The Narcissistic Adoptive Mother's "Conditional Love of Duty"
For the narcissist adoptive mother that lives in denial, giving back the unwanted child is not a possibility, as the public scrutiny would become unbearable to the prize winning parent.
Love bombing is a narcissistic parents attempt to influence a child by lavish demonstrations of attention and affection that is inconsistent, conditional and used as a part of emotional blackmail. The phrase can be used in different ways. Members of the Unification church (who reportedly coined the expression) use or have used it themselves to mean a genuine expression of friendship, fellowship, interest, or concern. Psychologists use the phrase with the implication that the "love" is feigned and the practice is psychological manipulation. It has also been used to refer to abusers in parent child relationships, showering their victims with praise, gifts, and affection in the early stages of a dysfunctional parent relationship.