About Adoptee Rage

Statistics Identify large populations of Adoptees in prisons, mental hospitals and committed suicide.
Fifty years of scientific studies on child adoption resulting in psychological harm to the child and
poor outcomes for a child's future.
Medical and psychological attempts to heal the broken bonds of adoption, promote reunions of biological parents and adult children. The other half of attempting to repair a severed Identity is counselling therapy to rebuild the self.

Friday, March 29, 2013

Adoptee's Genealogical Bewilderment

Basic adoption Research reflects a large percent of adopted
children reach the adolescent stage beyond identity formation,
and can not move forward due to the reality of their false identity.  The Adoptee's younger, and smarter mind can not properly process the unrealistic disinformation of genealogy.

Tuesday, March 26, 2013

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Friday, March 22, 2013

Passive Aggressive Behavior in Adoptive Parents

Adoptee Rage.....Healing by acknowledging the child's past.

Continued Psychology Pages on Behavior that effects others.

Passive Aggressive adoptive parents

Causes: Passive-aggressive disorder may stem from a specific childhood stimulus[9] (e.g., alcohol/drug addicted parents) in an environment where it was not safe to express frustration or anger. Families in which the honest expression of feelings is forbidden tend to teach children to repress and deny their feelings and to use other channels to express their frustration.
Children who sugarcoat hostility may have difficulties being assertive. Never developing better coping strategies or skills for self-expression, they can become adults who, beneath a "seductive veneer", "harbor vindictive intent", in the words of a US congressman psychologist and a writer/practicing therapist.[10] Alternatively individuals may simply have difficulty being as directly aggressive or assertive as others. Martin Kantor suggests three areas that contribute to passive-aggressive anger in individuals: conflicts about dependency, control, and competition.[11]
Murphy and Oberlin also see passive aggression as part of a larger umbrella of hidden anger stemming from ten traits of the angry child or adult. These traits include making one's own misery, the inability to analyze problems, blaming others, turning bad feelings into mad ones, attacking people, lacking empathy, using anger to gain power, confusing anger with self-esteem, and indulging in negative self-talk. Lastly, the authors point out that those who hide their anger can be nice when they wish to be. [12]


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Thursday, March 21, 2013

Adoption's Festering Wound

Adoptee Rage..............No longer Suffering In Silence.

The Festering Wound of Adoption
     The overtelling that your child is adopted to the point of humiliation.
Verbal abuse feels like any other punishment rendered
by an angry mother, except when she uses the word adoption
as she screams at you. When being introduced to strangers,
the word adopted comes before your name so many times,
your brain begins to process the word "Adoption" as your first name. The mother tells you about some friend of her's
adopted child, that you should be friends with because you are adopted. The adoption sign has been shoved in my face throughout my forced childhood too many times. It is like saying
here is Kathy, she is retarded. This is Retarded, she is Kathy.
The adoption title has been abused at me to the point of public
humiliation. And that is a factual summary of my humiliation,
saying this is not my biological child. I would prefer She is a bastard,  born out of wedlock. It is the same cruelty to an already unstable young individual....to bear the burden of being adopted.    



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Sunday, March 17, 2013

The Narcissistic Parent, Parental Narcissism, Abuse in the Narcissistic Home

Adoptee Rage        Narcissistic Parent's Abuse

The Narcissistic Parent is a cruel, manipulative and emotionally
disturbed caregiver that negatively influences a growing child to the point of psychosis. To survive childhood leaves the young person enters adulthood without necessary relevant knowledge and life skills. The intentional retardation of emotional well being
by narcissistic parent, which is of no concern to a narcissist.
The child is reluctant to display emotion, misunderstands,  misuses and inappropriate use of their emotions. Children of narcissistic mothers adapt to the changing behaviors with great seriousness. The Bipolar type of mood swings can be set off by a child's lack of conforming to the current situation of the parent. The child's growing need for independence is met with abuse and punishment. The self consumed narcissist will punish a child for not being greatful for an expensive meal although the rest of the evening is in the bar drinking (not age appropriate). The many hours that a child spends in a cocktail lounge seemed like the punishment to the child, but the punishment comes later.
The growing up and independence of a child send the message of fear to the controlling parent. But the fear message is true about the child's impending age and plans to run far away from the mother grow daily inside the child. The flight response plan is a guarantee that the child has kept himself mentally intact and sees the possibility of freedom away from the parent.




The U.S. Department of Justice defines emotionally abusive traits as including causing fear by intimidation, threatening physical harm to self, partner, children, or partner's family or friends, destruction of pets and property, forcing isolation from family, friends, or school or work.[4]
Straus and Field [21] report that psychological aggression is a pervasive trait of American families: "verbal attacks on children, like physical attacks, are so prevalent as to be just about universal". A 2008 study by English, et al.[22] found that fathers and mothers were equally likely to be verbally aggressive towards their children.
















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Monday, March 11, 2013

Reasons Mothers Give Children Away

Adoptee Rage                "Reasons to give up baby"

The adoptee's ponders their inadequacy as infants. I have read
over and again that when adopted children reach the time of
concept understanding, they want to know why. They want to know about the circumstances that lead to their adoption. I
personally never thought about why, It just is in my case.
Through the get-to-know-you process of reconciliation, I never
thought to ask. My aunt explains that her father was controlling
and dominant, Yet grandfathers rarely raise children except in the case of the story "Heidy". My mother was a legal adult and self sufficient living in another state when she got knocked up. I use this term because it is degrading, tacky and lacking in intelligence. My half brother is a year younger than me, so there may be multiple knock-ups. She married my brother's father and career in circuit factory. No excuse of educational pursuit.
She just did not want her first born child. My father and grandmother wanted me attempting military legal assistance for my custody ended in failure. At that time I was living as a foster care system dependent. As A ward of the state, and four foster homes later during the time when my father and grandmother's lawyer was requesting information from the county of SanDiego.
The most disturbing thing about my mother is her lack of human
compassion. Maybe it is a racial thing, A white woman giving birth to a Cherokee Indian child.  My brother and his wife got knocked up very young and chose adoption. My mother was strongly against adoption, and never let her secret out until I appeared....Very disturbing person.  

Do not base your future on time-frame social protocols.
There are never good reasons to abandon your offspring.
The abandoned child will return someday to know from whom they belong. The time in abandonment distorts and injures a baby's well being forever. The broken child now adult returns at a fraction of their potential. In the twenty second century we have the scientific knowledge to determine fertility and control fertility. Responsible people don't get pregnant without wanting
a family. Accidents happen and some change the world forever.
    
Adopted children want to know why they were abandoned.
What was so terrible about your baby, to abandon it?
The old reliable phrase "for a better life" does not apply
to adopted children, as the abandonment at birth is scientifically
proven to scar a child for life. The millions of broken people
surviving adoption seem to have a key part missing.
"Money" Is not a valid reason as all people with children are
broke and getting by. Family support or lack of, does not work
either as raising a child is the mother's job and family support or interference matters not to an adult person who lives their life.
 The argument for out of marriage pregnancy is no excuse to abandon your baby. Half of the population would be adopted
if the religious standard of marriage then pregnancy was law.
A good reason is You don't like children, but when you grow your own child and that child emerges belonging to you it is precious and astounding. Your life is changed forever in your best interest.

 Abandon,Auction,Lost, Desert,Maroon,Discard,Disuse, renounce

Tuesday, March 5, 2013

The Corruption In Child Protection Service Organization

Adoptee Rage                    



 Child Protection Service Corruption, Not exclusive to politicians.

 The consequences created out of human decision making and financial compensation. Individuals with access to large government revenue accounts in tax supported organizations. The opportunity to create and distort facts, discrete cover of action and the unique position of public authority to financial gain and personal benefit.

The perversion of the truth is common and expected of political
campaigns. A significant portion of the U.S. population is ignorant by
laziness, relying on biased broadcast information that is not based on fact.
Politically, this target group is reliable population of voters who are easily manipulated and provide predictable
election outcomes.
The practice of intentional deception and distorted public knowledge is proof that manipulating public understanding perpetuates the corruption and abuse of power is successful and is acceptable behavior even when children are victims of the system created to protect them.



 poster-child

Child Protection Service's Failure to Children

Adoptee Rage        CPS Investigation Proves government SSHA
                            Is governed by financial incentives.
Gorgia State Senator Nancy Schaefer's Report

Child Protective Services


Nancy Schaefer

Georgia State Senator Nancy Schaefer published a report "The Corrupt Business of Child Protective Services" making many claims against CPS including:[47]
  • Unfair judgement of families, especially those most unable to defend themselves. Without compassion, unreasonable and impossible demands that separate families and cause stress are made of parents.
  • Local governments accustomed to resulting flow of taxpayer dollars to balance growing budgets routinely ignore charges against Child Protective Services. Funding continues as long as children are out of their home, adoption bonuses are also available, but no incentive remains to return children home.
  • On top of $4000–$6000 per child is a multiplying factor based on the percentage that a state exceeds its baseline adoption goal.
  • Bonuses and incentives cause employees to work diligently to exploit children for government money while parents are charged for the cost of their care. Fraud, fabrication, withholding, and destroying of evidence, unnecessary termination of parental rights, and double dipping are common while confidentiality clause is used to protect the beneficiaries.
  • Beneficiaries include state employees, lawyers, court investigators, guardian ad litems, court personnel, judges, psychologists, psychiatrists, counselors, caseworkers, therapists, foster parents, adoptive parents, and others. Incentives to put children on more drugs per day involve additional funds and Medicaid.
  • Parents are sometimes pressured by CPS agents to divorce their spouse in order to see their children again. Parental cooperation is often interpreted as guilt, and parents separated from their children are treated as criminals often without access to visit or even see their children.
  • Child protective services is a wasteful bureaucracy with no clear leader and unclear policies. State legislators are generally powerless to correct the federally mandated system.
  • Tragedies happen where children die in CPS custody due to neglect or abuse while parents are trying hard to regain 
  • Tragedies happen where children die in CPS custody due to neglect or abuse while parents are trying hard to regain custody of their children. Such tragedies should never happen.
  • While CPS claims relatives are contacted, there are very many cases that proves false, where grandparents and other relatives attempt to get custody and are denied. Parents and grandparents lose all connections to their heirs while children lose their heritage.
  • The California Little Hoover Commission Report in 2003 reported that 30% to 70% of the children in California group homes neither belong there nor should have been removed from their own homes.
  • Children are in far greater danger in CPS custody today than in imperfect homes. The National Center on Child Abuse and Neglect reported in 1998 that six times as many children died in foster care than in the general public. Children removed to official “safety” are far more likely to suffer sexual molestation and other abuse than in the general population.
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Saturday, March 2, 2013

Adoption Cycle Ends in Biological Reunion

Adoptee Rage               Buying a Childhood








The Cycle of Adoption: Birth, adoption, raising, adulthood, Biological Reunion.

In literature to promote adoption of children, Officials use
the word "Permanence" in a situation that is "Temporary".

Adoption is the raising of a child to the legal age 18.

Adoption is the buying of a Childhood, birth to 10+ years.
Birth to adolescence is only 3/4 of the way to independence.
Adolescence is the time a child develops self awareness.
Adoptive Parents claim adolescence is when the child turns Bad
because they become independent at that age, and are too large
to be dominated and controlled.

Adopted Child Sent to Therapy...The Identified Patient

Adoptee Rage

The Adoptee sent to counselling....."The Identified Patient"

For further reading: (key words) Identified Patient, (IP)

Parents will never admit that they are responsible for the problems propagated in their home, creating the dysfunction of the child from the families (parent) neglect.

The problem adopted child, applies to all adopted children nearing age 10 to adolescence. When they are transitioning from dependent to independent. Questions of the reality of adoptees of: Who am I, Where do I come from and Why was I thrown away? The worst is What did I do that was so bad that I was given away to these freaky people? Questions that the adoptee is not allowed to voice or ponder except in silence. To voice these real thoughts and feelings will be met with anger,
punishment and may promote the adoption relationship to edge possibly ending or fastening the ending of the parent child liability.


Identified patient, or "IP", is a term used in a clinical setting to describe the person in a dysfunctional family who has been subconsciously selected to act out the family's inner conflicts as a diversion; who is the split-off carrier of the (perhaps transgenerational) family disturbance.[1]
The term is also used in the context of organizational management, in circumstances where an individual becomes the carrier of a group problem.[2]



Bad Parenting of Adopted Children,Dysfunctional Parenting of Adopted Children

Adoptee Rage    Dysfunctional Parenting of Adopted Children



  • Punishment based - Punishment based parenting uses pain, punishment, intimidation, yelling, degradation, humiliation, shame, guilt, or other things that can hurt a child's self-esteem or hurt them physically. Their emotional growth and well being are affected greatly.
dysfunctional family is a family in which conflict, misbehavior, and often child neglect or abuse on the part of individual parents occur continually and regularly, leading other members to accommodate such actions. Children sometimes grow up in such families with the understanding that such an arrangement is normal. Dysfunctional families are primarily a result ofco-dependent adults, and may also be affected by addictions, such as substance abuse (alcoholdrugs, etc.), or sometimes an untreated mental illness.[1] Dysfunctional parents may emulate or over-correct from their own dysfunctional parents. In some cases, a "child-like" parent will allow the dominant parent to abuse their children.[1]

A common misperception of dysfunctional families is the mistaken belief that the parents are on the verge of separation and divorce. While this is true in a few cases, often the marriage bond is very strong as the parents' faults actually complement each other. In short, they have nowhere else to go. However, this does not necessarily mean the family's situation is stable. Any major stressor, such as relocation, unemployment/underemployment, physical or mental illness, natural disaster, etc. can cause existing conflicts affecting the children to become much worse.[2]
Dysfunctional families have no social, financial or intellectual bounds. Nevertheless, until recent decades the concept of a dysfunctional family was not taken seriously by professionals (therapists, social workers, teachers, counselors, clergy, etc.), especially among the middle and upper classes. Any intervention would have been seen as violating the sanctity of marriage and increasing the probability of divorce, which was socially unacceptable at the time. Historically, children of dysfunctional families were expected to obey their parents (ultimately the father), and cope with the situation alone.[3]

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These features occur in most dysfunctional families:
  • Lack of empathy, understanding, and sensitivity towards certain family members, while expressing extreme empathy towards one or more members (or even pets) who have real or perceived "special needs". In other words, one family member continuously receives far more than he or she deserves, while another is marginalized.
  • Denial (refusal to acknowledge abusive behavior, possibly believing that the situation is normal or even beneficial; also known as the "elephant in the room.")
  • Inadequate or missing boundaries for self (e.g., tolerating inappropriate treatment from others, failing to express what is acceptable and unacceptable treatment, tolerance of physical, emotional or sexual abuse.)
  • Disrespect of others' boundaries (e.g. physical contact that other person dislikes; breaking important promises without just cause; purposefully violating a boundary another person has expressed)
  • Extremes in conflict (either too much fighting or insufficient peaceful arguing between family members)
  • Unequal or unfair treatment of one or more family members due to their birth order, gender, age, family role (mother, etc.), abilities, racecaste, etc. (may include frequent appeasement of one member at the expense of others, or an uneven enforcement of rules)
dysfunctional families:
  • Abnormally high levels of jealousy or other controlling behaviors
  • Conflict influenced by marital status:
    • between divorced or separated parents, usually related to, or arising from their breakup
    • conflict between parents who remain married, often for the "perceived" sake of the children, but whose separation or divorce would in fact remove a detrimental influence on those children (must be evaluated on a case-by-case basis, as breakup may harm children)
    • parents who wish to divorce, but cannot due to financial, societal (including religious), or legal reasons
  • Children afraid to talk (within or outside the family) about what is happening at home, or are otherwise fearful of their parents
  • Abnormal sexual behavior such as adulterypromiscuity, or incest
  • Lack of time spent together, especially in recreational activities and social events ("We never do anything as a family")
  • Family members (including children) who disown each other, and/or refuse to be seen together in public (either unilaterally or bilaterally)

Specific examples

In many cases, the following would cause a family to be dysfunctional:
  • Families with older parents or immigrant parents who cannot cope with changing times or a different culture
  • A parent of the same sex never intercedes in father–daughter/mother–son relations on behalf of the child
  • Children who have no contact with the extended family of their mother or father due to disharmony, disagreement,prejudicefeuding, etc.
  • Going beyond mere disagreement, an intense schism between family members regarding religion and/or ideology (for example: parents support their country being at war, while children do not)

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Unhealthy parenting signs

List of unhealthy parenting signs which could lead to a family becoming dysfunctional:[5]

"Kids as pawns"

This occurs when a parent manipulates a child to achieve some negative result in the other parent, rather than communicating with them directly. Examples include verbal manipulation, gossip, trying to obtain information through the child (spying), or causing the child to dislike the other parent. There is no concern whatsoever for the damaging effects it has on children. While such manipulation is often prevalent in shared custody situations (due to separation or divorce), it can also take place in intact families, and is known as triangulation.

[edit]List of other dysfunctional parenting styles

  • "Using" (destructively narcissistic parents who rule by fear and conditional love)
  • Abusing (parents who use physical violence, or emotionally, or sexually abuse their children)
  • Perfectionist (fixating on order, prestige, power, and/or perfect appearances, while preventing their child from failing at anything)
  • Dogmatic or cult-like (harsh and inflexible discipline, with children not allowed, within reason, to dissent, questionauthority, or develop their own value system)
  • Inequitable parenting (going to extremes for one child while continually ignoring the needs of another)
  • Deprivation (control or neglect by withholding love, support, necessities, sympathypraiseattention, encouragement,supervision, or otherwise putting their children's well-being at risk)
  • Abuse among siblings (parents fail to intervene when an older sibling physically or sexually abuses a younger sibling)
  • Abandonment (a parent who willfully separates from their children, not wishing any further contact, and in some cases without locating alternative, long-term parenting arrangements, leaving them as orphans)
  • Appeasement (parents who reward bad behavior—even by their own standards—and inevitability punish another child's good behavior in order to maintain the peace and avoid temper tantrums "Peace at any price")
  • Loyalty manipulation (giving unearned rewards and lavish attention trying to ensure a favored, yet rebellious child will be the one most loyal and well-behaved, while subtly ignoring the wants and needs of their most loyal child currently)
  • "Helicopter parenting" (parents who micro-manage their children's lives and/or relationships among siblings—especially minor conflicts)
  • "The deceivers" (well-regarded parents in the community, likely to be involved in some charitable/non-profit works, who abuse or mistreat one or more of their children)
  • "Public image manager" (sometimes related to above, children warned to not disclose what fights, abuse, or damage happens at home, or face severe punishment "Don't tell anyone what goes on in this family")
  • "The paranoid parent" (a parent having persistent and irrational fear accompanied by anger and false accusations that their child is up to no good or others are plotting harm)
  • "No friends allowed" (parents discourage, prohibit, or interfere with their child from making friends of the same age and gender)
  • Role reversal (parents who expect their minor children to take care of them instead)
  • "Not your business" (children continuously told that a particular brother or sister who is often causing problems is none of their concern)
  • Ultra-egalitarianism (either a much younger child is permitted to do whatever an older child may, or an older child must wait years until a younger child is mature enough)
  • "The guard dog" (a parent who blindly attacks family members perceived as causing the slightest upset to their esteemed spouse, partner, or child)
  • "My baby forever" (a parent who will not allow one or more of their young children to grow up and begin taking care of themselves)
  • "The cheerleader" (one parent "cheers on" the other parent who is simultaneously abusing their child)
  • "Along for the ride" (a reluctant de factostepfoster, or adoptive parent who does not truly care about their non-biological child, but must co-exist in the same home for the sake of their spouse or partner) See also: Cinderella effect
  • "The politician" (a parent who repeatedly makes or agrees to children's promises while having little to no intention of keeping them)
  • "It's taboo" (parents rebuff any questions children may have about sexuality, pregnancy, romance, puberty, certain areas of human anatomy, nudity, etc.)
  • Identified patient (one child, usually selected by the mother, who is forced into going to therapy while the family's overall dysfunction is kept hidden)
  • Münchausen syndrome by proxy (a much more extreme situation than above, where the child is intentionally made ill by a parent seeking attention from physicians and other professionals)
  • Role reversal (parents who expect their minor children to take care of them instead)
  • "Not your business" (children continuously told that a particular brother or sister who is often causing problems is none of their concern)
  • Ultra-egalitarianism (either a much younger child is permitted to do whatever an older child may, or an older child must wait years until a younger child is mature enough)
  • "The guard dog" (a parent who blindly attacks family members perceived as causing the slightest upset to their esteemed spouse, partner, or child)
  • "My baby forever" (a parent who will not allow one or more of their young children to grow up and begin taking care of themselves)
  • "The cheerleader" (one parent "cheers on" the other parent who is simultaneously abusing their child)
  • "Along for the ride" (a reluctant de factostepfoster, or adoptive parent who does not truly care about their non-biological child, but must co-exist in the same home for the sake of their spouse or partner) See also: Cinderella effect
  • "The politician" (a parent who repeatedly makes or agrees to children's promises while having little to no intention of keeping them)
  • "It's taboo" (parents rebuff any questions children may have about sexuality, pregnancy, romance, puberty, certain areas of human anatomy, nudity, etc.)
  • Identified patient (one child, usually selected by the mother, who is forced into going to therapy while the family's overall dysfunction is kept hidden)
  • Münchausen syndrome by proxy (a much more extreme situation than above, where the child is intentionally made ill by a parent seeking attention from physicians and other professionals)

    Dynamics

    • The isolated family member (either a parent or child up against the rest of the otherwise united family)
    • Parent vs. parent (frequent fights amongst adults, whether married, divorced, or separated, conducted away from the children)
    • The polarized family (a parent and one or more children on each side of the conflict)
    • Parents vs. kids (generation gap or culture shock dysfunction)
    • The balkanized family (named after the three-way war in the Balkans where alliances shift back and forth)
    • Free-for-all (a family that fights in a free-for-all style, though may become polarized when range of possible choices is limited)

    [edit]Children


    Unlike divorce, and to a lesser extent, separation, there is often no record of an "intact" family being dysfunctional. As a result, friends, relatives, and teachers of such children may be completely unaware of the situation. In addition, a child may be unfairly blamed for the family's dysfunction, and placed under even greater stress than those whose parents separate.

    [edit]The six basic roles

    Children growing up in a dysfunctional family have been known to adopt one or more of these six basic roles:[11]
    • The Good Child (also known as the Hero): a child who assumes the parental role.
    • The Problem Child or Rebel (also known as the Scapegoat): the child who is blamed for most problems related to the family's dysfunction, in spite of often being the only emotionally stable one in the family.
    • The Caretaker: the one who takes responsibility for the emotional well-being of the family.
    • The Lost Child: the inconspicuous, quiet one, whose needs are usually ignored or hidden.
    • The Mascot: uses comedy to divert attention away from the increasingly dysfunctional family system.
    • The Mastermind: the opportunist who capitalizes on the other family members' faults in order to get whatever he or she wants. Often the object of appeasement by grown-ups.

    [edit]Effects on children

    Children of dysfunctional families, either at the time, or as they grow older, may also:[11]
    • lack the ability to be playful, or childlike, and may "grow up too fast"; conversely they may grow up too slowly, or be in a mixed mode (e.g. well-behaved, but unable to care for themselves)
    • have moderate to severe mental health issues, including possible depressionanxiety,[12] and suicidal thoughts
    • become addicted to smoking, alcohol, and/or drugs, especially if parents or friends have done the same
    • bully or harass others, or be an easy victim thereof (possibly taking a dual role in different settings)
    • be in denial regarding the severity of the family's situation
    • have mixed feelings of love–hate towards certain family members
    • become a sex offender, possibly including pedophilia.[13]
    • have difficulty forming healthy relationships within their peer group (usually due to shyness or a personality disorder)
    • spend an inordinate amount of time alone watching television, playing video games, surfing the Internet, listening to music, and other activities which lack in-person social interaction
    • feel angryanxiousdepressed, isolated from others, or unlovable
    • have a speech disorder (related to emotional abuse)[14]
    • distrust others or even have paranoia
    • become a juvenile delinquent and turn to a life of crime (with or without dropping out of school), and possibly become agang member as well
    • struggle academically at school or academic performance declines unexpectedly
    • have low self-esteem or a poor self image with difficulty expressing emotions
    • rebel against parental authority, or conversely, uphold their family's values in the face of peer pressure, or even try to take an impossible "middle ground" that pleases no one
    • think only of themselves to make up the difference of their childhoods (as they are still learning the balance of self-love)
    • have little self-discipline when parents are not around, such as compulsive spendingprocrastinating too close to deadlines, etc. (unfamiliar and seemingly lax "real-world" consequences vs. familiar parental consequences)
    • find an (often abusive) spouse or partner at a young age, and/or run away from home
    • become pregnant and/or a parent of illegitimate children
    • be at risk of becoming poor or homeless, even if the family is already wealthy or middle-class
    • have auto-destructive or potentially self-damaging behaviors
    • join a cult to find the acceptance they never had at home, or at a minimum, have differing philosophical/religious beliefsfrom what they were previously taught
    • strive (as young adults) to live far away from particular family members or the family as a whole
    • perpetuate dysfunctional behaviors in other relationships (especially their own children)
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