "secure base" and developed a theory of a number of attachment patterns in infants: secure attachment, avoidant attachment and anxious attachment.[4] A fourth pattern, disorganized attachment, was identified later.
In the 1980s, the theory was extended to attachment in adults.[5] Other interactions may be construed as including components of attachment behaviour; these include peer relationships at all ages, romantic and sexual attraction, and responses to the care needs of infants or the sick and elderly. It is believed that those who don't experience secure attachment may develop a sensitivity to rejection in later relationships. 
In the early days of the theory, academic psychologists criticized Bowlby, and the psychoanalytic community ostracised him for his departure from psychoanalytical tenets;[7] however, attachment theory has since become "the dominant approach to understanding early social development, and has given rise to a great surge of empirical research into the formation of 
children's close relationships".[8] Later criticisms of attachment theory relate to temperament, the complexity of social relationships, and the limitations of discrete patterns for classifications. Attachment theory has been significantly modified as a result of empirical research, but the concepts have become generally accepted.[7] Attachment theory has formed the basis of new therapies and informed existing ones, and its concepts have been used in the formulation of social and childcare policies to support the early attachment relationships of children.[9] 
**There is a sensitive period during which it is highly desirable that selective attachments develop, but the time frame is broader and the effect less fixed and irreversible than first proposed. With further research, authors discussing attachment theory have come to appreciate that social development is affected by later as well as earlier relationships.[7] Early steps in attachment take place most easily if the infant has one caregiver, or the occasional care of a small number of other people.[24]According to Bowlby, almost from the first many children have more than one figure toward whom they direct attachment behaviour. These figures are not treated alike; there is a strong bias for a child to direct attachment behaviour mainly toward one particular person. Bowlby used the term "monotropy" to describe this bias.[26] Researchers and theorists have abandoned this concept insofar as it may be taken to mean that the relationship with the special figure differs qualitatively from that of other figures. Rather, current thinking postulates definite hierarchies of relationships
 Early experiences with caregivers gradually give rise to a system of thoughts, memories, beliefs, expectations, emotions, and behaviours about the self and others. This system, called the "internal working model of social relationships", continues to develop with time and experience.[28] Internal models regulate, interpret, and predict attachment-related behaviour in the self and the attachment figure. As they develop in line with environmental and developmental changes, they incorporate the capacity to reflect and communicate about past and future attachment relationships.[2] They enable the child to handle new types of social interactions; knowing, for example, that an infant should be treated differently from an older child, or that interactions with teachers and parents share characteristics. This internal working model continues to develop through adulthood, helping cope with friendships, marriage, and parenthood, all of which involve different behaviours and feelings.[28][29] The development of attachment is a transactional process. Specific attachment behaviours begin with predictable, apparently innate, behaviours in infancy. They change with age in ways that are determined partly by experiences and partly by situational factors.[30] As attachment behaviours change with age, they do so in ways shaped by relationships. A child's behaviour when reunited with a caregiver is determined not only by how the caregiver has treated the child before, but on the history of effects the child has had on the caregiver.[31][32]
Full page wikipedia.org/attachment_theory

Monday, June 3, 2013

White Parents Rank Number One in 2011 Child Maltreatment Report

ADOPTEE RAGE!                       General Child Abuse
The 2011 Child Maltreatment Study


This yearly accounting of the fifty states, report compilation
of child abuse in the United States. The graph illustrates the
white race being the highest in child abuse offenders:

Abusers by race:          Abusers by Relationship:
Hispanic...22.1%          Mother................253,107  36.8%
Black.......21.5%          Mother & Father...129,793  18.9%
Unknown..6.7%           Father.................130,670  19.0%
Multiple....3.8%           Father & other......6,150       0.9%
Indian......1.1%           Mother & Other.....38,792     5.7%
Asian.......0.2%                               Abused Children Per Year

Report Title: "The Severe Abuse Of Adopted Children And Death Of Adopted Children" A Yearly publication.


How many Adopted Children are murdered each year?
Why is this report overlooked by the media yearly?

Adopted Children's Abuse & Death Yearly Standard Report

The Committee appointed to update the yearly "Servere Abuse of Adopted Children and Death of Adopted Children" reports.
 This annual report isolates and identifies the demographic group of Adopted Children as separate and unique from the biological child population. Yearly reporting providing statistical data and confidential information and case files. The mandatory authority reporting, CPS, bureau, agency, state and federal cooperation. Many confidential resources, coagency effort to efficiently provide the correct data from all of the agencies representing each of the fifty states of the United States.

The annually compiled report lists the various definitions of abuse, neglect, beating, torture, psychological devastation,
too many detailed and grotesque accounts of Adopted Child torture and murder by adoptive parents.
The percentages, statistics and the one risk factor of being adopted for abuse, torture and death.

The yearly reports titled:
"The Severe Abuse of Adopted Children and Death of Adopted Children"
By the OFCO, Office of the Family and Children's Ombudsman.
Link: www.governor.wa.gov/ofco/severe_abuse_of_adopted_children_and_death_of_adopted_children.

How many Adopted Children have to die before any change?

Sunday, June 2, 2013

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"Sending the Problem Child Adoptee to Counselling" "Individuals Are Shaped By Their Caregivers In The First Three Years of Life"

Adoptee Rage!

Individuals are Shaped by The Caregivers in First 3 Years of Life

Individuals are shaped by their experiences with caregivers in the first three years of life. Used as a foundation for Object Relations Theory.    John Bowlby 
The Strange Situation experiment with infants involves a systematic process of leaving a child alone in a room in order to assess the quality of their parental bond.
Mary Ainsworth ...Attachment Theory.
Object Therapy
Individuals choose relationships that attempt to heal insecure attachments from childhood. Negative patterns established by their parents (object) are projected onto their partners.

Reasons Not to send a child to therapy

Psychotherapy can be adapted in ways that are accessible and developmentally appropriate for children. It is generally held to be one part of an effective strategy for some purposes and not for others. These are four purposes that are generally considered inappropriate or pointless reasons for placing a child in psychotherapy:
  • to determine why a child originally began misbehaving,
  • to improve the child's self-esteem,
  • to make up for inconsistent parenting, and
  • to make the child capable of coping with a parent's drug addiction, interpersonal relationships, or other serious dysfunction.
In addition to therapy for the child, or even instead of it, children may benefit if their parents speak to a therapist, take parenting classes, attend grief counseling, or take other actions to resolve stressful situations that affect the child.
"Send the problem child Adoptee to counselling"
The Parent's Denial
...That any parental behavior produces any problem.
In the parents self observation, they are honorable and
commendable for the hard work of parenting. 
By sending the problem child to therapy as a punishment
for bad behavior. The singled out problem child is formally acknowledged as the outsider in the family's ideology.
 The problem child is now and forever labeled mentally incompetent by the family due to counselling therapy.
The problem child is now expected to have learned behavior 
modification due to the expense and time driving the child to the counselling appointment. The child will be ridiculed and
repeatedly reminded of the cost of their therapy, Although
the child was forced into counseling the parent uses guilt to
shame the child. The parent's generation and continues today
is the preconceived notion that counseling is for the mentally ill,
and the next stop for someone in therapy is institutionalization.
  One unexpected occurrence is the therapist's recognition of
family dysfunction. The problem child is given empathy, tools 
and told that they are not a problematic or defective person.
When a child in therapy is truthful about family life, real growth
begins to form and the child learns to work around the family.
The child is for the first time given hope for themselves.   

Saturday, June 1, 2013

"Letting Go" Means to Forget, to Ignore and Believe Adoption Never Happend


The phrase "Letting Go" Is Most Insulting to Adoptees 

What it means to an Adoptee...Is to forget, To make believe
Adoption never happen and to Ignore everything in between.

The more degrading phrase used by adoptive parents to justify the Adoptee's search for identity is "Finding Closure"., The phrase "finding closure" is quite the opposite in the mind of the Adoptee. We are actually opening a new chapter of our lives in the search for who we are, when living the phony identity no longer can bared.