Psychological Repression of Adopted Children
The newborn child torn away from his mother, then given to a stranger that creates a new legal identity applied to the child.
The fact that the substitute mother manufactures the new identity for a child with an existing identity, Is the adoptive mother's attempt to cover up and hide the real identity of the child. As well as the legal act of sealing the identity away from the child for 99 years.
The adoptive mother pretends the child is her own and is the legal owner and possession of the adoptive mother. The force
with which the adoptive mother disregards the infants real identity and molds the child to her specifications works well while the child is dependent. The stages of unraveling in the child's truth begins in the natural awareness stages and phases in early and pre-adolescence, when the adoptive child receives independence, support and friendship outside of the home. The child begins to notice that other families regard their children in different ways and better ways than the controlling, aggressive, threatening and fear-based adoptive mother. The adoptive mother begins to notice the growing independence and normal changes accompanying certain age stages and begins to implement a new strategy aimed at gaining back strict control over her adoptive child. The time comes when the child is too tall to bully, too big to hit with impact, and the child has far surpassed the adoptive mothers education and intelligence to manipulate psychologically. The adoptive mothers awareness that she is loosing control or has lost control instead of the normal parent's view of feeling proud of the independent young person the child has become. The adoptive mother will become
angry, vengeful and begin retaliation against the adopted child. The adoptive parents revenge patterns stem from the disregard of the adopted child, and his failure to continue the relationship shaped and cultivated in childhood. The adoptive child's differences from the adoptive family drive his need for independence and distance from them. To continue the child mentality persona that is expected by the adoptive parents is to suppress knowledge, education, and maturity. To continue the child to parent interaction, is to re-assume the submissive role of the dependent child identity that of the adoptive parents preference to dominate, control and correct the young child in need of direction. Adoptees become the masters of splitting the two personalities, one is the growing, learning and achieving status and self esteem among peers. The second personality is created specifically to appease the adoptive parents need to control, dominate and feel intellectually superior forever to the second rate adopted child. The adoptive mother will respond in an intimidating manner to personality (A) which is perceived as a direct threat to her power, control and ownership over the adoptive child relationship. The use of personality (A) to the adoptive mother will cause negative chain of events that she will perceive as being directly challenged by the adoptive child.
The risks of jeopardizing the family's financial investment in the adoptive child relationship include time, tolerance and the long term assumption of the child's allegiance. A threat to the long term goals solution comprised to keep the adoptive child restrained, compliant and mentally subdued in the expectations from the adoptive parent future needs.
The fear that the adoptive parent will display is reactionary behavior to child's emerging independence. The child learns very early to give pleasant, and acceptable replies to parental inquiry.
The child's growing awareness that talking with honest or truthful intent will result in harm, punishment and continual torment as the rules finally figured out begin to quickly change.
The child is on constant alert for changes in the mother's behavior, circumstances in the household, or the other people interacting with the parent could cause problems hours or days later. The child becomes aware that his own needs are disregarded by the primary caregiver. The child's observations, participation and opinions in any regard are not considered valid. The child's perception is not trustworthy of judgement or valued by the parent. The adopted child is seen as a perpetually dependent child, incapable of reflecting or comprehending adult content and status., Therefore the forever child is not worthy of the parents trust. The forever dependent adopted child will never be capable of earning the respect of others, with much less of a chance to ever earn the respect of his own parents.
The child is an illegitimate bastard to begin with, the adoptive parents have given him every advantage growing up in an upper class family but the reality is his destiny to be a failure. The adopted child that can't be trusted and will never amount to anything substantial except the ability to reproduce. We chose to adopt to have someone to care for us in our old age,
will be our dependent child throughout the parents lifetime.
From the youngest age the adopted child holds in all his feelings
to the point of physical illnesses, not knowing of any connection between the behaviors are the cause. A common emotional problem for the psychologically abused adopted child and adult adoptees, the only feelings he is able to recognize or identify are anger, depression and happiness. Emotional suppressed individuals keep themselves occupied at all times with various busy tasks that lead to no-where or useless lists that never make it to the store and are never followed. The subconscious purpose is to keep the mind occupied, doing something to keep from thinking. Confinement, seclusion or voluntary vacation may break the grip of the adoptee's control over the mind, self and daily routine, causing the silence of memory to be remembered.
For an adoptee to venture into such a dangerous place without the protection of a licensed therapist, counselling professional; The enormous amount of time takes to enter the phase of emotional awareness of injustice, coming to terms and emotional healing can take many years. To allow one's self the opportunity to address the enormous burden they have carried throughout life.(although all types of abuse are stored for instant recall and are with the victim daily) To let the subconscious mind breath the truth of injustice for the very first time in their life. To be aware of exactly how each individual episode went down., To validate what when where how why., To organize, document, feel empathy for that helpless child who has no one and is all alone in the world. Feel anger at the narcissist who takes advantage of the child and intentionally causes the child pain. while going through your list you are feeling emotions that you held inside, like holding your breath and wanting to breath. You are giving justice to that child by feeling emotions, you are healing the burden you carry with each number on the list.
Copy the "EMOTIONS" page post or read the many terms of different emotions and apply them to the various situations on your list.
to come to terms with what happen by validating each act of maltreatment, each slight, slap, etc. to the smallest infraction.
This is an ongoing process that takes years to swallow, ingest digest, and the rest...Do as little or as much that you can tolerate, when you commit to this process of letting the repression come out as legitimate and validated injustice with the help of a therapist. Without help is a dangerous trip down memory lane that could cause a psychotic episode or death!
Please "Do not attempt this without a counselor or therapist!"
Haven't you suffered enough to get the help now, that was denied in childhood.
In each of the fifty U.S. States, County Mental Health provides free, low cost and sliding scale counselling assistance.