About Adoptee Rage

Statistics Identify large populations of Adoptees in prisons, mental hospitals and committed suicide.
Fifty years of scientific studies on child adoption resulting in psychological harm to the child and
poor outcomes for a child's future.
Medical and psychological attempts to heal the broken bonds of adoption, promote reunions of biological parents and adult children. The other half of attempting to repair a severed Identity is counselling therapy to rebuild the self.

Friday, November 8, 2013

The Lifelong Social Stigma of Adopted Children and Adult Adoptees

                                        The Social Stigma of Adoption
The stigma of adoption is tolerated as an iron ball and chain endured until death. 
The fact of unmarried parents the child bears his illegitimacy forever.
The dishonorable man who condemns his child to a lifetime label of bastard.
The dishonored mother who gives her baby away, the baby is not only a bastard but now is an adopted bastard, complete with two titles of negative stigma at birth.
Abortion is sometimes necessary for the unloved, unwanted and repulsed.
An Illegitimate child is punished for life (by society) for being born. 
The sins of the parents are paid by the bastard child's miserable life.
The mother that gives away her illegitimate baby is a fool as society will punish her either way. The father is free to have sex with whomever he pleases and enjoy his life free of burden.     
The pregnancy based marriage saves the child from stigma and social humiliation.
Social stigma is the extreme disapproval of (or discontent with) a person or group on socially characteristic grounds that are perceived, and serve to distinguish them, from other members of a society. Stigma may then be affixed to such a person, by the greater society, who differs from their cultural norms.
Social stigma can result from the perception (rightly or wrongly) of mental illness, physical disability, diseases such as leprosy., Illegitimacy, adoption, foster-care, sexual orientation, gender identity, skin tone, education, ignorance, nationality, ethnicity, ideology, religion, lack of religion, atheism and criminality. Attributes associated with social stigma often vary depending on the geopolitical and corresponding sociopolitical contexts employed by society, in different parts of the world.
The stigmatized
The stigmatized are ostracized, devalued, rejected, scorned and shunned. They experience discrimination, insults, attacks and are even murdered. Those who perceive themselves to be members of a stigmatized group, whether it is obvious to those around them or not, often experience psychological distress and many view themselves contemptuously.
Although the experience of being stigmatized may take a toll on self-esteem, academic achievement, and other outcomes, many people with stigmatized attributes have high self-esteem, perform at high levels, are happy and appear to be quite resilient to their negative experiences.
There are also "positive stigma": you may indeed be too thin, too rich, or too smart. This is noted by Goffman (1963:141) in his discussion of leaders, who are subsequently given license to deviate from some behavioral norms, because they have contributed far above the expectations of the group.
The The stigmatizer
From the perspective of the stigmatizer, stigmatization involves dehumanization, threat, aversion and the depersonalization of others into stereotypic caricatures. Stigmatizing others can serve several functions for an individual, including self-esteem enhancement, control enhancement, and anxiety buffering, through downward-comparison—comparing oneself to less fortunate others can increase one's own subjective sense of well-being and therefore boost one's self-esteem.
21st century social psychologists consider stigmatizing and stereotyping to be a normal consequence of people's cognitive abilities and limitations, and of the social information and experiences to which they are exposed.
Current views of stigma, from the perspectives of both the stigmatizer and the stigmatized person, consider the process of stigma to be highly situationally specific, dynamic, complex and not yielding as every outcast is label specific based on the individual's stigma.


The fourth component of stigmatization in this model includes "status loss and discrimination". Many definitions of stigma do not include this aspect, however these authors believe that this loss occurs inherently as individuals are "labeled, set apart, and linked to undesirable characteristics." The members of the labeled groups are subsequently disadvantaged in the most common group of life chances including incomeeducationmental well-being, housing status, health, and medical treatment. Thus, stigmatization by the majorities, the powerful, or the “superior” leads to the Othering of the minorities, the powerless, and the “inferior”. Where by the stigmatized individuals become disadvantaged due to the ideology created by “the self,” which is the opposing force to “the Other.” As a result, the others become socially excluded and those in power reason the exclusion based on the original characteristics that led to the stigma.