Adopted Children's Forced Suppression of Anger
Biology of Response
The adopted child is conditioned to perform in the specific, coached appropriate responses. When these expectations are not properly met the controlling parent will react (instead of respond) with a large degree of hostility toward the defiant child.
The parent perceives the unacceptable response as a direct form of challenging the parent. Where narcissistic adoptive parents differ from normal biological child and parent, the parent has adopted the child to fulfill a stated purpose in the parent's plan
back at the time of adoption. The adoptive parent is chronically inconsistent with the adopted child, as more important tasks, and choice of how the adoptive parent prefers to spend their time. The adopted child is the stranger in a family's home, of which the relationship is a daily chore to reinforce. Unlike the biological parent and child relationship which is cohesive, natural and unconditional. The adoptive relationship is based on contract agreements, conditions and appropriate responses to please the parent.
The dysfunctional family environment fuels the frustration, anxiety and injustice toward the family's scapegoat. The unassigned position that grew with the child's age. The child
is not a valid family member, is temporary and is not expected or anticipated to linger beyond the age of majority. With the many assumptions, covert behavior, and general hostility toward the perceived whipping boy. The adopted child has been conditioned early in life that his expression of emotions will not get him the attention he needs for food, comfort or nurturing.
Further the problem exists on a cognitive level where the child is often accused of misdeeds, unjustly punished and blamed for various reasons. As the adopted child receives attention and emotional aid from peers, friends, their families and teachers.
The adoptee realizes that his home life is different from the home and families of others. His cognitive and educational development has far surpassed the education capacity of the dominating parents. Yet he is not grown emotionally, and with the realization of his unfair treatment he is stalled and must remain compliant with his dominating parent.
Imagine this scenario or your own while reviewing below the
biological process of such a situation.
The act of holding-In your anger when your parent has wrongfully accused you, slapped your face and threatened you with unspeakable fear.
How the body responds to conflict
The Biological Response to Conflict, Fear and Anger
Autonomic nervous system
The reaction begins in the amygdala, which triggers a neural response in the hypothalamus. The initial reaction is followed by activation of the pituitary gland and secretion of the hormone ACTH The adrenal gland is activated almost simultaneously and releases the neurotransmitter epinepherine. The release of chemical messengers results in the production of the hormone cortisol, which increases blood pressure, blood sugar, and suppresses the immune system. The initial response and subsequent reactions are triggered in an effort to create a boost of energy. This boost of energy is activated by epinephrine binding to liver cells and the subsequent production of glucose. Additionally, the circulation of cortisol functions to turn fatty acids into available energy, which prepares muscles throughout the body for response. Catecholamine hormones, such as adrenaline (epinephrine) or noradrenaline (norepinephrine), facilitate immediate physical reactions associated with a preparation for violent muscular action. These include the following:
Function of physiological changes
- Increased blood flow to the muscles activated by diverting blood flow from other parts of the body.
- Increased blood pressure, heart rate, blood sugars, and fats in order to supply the body with extra energy.
- The blood clotting function of the body speeds up in order to prevent excessive blood loss in the event of an injury sustained during the response.
- Increased muscle tension in order to provide the body with extra speed and strength.
- The pupils dilate to help see with increased clarity.
- Increased perspiration to prevent over-heating due to the increased metabolic rate.
Perception of control
Social information processing
Negative effects of the stress response in humans
- Muscle tension and pain
- Chest Pain
- Changes in sex drive
- Upset stomach
- Problems Sleeping
- Urinary Problems
- Lack of motivation or focus
- Irritability or anger
- Overeating and under eating
- Drug and Alcohol abuse
- Social withdrawal