About Adoptee Rage

Statistics Identify large populations of Adoptees in prisons, mental hospitals and committed suicide.
Fifty years of scientific studies on child adoption resulting in psychological harm to the child and
poor outcomes for a child's future.
Medical and psychological attempts to heal the broken bonds of adoption, promote reunions of biological parents and adult children. The other half of attempting to repair a severed Identity is counselling therapy to rebuild the self.

Tuesday, November 19, 2013

Psychological Domination of Adopted Children

ADOPTEE RAGE!  Psychological Domination of Adopted Children

The Authoritarian Personality Parent

The personality type Adorno et al. identified can be defined by twelve traits that were believed to cluster together as the result of childhood experiences. These traits include: 
Trait                                                  Application
1. conventionalism,  "The christian mother is more qualified to raise adopted child"
2. authoritarian submission,         "I am controlled by god therefore, I control you"
3. authoritarian aggression,             Anger driven hostility to control the child.
4. anti-intelectualism                        Denying the child's intellectual capacity.
5. anti-intraception                          "I don't need anyone telling me how to parent"
6. superstition                                  Parent enforces religious authority over child.  
7. stereotyping                               Parent assumes"all adopted children are liars"
8. power and "toughness"              "I must brake my adopted child like a horse" 
9. destructiveness              Any means necessary"broken bones to control the kid"
10. cynicism                               "Adoption was my contribution to charity" 
11. projectivity                           "All adoptive children are grateful to their parents"
12. exaggerated concerns over sex.   "My adoptive child is a slut like her mother" 

Authoritarian personality is a state of mind or attitude characterized by one's belief in absolute child obedience and submission to parent's own authority, as well as the administration of that belief through the oppression of child subordinates. It usually applies to individual parents who are known or viewed as having an authoritative, strict, or oppressive personality towards control of their children.

Authoritarian Parent's Control Over Submissive Child 

Adorno, et al. (1950) viewed the authoritarian parent as having a strict superego that controls a child's weak ego unable to cope with the strong id impulses of the parent. The resulting intrapsychic conflicts cause a child personal insecurities, resulting in that person’s superego to adhere to externally imposed conventional norms (rules), and to the parent authority who impose these norms (authoritarian submission). The child's defense mechanism of projection occurs as indicated when that person avoids self-reference of the anxiety producing id impulse. the parent asserts dominance by displaying aggressive behavior and regarding the non-biological child as “inferior” and in need of being controlled in the justification of the parental dominance to control future behavior. As the non-biological child is considered inept or defect at controlling their own impulses.   
minority groups in the given culture (projectivity), with associated beliefs that are highly evaluative (power and toughness), and rigid (stereotypy). Additionally, there is a cynical view of mankind and a need for power and toughness resulting from the anxieties produced by perceived lapses in society’s conventional norms (destructiveness and cynicism). Other characteristics of this personality type are a general tendency to focus upon those who violate conventional values and act harshly towards them (authoritarian aggression), a general opposition to subjective or imaginative tendencies (anti-intraception), a tendency to believe in mystic determination (superstition), and finally, an exaggerated concern with promiscuity.
In regards to child development, the formation of the authoritarian type occurs within the first few years of the person’s life, strongly shaped by the parents and family structure. “Hierarchical, authoritarian, exploitative” parent-child relationships may result in this personality type. Parents who have a need for domination, and who control and threaten the child harshly, and demand obedience to conventional behaviors with server threats, foster and grow the negative characteristics of this dominating personality. In addition, the parents have a preoccupation with social status, and communicate this to the child in terms of rigid, unrealistic and inconsistent rules. The child then suffers from suppressed feelings of resentment, aggression, loathing and hatred towards the parents; Who are instead, idealized with reverence regarding the self and their superior parenting skills.
Alfred Alder provided another perspective, linking the "will to power over others" as a central neurotic trait, usually emerging as aggressive over-compensation for felt and dreaded feelings of inferiority and insignificance. According to this view, the authoritarian's need to maintain control and prove superiority over their child is rooted in a worldview populated by enemies and empty of equality, empathy, and mutual benefit.

In social psychology, the boomerang effect is "the theory of psychological reaction that is supported by experiments showing that attempts to restrict a person's freedom often produce an anti-conformity "boomerang effect".
In social marketing, the boomerang effect occurs as a result of attempted attitude change. If someone makes a strong attempt to change a prospect's attitude toward a subject, the prospect will counter with an equally strong response, even if, prior to the confrontation, the prospect held a weak attitude toward the subject.

Deliberate exploitation

The tactic of reverse psychology, a deliberate exploitation of an anticipated boomerang effect, involves feigning a desire for the outcome opposite the desired one, such that the prospect's resistance will work in the direction that the exploiter actually desires (e.g., "Please don't throw me in the briar patch").