About Adoptee Rage

Statistics Identify large populations of Adoptees in prisons, mental hospitals and committed suicide.
Fifty years of scientific studies on child adoption resulting in psychological harm to the child and
poor outcomes for a child's future.
Medical and psychological attempts to heal the broken bonds of adoption, promote reunions of biological parents and adult children. The other half of attempting to repair a severed Identity is counselling therapy to rebuild the self.

Sunday, December 1, 2013

The Adopted Child Spells Disaster For The Family


Emotional abuse of an adopted child is commonly defined as a pattern of behavior by adoptive parents or caregivers that can seriously interfere with a child’s future cognitive, emotional, psychological or social development. Some adoptive parents may intentionally impose emotional and psychological harm on adopted children because of perceived indifference toward non-biologic child. The adopted child's illegitimate status is implied to mental defect in parents that are indifferent to adoption. Adoptive parents can become jealous or spiteful of the new baby and growing relationship between one parent can be viewed as a competition for the father's or mother's affection. 
Post Adoption Depression can emerge from the stress of the long adoption process that finally ends with the placement of the baby. The disappointing result of the daily routine of raising an adopted child without the natural, necessary and instinctive biological processes of maternally produced chemicals utilized in the mother's body during pregnancy, birth and post partum. Without the necessary biological changes that transform an individual lady to a mothering mentality that links the child and mother chemical biology. A non-pregnant woman adopting a baby does not have the chemicals to initiate, anticipate, communicate and inner awareness of her child's needs. She is not maternally inclined to care for the infant as the biological mother cares for her infant. The career oriented women is oriented to scheduling, appointments, and dedication to deadlines. An adopted child has been psychologically and physically injured by removal from the child's mother. The hostile child will repeatedly protest and reject the substitute mother, which will be seen as an act of defiance against all of the efforts of the adoptive mother to adopt a child and become a parent. The initial resistance of the child causes the mother to mistrust, become suspicious and apprehensive to the needy crying baby. When relatives, babysitters or social workers are easily able to handle, feed and interact with the child, the substitute mother becomes envious, angry and resentful of the bad newborn child's behavior to strangers yet resists the court labeled new mother's attempts to nurture and form attachment.  The adoptive mother's intolerance of the child grows, her depression morphs into anger and rage from the child's rejection. The family suffers post adoption in the lack of meals prepared, laundry piles up and household duties go on neglected.
The pre adoption family members become resentful of the non-cooperative child causing problems for everyone else as their needs go on un met by the distracted mother's depressive state. The husband and biological children become angry at the lack of the mother's attention, affection and household disruption. No one is happy, no one pitches in to help as the discontinuity grows the families blame points to the child. The change that caused the problem and future discontent of the family all caused by the adopted child outsider.
What Predicts Parental Abuse
stress, poor parenting skills, social isolation, lack of financial resources and inappropriate expectations of their children. They may emotionally abuse their children because the parents or caregivers were emotionally abused during their own childhood. Straus and Field report that psychological aggression, ostracizing and physical violence are pervasive traits of American families: "verbal attacks on children, like physical attacks, are so prevalent as to be just about universal. A 2008 study by English, et al.found that fathers and mothers were equally likely to be verbally aggressive towards their children.women are substantially more likely to exhibit psychological aggression. Similar findings have been reported in other studies. Strauss et al. found that female intimate partners in heterosexual relationships were more likely than males to use psychological aggression, including threats to hit or throw an object. A study of young adults by Giordano et al. found that females in intimate heterosexual relationships were more likely than males to threaten to use a knife or gun against their partner.