About Adoptee Rage

Statistics Identify large populations of Adoptees in prisons, mental hospitals and committed suicide.
Fifty years of scientific studies on child adoption resulting in psychological harm to the child and
poor outcomes for a child's future.
Medical and psychological attempts to heal the broken bonds of adoption, promote reunions of biological parents and adult children. The other half of attempting to repair a severed Identity is counselling therapy to rebuild the self.

Friday, December 27, 2013

The Damages to Adoptive Children of Narcissist Parenting



In this article the psychoanalyst identifies two very serious injuries to the child's developing self, is deliberately damaged by the narcissist parent.

1. The undeveloped sense of who they are (the child).
2. If the biological parent doesn't love the child, they are not worthy of being loved.
Now we must see the unacceptable adopted child who was not loved by the biological parent, Secondly is not loved by the substitute adoptive parent with narcissistic personality disorder. Narcissism is an unfortunate common quality of a large population of adoptive parents. The supporting evidence for the Adoption Paradox compounds the effects on adopted children in new ways with each inquiry.  "The Narcissistic Victim Syndrome" is the child's dysfunction created by the narcissist parent's utilization of the human child. 

Qualities of a Narcissist

Before you consider how narcissism affects children, it helps to recognize the condition. Narcissists are usually unresponsive to the needs of others, are self-absorbed, indifferent, lack empathy, are shallow, cannot relate to other people in a meaningful way, need much attention, consider themselves to be special, and are often arrogant and contemptuous -- not exactly the qualities of a nurturing and loving parent. Children cannot develop emotionally when a narcissist raises them, says Gudrun Zomerland, a licensed California marriage and family therapist. They wind up with an undeveloped sense of who they really are.

Not Good Enough

 Children raised by narcissists grow up believing they’re not worthy of being loved. If their own parents don’t love them, many children logically wonder who will. Children of narcissists figure that their parents might love them if only they were better looking, smarter or better athletes. It doesn’t occur to a child that the issue might lie with the parent. By the time the child matures enough to understand the parent’s dysfunction, the damage has already been done.