About Adoptee Rage

Statistics Identify large populations of Adoptees in prisons, mental hospitals and committed suicide.
Fifty years of scientific studies on child adoption resulting in psychological harm to the child and
poor outcomes for a child's future.
Medical and psychological attempts to heal the broken bonds of adoption, promote reunions of biological parents and adult children. The other half of attempting to repair a severed Identity is counselling therapy to rebuild the self.

Monday, November 18, 2013

Psychological Repression of Adopted Children

Psychological Repression of Adopted Children

The newborn child torn away from his mother, then given to a stranger that creates a new legal identity applied to the child.
The fact that the substitute mother manufactures the new identity for a child with an existing identity, Is the adoptive mother's attempt to cover up and hide the real identity of the child. As well as the legal act of sealing the identity away from the child for 99 years.
The adoptive mother pretends the child is her own and is the legal owner and possession of the adoptive mother. The force
with which the adoptive mother disregards the infants real identity and molds the child to her specifications works well  while the child is dependent. The stages of unraveling in the child's truth begins in the natural awareness stages and phases in early and pre-adolescence, when the adoptive child receives independence, support and friendship outside of the home. The child begins to notice that other families regard their children in different ways and better ways than the controlling, aggressive, threatening and fear-based adoptive mother. The adoptive mother begins to notice the growing independence and normal changes accompanying certain age stages and begins to implement a new strategy aimed at gaining back strict control over her adoptive child. The time comes when the child is too tall to bully, too big to hit with impact, and the child has far surpassed the adoptive mothers education and intelligence to manipulate psychologically. The adoptive mothers awareness that she is loosing control or has lost control instead of the normal parent's view of feeling proud of the independent young person the child has become. The adoptive mother will become
angry, vengeful and begin retaliation against the adopted child. The adoptive parents revenge patterns stem from the disregard of the adopted child, and his failure to continue the relationship shaped and cultivated in childhood. The adoptive child's differences from the adoptive family drive his need for independence and distance from them. To continue the child mentality persona that is expected by the adoptive parents is to suppress knowledge, education, and maturity. To continue the child to parent interaction, is to re-assume the submissive role of the dependent child identity that of the adoptive parents preference to dominate, control and correct the young child in need of direction. Adoptees become the masters of splitting the two personalities, one is the growing, learning and achieving status and self esteem among peers. The second personality is created specifically to appease the adoptive parents need to control, dominate and feel intellectually superior forever to the second rate adopted child. The adoptive mother will respond in an intimidating manner to personality (A) which is perceived as a direct threat to her power, control and ownership over the adoptive child relationship. The use of personality (A) to the adoptive mother will cause negative chain of events that she will perceive as being directly challenged by the adoptive child.
The risks of jeopardizing the family's financial investment in the adoptive child relationship include time, tolerance and the long term assumption of the child's allegiance. A threat to the long term goals solution comprised to keep the adoptive child restrained, compliant and mentally subdued in the expectations from the adoptive parent future needs.
The fear that the adoptive parent will display is reactionary behavior to child's emerging independence. The child learns very early to give pleasant, and acceptable replies to parental inquiry.
The child's growing awareness that talking with honest or truthful intent will result in harm, punishment and continual torment as the rules finally figured out begin to quickly change.
 The child is on constant alert for changes in the mother's behavior, circumstances in the household, or the other people interacting with the parent could cause problems hours or days later. The child becomes aware that his own needs are disregarded by the primary caregiver. The child's observations, participation and opinions in any regard are not considered valid. The child's perception is not trustworthy of judgement or valued by the parent. The adopted child is seen as a perpetually dependent child, incapable of reflecting or comprehending adult content and status., Therefore the forever child is not worthy of the parents trust. The forever dependent adopted child will never be capable of earning the respect of others, with much less of a chance to ever earn the respect of his own parents.
The child is an illegitimate bastard to begin with, the adoptive parents have given him every advantage growing up in an upper class family but the reality is his destiny to be a failure. The adopted child that can't be trusted and will never amount to anything substantial except the ability to reproduce. We chose to adopt to have someone to care for us in our old age,
 will be our dependent child throughout the parents lifetime.
From the youngest age the adopted child holds in all his feelings
to the point of physical illnesses, not knowing of any connection between the behaviors are the cause. A common emotional problem for the psychologically abused adopted child and adult adoptees, the only feelings he is able to recognize or identify are anger, depression and happiness. Emotional suppressed individuals keep themselves occupied at all times with various busy tasks that lead to no-where or useless lists that never make it to the store and are never followed. The subconscious purpose is to keep the mind occupied, doing something to keep from thinking. Confinement, seclusion or voluntary vacation may break the grip of the adoptee's control over the mind, self and daily routine, causing the silence of memory to be remembered.
For an adoptee to venture into such a dangerous place without the protection of a licensed therapist, counselling professional;     The enormous amount of time takes to enter the phase of emotional awareness of injustice, coming to terms and emotional healing can take many years. To allow one's self the opportunity to address the enormous burden they have carried throughout life.(although all types of abuse are stored for instant recall and are with the victim daily) To let the subconscious mind breath the truth of injustice for the very first time in their life. To be aware of exactly how each individual episode went down., To validate what when where how why., To organize, document, feel empathy for that helpless child who has no one and is all alone in the world. Feel anger at the narcissist who takes advantage of the child and intentionally causes the child pain. while going through your list you are feeling emotions that you held inside, like holding your breath and wanting to breath. You are giving justice to that child by feeling emotions, you are healing the burden you carry with each number on the list.
Copy the "EMOTIONS" page post or read the many terms of different emotions and apply them to the various situations  on your list.
to come to terms with what happen by validating each act of maltreatment, each slight, slap, etc. to the smallest infraction.
This is an ongoing process that takes years to swallow, ingest digest, and the rest...Do as little or as much that you can  tolerate, when you commit to this process of letting the repression come out as legitimate and validated injustice with the help of a therapist. Without help is a dangerous trip down memory lane that could cause a psychotic episode or death!
Please "Do not attempt this without a counselor or therapist!"
Haven't you suffered enough to get the help now, that was denied in childhood.

In each of the fifty U.S. States, County Mental Health provides free, low cost and sliding scale counselling assistance.

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  1. By calling 1-800-273-TALK (8255) you'll be connected to a skilled, trained counselor at acrisis center in your area, anytime 24/7. If you feel you are in a crisis...

Psychological repression, or simply repression, is the psychological attempt by an individual to repel one's own desires and impulses towards pleasurable instincts by excluding the desire from one's consciousness and holding or subduing it in the unconscious. Repression plays a major role in many mental illness, and in the psyche of average people.
'Repression, a key concept of psychoanalysis is not a defense mechanism as it pre-exists the ego e.g. 'Primal Repression'. It ensures that what is unacceptable to the conscious mind, and would, if recalled, arouse anxiety, is prevented from entering into it'; and is generally accepted as such by psychoanalytic psychologists.

However, regarding the distinct subject of represses memory, there is debate as to whether (or how often) memory repression really happens and mainstream psychology holds that true memory repression occurs only "very rarely".

As FREUD moved away from hypnosis, and towards urging his patients to remember the past in a conscious state, 'the very difficulty and laboriousness of the process led Freud to a crucial insight'. The intensity of his struggles to get his patients to recall past memories led him to conclude that 'there was some force that prevented them from becoming conscious and compelled them to remain unconscious...pushed the pathogenetic experiences in question out of consciousness. I gave the name of repression to this hypothetical process'.
Freud would later call the theory of repression "the corner-stone on which the whole structure of psychoanalysis rests" ("On the History of the Psycho-Analytic Movement").


Freud considered that there was 'reason to assume that there is a primal repression, a first phase of repression, which consists in the psychical (ideational) representative of the instinct being denied entrance into the conscious', as well as a 'second stage of repression, repression proper, which affects mental derivatives of the repressed representative: distinguished what he called a first stage of ' primal repression' from 'the case of repression proper ("after-pressure")
In the primary repression phase, 'it is highly probable that the immediate precipitating causes of primal repressions are quantitative factors such as...the earliest outbreaks of anxiety, which are of a very intense kind'. The child realizes that acting on some desires may bring anxiety. This anxiety leads to repression of the desire.
The threat of punishment related to this form of anxiety, when internalized, becomes the superego, which intercedes against the desires of the ID (which works on the basis of the pleasure principle). Freud speculated that 'it is perhaps the emergence of the super-ego which provides the line of demarcation between primal repression and after-pressure'


Abnormal repression, as defined by Freud, or neurotic behavior occurs when repression develops under the influence of the superego, and the internalized feelings of anxiety, in ways leading to behavior that is illogical, self-destructive, or anti-social.
A psychotherapist may try to ameliorate this behavior by revealing and re-introducing the repressed aspects of the patient's mental process to her or his conscious awareness - 'assuming the role of mediator and peacemaker...to lift the repression'. In favorable circumstances, ' Repression is replaced by a condemning judgement carried out along the best lines', thereby reducing anxiety over the impulses involved.