Relational Transgressions of Deception Against Adoptive Child
- Lies: making up information or giving information that is the opposite or very different from the truth.
- equlvocations: making an indirect, ambiguous, or contradictory statements to confuse the child's awareness of past events or truth.
- concealment: omitting information that is important or relevant to the given context, or engaging in behavior that helps hide relevant information.
- exaggerations: overstatement or stretching the truth to a degree.
- understatement: minimization or downplaying aspects of the truth.
The Manipulating Adoptive Parent Goals Of Controlling The Adoptive Child.
The adoptive child in it's infancy has provided submissive compliance to the demanding substitute parent. The problem emerging as the child grows and is exposed to exterior stimulation from school, teachers and adults that have serious impact to the controlled person's understanding of his environment. The adoptive child will at some point realize that the treatment he receives at home and school are vastly different as when he is at home he is not treated with normal regard by his adopted parents. At home the child is not treated good or kind, at school he receives the same good and standard treatment that all children are regarded kindly. The child begins to understand that in his home his parents treat him poorly but he is not treated bad at school.
- High investment in relationship (child has no other parent or support)
- Child views relationship as only commitment.
- The child fears being given back to adoption agency (Parent threats)
- The child's independence is disregarded by the parent
- Unjustified fear based alliance to the parent
- Assumes motives of parent are in best interest of child
- Child victim's willingness to apologize to make peace.