About Adoptee Rage

Statistics Identify large populations of Adoptees in prisons, mental hospitals and committed suicide.
Fifty years of scientific studies on child adoption resulting in psychological harm to the child and
poor outcomes for a child's future.
Medical and psychological attempts to heal the broken bonds of adoption, promote reunions of biological parents and adult children. The other half of attempting to repair a severed Identity is counselling therapy to rebuild the self.

Saturday, January 26, 2013

The Psychological Work Adoptee's Require

Adoptee Rage

The Psychological Work Adoptee's Require

Most all adopted children are sent to a counselor to FIX them.
The problem of adopted children is not their external behavior.
The way in which adoptee's interact with their caregiver, adoptive parent, school etc... This biologically based problem that will never go away.
The term "In The Best Interest of the child" Is an advertising catch phrase to promote adoption. Adoption is not in the best interest of a child with a healthy living parent or family. The perception that a baby is a blank slate and will not remember
her family, and can not argue her case in court makes adopting a baby an easy target, which built the disreputable unscrupulous adoption industry that benefits from the suffering of children.
For an orphaned child or foster children who request adoption.
There is no adoption accountability in this country.

There is a great price to the child's potential when removing the child for adoption. Stealing a baby from her live biological mother to be adopted by a non biological stranger. The impact to the child from predictable, studied and guaranteed detrimental effects in the child's identity, health and future disparities.
The cost to the child is selfishly overlooked by anxious want-to-be parents. Who can only see what they want and that they lack
a baby. The compounded psychological effects from infertility, stillbirth or child death. "The Replacement Child" syndrome has also been a clinically documented problem given to adopted children on top of their own challenges, becoming a replacement child will have dramatic side effects for the adopted child to bare.

The cause and effect from intentionally
removing a newborn child away from it's mother, which is the infant's environment, world. The child's exists inside the mother's womb forty weeks. The birth is a transition to the outside the mother's womb. For the next 4-5 years while the mother nurtures the infant child still at center to the mother. The mother encourages the child in exploring the environment while developing independence and the child's own unique personal identity. The mother and her close proximity is what constitutes the normal, natural, loving, growing and healthful child existence.

Sigmund Frued's     On Counseling Therapy:

Psychoanalysis is a psychological and psychotherapeutic theory conceived in the late 19th and early 20th centuries by Austrian neurologist Sigmund Freud. Psychoanalysis has expanded, been criticized and developed in different directions, mostly by some of Freud's colleagues and students, such as Alfred AdlerCarl Gustav Jungand Wilhelm Reich, and later by neo-Freudians such as Erich Fromm,Karen HorneyHarry Stack Sullivan and Jacques Lacan.
The basic tenets of psychoanalysis include the following:
  1. beside the inherited constitution of personality, a person's development is determined by events in early childhood;
  2. human behavior, experience, and cognition are largely determined by irrational drives;
  3. those drives are largely unconscious;
  4. attempts to bring those drives into awareness meet psychological resistance in the form of defense mechanisms;
  5. conflicts between conscious and unconscious (repressed) material can result in mental disturbances such as neurosis, neurotic traits, anxiety, depression etc.;
  6. conscious mind (via e.g. skilled guidance).[1]
  7. Under the broad umbrella of psychoanalysis there are at least 22 theoretical orientations regarding human mental development. The various approaches in treatment called "psychoanalysis" vary as much as the theories do. The term also refers to a method of studying child development.
    Freudian psychoanalysis refers to a specific type of treatment in which the "analysand" (analytic patient) verbalizes thoughts, including free associationsfantasies, and dreams, from which the analyst induces the unconscious conflicts causing the patient's symptoms and character problems, and interprets them for the patient to create insight for resolution of the problems. The analyst confronts and clarifies the patient's pathological defenses, wishes and guilt. Through the analysis of conflicts, including those contributing to resistance and those involving transference onto the analyst of distorted reactions, psychoanalytic treatment can hypothesize how patients unconsciously are their own worst enemies: how unconscious, symbolic reactions that have been stimulated by experience are causing symptoms.
    Psychoanalysis has been criticized on numerous fronts, including the view that it constitutes pseudoscience, but it remains influential within psychiatry.[2]



Sunday, January 20, 2013

New Challenges of Adoption Law's Infantcy

The Known and published clause stating that "adoption law is in its infancy" and future challenges will shape these statutes legally.

The shaping of fair and unbiased laws must be now challenged to
inject impartiality by representatives of the product that is without
voice in adoption family court.
The unrepresented and silenced corner of the adoption triangle is not only bought and sold at the whims of financially stable adults.
The poor or those lacking in resources will always be legally disadvantaged.
Facts from previous statutes, tort and case law:

#1.  Right afforded Adoptive Parents, beyond Civil Rights
     A.  The right to legally adopt non-biological children.
     B.  The legal right to return adopted children.
     C.  The legal right to financial recovery from adoption.
     D. Legally reject adopted child due to mental or physical DEFECT.
     E. The legal right do divorce the spouse.
     F.  Without Legal discourse of qualified adoption contract.
#3.  The Adoptee (adopted minor child) No Civil rights.
#4. Biological Mother, Civil Rights, Adoption Rights:
      A. Legal right to terminate parental rights.                                                                        
      B. Legal right to reverse termination of parental rights.
      C. Legal right to privacy from biological children.
          1.Humphers v. First Interstate Bank 696 P. 2nd 527 Oregon
#5  Biological Father, Civil Rights, Adoption Rights:
  A.  Legal right to terminate parental rights.
  B.  Legal right to reverse termination parental rights.
  B.  The right to privacy from biological children.
  C.  Legal right to parent Biological offspring.
       1. Supreme court challenge


The Joke of Talking About Adoption

Adoptee Rage

Talking About Adoption

Talking about adoption is like an seeing an acquaintance who asks you "how are you?" The expectation is to say "fine".
To publicly deviate from this agreeable dialog is considered
rude and too much personal information given to a stranger
might signify the need to respond from a person who is just being polite and adhering to the social norms of society.

The adopted child and adoptive parent dynamic is an entirely
different paradox of expectation necessity of submissive speech. accepted predictable physical behavior of the adoptee.

The "Telling" and talking about adoption is sugar coated
with lies. The unspoken expectation of adoption children
to remain silent and act gracious to their adoptive parents
or they will endure the consequences of the wrath of an angry
rejected parent. Adoptee's are groomed early in their role as
an adopted child. Due to the fact that adopted children are not natural to the family environment, fictional adaptations are made to compensate the forced reality. In the tradition of permanently changing a child's name, the shaping of a new child out of an unwanted one. The customization of a child to meet the expectations of the parent and fit the new position created in a new family structure.
The adopted child is programmed to respond specifically to their trained commands. A mother expects her child to give her the appreciation and respect she deserves from her personal sacrifice of taking in the child and it's charitable role in to home and life. The social awareness that an upstanding citizen chooses to go beyond the normal charitable donation of time and money. The church member that dedicates more time and far more effort  than her neighbor's contributions. The adoptive mother is deserving of public recognition, awards and respect for dedicated long term service to her community. The child learns early which responses produce favorable results and speech that renders punishment. This particular venue of responding to a parent's questions is simple cause and effect and is black and white from a child's point of view. Adopted children are not encouraged to explore their environment in the way naturally born children are regarded. Adopted children are acquired to fill a position and the position is pre conceived by the adoptive parent. The adoptive parent does not raise the child to become independent. The
adopted child is a perpetual child in the eyes of the adoptive parent. The adoptee's purpose to the parent does not beyond childhood. The psychological perspective of the adoptive parent is sadly the perpetual child, and is forever seen as a the "baby I wanted".
 The loss of the small impressionable child, the young adult was not anticipated and the independence that accompanies adolescence distorts and diminishes the adoptive parent's charitable award winning status, which was long ago forgotten.

 When adoptee's reach adolescence, the point in life where a child naturally develops their personal identity, self awareness.
The adoptive parents will predictably react negatively to the dissenting behavior. The personal Identity is in direct conflict to
all the training by the adoptive parent. This identity threatens
the adoptive parent and is reflective of sinister contempt of a submissive child.
Adoptive parents view the growing independence in their child as dangerous evolving change that may destroy the master servant relationship of adopted child ownership.

Saturday, January 19, 2013

The Lame Adoption Terminology of "Chosen"

Adoptee Rage
Adoption's Lame "Chosen" Terminology

Political correctness could be implied, as the specific vocabulary
designed to alter and hide the real appearance of adoption.

The ultimate of misconception designed to be used by too many stupid arrogant and ignorant adoptive parents. The only people who buy into the deception and they themselves believe that what they are saying is real. Like saying "I love you" after repeatedly slapping your face because the question addressed at you was answered with words that the parent does not want to hear. However when the parent throws in the I love you slang
after any injustice the parent feels excused from guilt.

We choose what we want to eat, choose what to wear, but
we can't choose our adopted baby. The social workers get to choose, not the parent!!!

The "Chosen baby", You were chosen, You were picked-out.
The purchase of a Cabbage-Patch doll at Walmart, complete
with birth certificate...But where are the doll's parents?

Chosen is a pleasant term to cover up the real and ugly truth of
why a child is currently available for distribution. The adoptive
parent does not get to choose which baby to bring home from the pet store. That term is a secondary lie. No matter how many
times it is said to an adoptee, the "chosen" term's only real use
is to belittle, humiliate and invalidate the adoptee's self-esteem.

Third Mom: When adoptive parenting becomes psychological abuse

Third Mom: When adoptive parenting becomes psychological abuse
Margie is excellent at conveying the truth about the dirty little and many secrets of adoption.

Friday, January 18, 2013

Wednesday, January 9, 2013

Adoptee's Invalidating Emotional Abuse Damages Our Adult Lives

Adoptee Rage:  Emotional Abuse Ruins Childhood and Future.

Invalidating Emotional Abuse Damages Our Adult Lives.

The study and report of effects from invalidation's abuse:

Very enlightening!