The Psychological Abuse By Adoptive Mothers
It is the self centered narcissist who is currently unhappy and in
between hobbies that occupy her time. The grieving mother who has lost her child in pregnancy and advised against future pregnancy or medical sterilization. She feels shame and needs to come up with a way to save face and avoid the necessary grieving process with a new focus of her attention. Equipped with a sense of entitlement the narcissist has no moral objection to owning or buying another human being. When adoption becomes the answer to all the problems of a person's life. The
expectations are unreasonably high and too grand for the already abandoned and damaged child to accommodate. The reality is that adoption can not be the problem solver and those
women who insist it can are the fool who ruins two lives with their selfish narcissism behavior.
When adoption is forced to be the answer the process of adoption gives the unfulfilled person a goal to strive and the adoption challenges keep her mind temporarily busy. The adoptive mother's immediate job is to convince authorities of her prize winning parental attributes, to conceal her anger and rage from the investigation.
The narcissist mother is a schooled pro in her performance of deception and at serving her self centered needs. If her husband or anyone named in reference says anything to stop her chances of getting a baby..."There will be hell to pay!". She says "I want a baby now and I am going out and get one!"
Even when the husband doesn't want to adopt a child, the wife
will make his life miserable until he submits.
The narcissist receives a baby. The newborn baby is inconsolable and rejects the substitute mothers attempts to comfort. The newborn baby cries until it is exhausted and sleeps. Waking up again with hysterical crying for it's mother and refusal to feed.
The adoptive mother is fatigued, drained and becoming angry
toward the child. The mothers unstable mental capacity is stressed and reflected on the inconsolable crying baby. The mothers subconscious self protection mechanism begins to refuse to care for the infant and ignores the cries by shutting the door. The mental neglect begins against the baby who is seen by the mother as a bad seed. The family's needs and well being becomes strained and ignored. The mother's mental brake down nears as neighbors, and extended family come to care for the baby. The mother's mental state is reflected by her lack of duties and staying in bed all day. When the mother notices the bond forming with one of the patient surrogate caregivers she sends them away and is enraged at the child. The adoptive mother now has a great disregard for the adoptive child and deep seeded hatred that will grow into maturity. Now the baby has become the embodiment of her problems and is a daily reminder of the mothers hope that the baby would solve the disappointments of her life and serve as the main reason that her husband can not divorce her. The mother realizes that the adoption idea was a huge mistake but will never admit her resentment of the child's presence it to anyone. The child will serve a purpose for her tolerance of it. She will emotionally berate, psychological maltreatment and physical abuse the adoptive child as her grooming tactic into submission. The mother will control the child with daily reminders of the child's place the lowest class of her ruling party. The child's failures will be based on lack of sympathy, hatred and defective status. The mother will collaborate with her biological children to keep the adopted child submissive, dominated and grateful to her for adopting the child. The child will serve the mother's emotional desires and will serve the domestic needs of the family's home to show that the child knows their agreeable place in the world.
The child will never grow up and will always be dependent upon the mother throughout the mother's lifetime. The grateful adopted child will serve their life position and function to the family needs forever. The mother reflects about making the right choice of adoption after all.