Adoptee Rage! This blog is written exclusively for the 38% of Abused and Neglected Adopted Children. The U.S. HHSA Identifies #1 Risk: Maltreatment, Child Abuse and Risk for Death In Adopted children. Childhood domination, Coping compensation. Research in Adoption Psychology, Developmental Trauma"The Adoption Paradox". By Rainstorm Red-Smith
About Adoptee Rage
Statistics Identify large populations of Adoptees in prisons, mental hospitals and committed suicide.
Fifty years of scientific studies on child adoption resulting in psychological harm to the child and
poor outcomes for a child's future.
Medical and psychological attempts to heal the broken bonds of adoption, promote reunions of biological parents and adult children. The other half of attempting to repair a severed Identity is counselling therapy to rebuild the self.
The narcissistic adoptive mother's unjustified torment of the
Rage by a narcissist adoptive parent (Mother) is directed towards the person that they feel has slighted them (the adoptive child). This rage impairs their cognition, therefore impairing their judgement. During the rage, they are prone to shouting, fact distortion and making groundless false accusations against the innocent adoptive child.
False accusations (or groundless accusations or unfounded accusations or false allegations or false claims) can be in any of the following contexts:
Informally in everyday life the narcissist adoptive parent becomes enraged at the adoptive child's appearance, facial expression or child's body language. The narcissist adoptive parent's contempt for the adoptive child makes the unsuspecting adoptive child the everyday target from the shifts in attitude, whims, dissatisfaction, of the narcissist's behavior of bipolar psychological splitting.
Example: The narcissistic mother is having a New Years Eve party, her focused attitude on preparations has lasted throughout the day till all the guests have arrived. The extravagant narcissist mother is impeccably dressed at the height of her element, surrounded by guests she is the center of attention at her party. With the husband bartering she becomes annoyed at the lack of ice and goes to get more from the garage freezer. As she enters the garage she notices the 10 year old adopted female child sitting on the pile of laundry in the middle of the floor, and the 11 year old friend boy is perched on the washing machine, they say hello to the narcissist mother. The narcissist mother grabs the bag of ice and returns to the party. The narcissist mother returns to the garage and grabs the girl by the arm and begins to drag her into the center of the party. Everyone at the party stops as they hear the narcissist mother shrieking as she drags the adopted child through the party. The adopted child is horrified at being dragged through all the party people watching. The silent point where everyone is looking the mother yells "Tell your father what you did". The child doesn't know what has happen or why she was dragged. The mother repeatedly screams "Tell your father what you did" the child persists "I don't know what you want me to say". The father says for everyone to calm down, and the wife continues to verbally explode. The father looks to the boy and asks him what happen. The boy said we were sitting in the garage, he was on the washing machine and she was sitting over on the laundry. The boy whispered to the father that he had stolen two beers but he did not tell the girl, as he planned to drink the beer with her at midnight. The father says no problem about that and he could go back and hang out. The girl sobbing in humiliation was punished to sit at the kitchen counter for the rest of the night. The father exclaimed "Everybody- It's time for a new drink" and the party continued around the sobbing child sitting in the middle of the narcissist's party causing a somber tone of the previous happy drunk atmosphere of a new years eve party.
For adopted children growing up enduring daily disturbing circumstances of clear indifference of a parent's anger, hatred and malice toward the adopted child becomes unbearable. Suicide, running away or the parents disowning the child are the only outcomes in the 35% of wrongful adoptions. The adopted child has no options to grow, become independent and make mature decisions to distance themselves from the narcissist's web of deceit.
In retrospect of the above vol-ital situation the child lives in constant anxiety, fear and threat of the adoptive mother's anger, and is in perpetual mercy of the narcissist's rage.
What....Can the child do, survive...to become the next serial killer.
Where...Can the child go, legally nowhere.
When....Can the child escape at age 18.
Why....Can't the child fight back, would end in a near death beating.
How....Can the child live without compromising psychological health.
There are no answers for the adoptive child of narcissist mother, only survive.