Attempts to Understanding the Narcissistic Adoptive Parent
The adult adoptee who is searching for the unknown cause
of their distortion, we must look to the beginning of life and the first six to ten years that created our present day circumstances. What we were subjected to from birth to around six years constitutes who we are now. The child's growing awareness through cognitive abilities that the child begins to comprehend, compare and manipulate his environment. With the child's exposure to preschool, playgrounds and interaction with people outside of the family circle, the child begins to notice how other parents and teachers treat children, themselves and the interaction with normal outside children give the adopted child a glimpse of how the world works and regards others with respect. The child now realizes that the home is quite different environment than the welcoming, safe and friendly place that is school. The total understanding of the difference between dysfunctional home and functional environment becomes difficult for most adults living in denial of the magnitude maladjustment
of which they live.
The adopted child must formulate a vast understanding of the severity of maladjustment and the conditional life lived by the adopted childhood through adult adoptee.
The Narcissistic Adoptive Parent
The specific form of the emotional abuse of adopted children by "narcissistic adoptive parents". Parents who do not value, nurture and support the child's independence and individuality, and require the child to give up their own identity, independence, desires, wants and feelings in order to forever serve the parent's wants, desires and needs for esteem, constitutes narcissistic abuse.
The term has also come to be used more widely to refer to common forms of child abuse in adoptive and step parent relationships on the part of the narcissist.
In clinical psychology and psychiatry, an unrealistic, exaggerated, or rigidly held sense of entitlement may be considered a symptom of narcissistic personality disorder, seen in those who "because of early frustrations...arrogate to themselves the right to demand lifelong reimbursement from fate."
In American culture citizens consider adopting children a legal Right.