About Adoptee Rage

Statistics Identify large populations of Adoptees in prisons, mental hospitals and committed suicide.
Fifty years of scientific studies on child adoption resulting in psychological harm to the child and
poor outcomes for a child's future.
Medical and psychological attempts to heal the broken bonds of adoption, promote reunions of biological parents and adult children. The other half of attempting to repair a severed Identity is counselling therapy to rebuild the self.

Saturday, November 30, 2013

Adoption Depression & Self Esteem

ADOPTEE RAGE!  Adoption Depression & Self Esteem

Depression and self-esteem

It is a normal reaction that 'when threatened by external events or negative feedback, victims must defend their sense of who and what they are".
When adopted children are "discounted" by their adoptive parents, they can't defend they're sense of "who they are" as the young adopted child becomes confused by the inconsistent and changing demands of the adoptive parents.The inconsistent adoptive parent also becomes confused and challenged to retain control and dominance over the adoptive child's growing intelligence and awareness of his autonomy.
("who they are" due to the fact the adopted child's "New submissive personality" is being presently perceived to behave a certain way. Trained, coached and brainwashed by the adoptive parent to behave in an acceptable manner to the adoptive parent's authority and the adopted child's difficulty in the suppression of the natural personality urges to act that end in the child's assault and punishment)
The assertion of "Who they are" in defending one's self for adopted children with forced personality changes to the submissive personality are not allowed to defend themselves verbally or physically. The defending of the self is seen as an act of defiance and a challenge to the adoptive parent's dominating control initiating an expected reflex response of verbal or physical violence.

In defending the self, one strategy is 'redefinition of an event's importance...[to] downplay importance' of the event.
One of the problems of depression is that a reverse tendency appears: 'when we are depressed, we often discount the small positive things we do...discounting or dismissing praise'.

In extreme cases of manic depressive adoptive parents, 'these individuals discount external reality at a high level, to manifest their own actuality which is  not living a true or real existence. In void of factual awareness the adoptive parent can facilitate the discounting of the accomplishments or good behavior in adopted children to avoid guilt, ridicule or negative responses from outsiders.

Transactional analysis: discounting
Post-Bernian transactional analysis explored the role played by discounting in 
maintaining dependency relationships: 
'the discounting of the child by the parent figure, initially by the adoptive parent and later by the child's internalized parent. 
When one person discounts another, he acts as if what he feels is more important than what the other person feels, says or does'. 
What came to be called 'the "hierarchy of discounts" existencesignificancechange possibilities and personal activities  was evolved, the highest automatically including those below: 'a discount of the existence of problems is equivalent to discounting the significance'.

Idealization and devaluation

In psychoanalytic theory, when an individual is unable to integrate difficult feelings, specific defenses are mobilized to overcome what the individual perceives as an unbearable situation. The defense that helps in this process is called splitting. Splitting is the tendency to view events or people as either all bad or all good.[1] When viewing people as all good, the individual is said to be using the defense mechanism idealization: a mental mechanism in which the person attributes exaggeratedly positive qualities to the self or others. When viewing people as all bad, the individual employsdevaluation: attributing exaggeratedly negative qualities to the self or others.
In child development, idealization and devaluation are quite normal. During the childhood development stage, individuals become capable of perceiving others as complex structures, containing both good and bad components. If the development stage is interrupted (by early childhood trauma, for example), these defense mechanisms may persist into adulthood.
The term idealization first appeared in connection with Freud’s definition of narcissism. Freud’s vision was that all human infants pass through a phase of primary narcissism in which they assume they are the centre of their universe. To obtain the parents' love the child comes to do what he thinks the parents value. Internalising these values the child forms an ego ideal This ego ideal contains rules for good behavior and standards of excellence toward which the ego has to strive. When the child cannot bear ambivalence between the real self and the ego ideal and defenses are used too often, it is called pathologic. Freud called this situation secondary narcissism, because the ego itself is idealized. Explanations of the idealization of others besides the self are sought in drive theory as well as in object-relation theory. From the viewpoint of libidinal drives, idealization of other people is a "flowing-over" of narcissistic libido onto the object; from the viewpoint of self-object relations, the object representations (like that of the caregivers) were made more beautiful than they really were.
An extension of Freud’s theory of narcissism came when Heinz Kohut presented the so-called "self-object transferences" of idealization and mirroring. To Kohut, idealization in childhood is a healthy mechanism. If the parents fail to provide appropriate opportunities for idealization (healthy narcissism) and mirroring (how to cope with reality), the child does not develop beyond a developmental stage in which he sees himself as grandiose but in which he also remains dependent on others to provide his self-esteem. Kohut stated that, with narcissistic patients, idealization of the self and the therapist should be allowed during therapy and then very gradually will diminish as a result of unavoidable optimal frustration.
Otto Kernberg has provided an extensive discussion of idealization, both in its defensive and adaptive aspects. He conceptualised idealization as involving a denial of unwanted characteristics of an object, then enhancing the object by projecting one’s own libido or omnipotence on it. He proposed a developmental line with one end of the continuum being a normal form of idealization and the other end a pathological form. In the latter, the individual has a problem with object constancy and sees others as all good or all bad, thus bolstering idealization and devaluation. At this stage idealization is associated with borderline pathology. At the other end of the continuum, idealization is said to be a necessary precursor for feelings of mature love.

Verbal Abuse of Adopted Children

ADOPTEE RAGE!            Verbal Abuse of Adopted Children

Verbal abuse of adopted children (also known as reviling) is described as a negative defining statement told to the child or about the child, or by withholding any response, thereby defining the target (child) as non-existent. If the parent abuser does not immediately apologize and retract the defining statement, (you are different from my real children) the relationship may be a verbally abusive one.
In schools a young person may indulge in verbal abuse — bullying (which often has a physical component) to gain status as superior to the person targeted and to bond with others against the target. Generally the bully knows no other way to connect emotionally, i.e., be bonded with others.
In family relationships, the verbal abuser responds to the child's "separateness," i.e., independent thoughts, views, desires, feelings, expressions (even of happiness) as an irritant or even an attack. While some people believe the abuser has low self esteem and so attempts to place their victim in a similar position, i.e., To believe negative things about himself or herself, is usually the case in family relationships. A father may, for example, disparage the mother simply because she has qualities that were disparaged in him, i.e., emotional intelligence, warmth, receptivity and so forth. The father's continued verbal punishment of the wife for bringing a stranger into the family, or verbal attacks on the adopted child.
A person of any gender, race, culture, sexual orientation, age, or size may experience verbal abuse. Typically, in couple or family relationships verbal abuse increases in intensity and frequency over time. After exposure to verbal abuse, victims may develop clinical depression and/or post traumatic stress disorder. The person targeted by verbal abuse over time may succumb to any stress related illness. Verbal abuse creates emotional pain and mental anguish in its target.
Despite being the most common form of abuse, verbal abuse is generally not taken as seriously as other types because there is no visible proof, and the abuser may have a "perfect" persona around others. In reality, however, verbal abuse can be more detrimental to a person's health than physical abuse If a person is verbally abused from childhood on, the adopted child may develop psychological disorders that plague them into and throughout adulthood.
Verbal abuse includes the following:
  • countering
  • withholding
  • discounting
  • abuse disguised as a joke
  • blocking and diverting
  • accusing and blaming
  • judging and criticizing
  • trivializing
  • undermining
  • threatening
  • name calling
  • chronic forgetting
  • ordering
  • denial of anger or abuse
  • abusive anger

Wednesday, November 27, 2013

Florence Clothier, "The Psychology of the Adopted Child," 1943

Florence Clothier, “The Psychology of the Adopted Child,” 1943

Source:  Florence Clothier Papers, The Schlesinger Library, Radcliffe Institute, Harvard University
Florence Clothier
Florence Clothier, a graduate of Johns Hopkins Medical School, worked as a psychiatrist at the New England Home for Little Wanderers from 1932 to 1957. She was an active member of the Boston Psychoanalytic Society, where she knew Helene Deutsch and Erik Erikson, among other notable Freudians. In addition to her work on adoption, she was an active advocate of birth control. Clothier directed the Planned Parenthood League of Massachusetts from 1939 to 1956. In this excerpt, she anticipated themes of attachment and loss that became commonplace in later years.
The child who does not grow up with his own biological parents, who does not even know them or anyone of his own blood, is an individual who has lost the thread of family continuity. A deep identification with our forebears, as experienced originally in the mother-child relationship, gives us our most fundamental security. The child’s repeated discoveries that the mother from whom he has been biologically separated will continue to warm him, nourish him, and protect him pours into the very structure of his personality a stability and a reassurance that he is safe, even in this new, alien world.
Every adopted child, at some point in his development, has been deprived of this primitive relationship with his mother. This trauma and the severing of the individual from his racial antecedents lie at the core of what is peculiar to the psychology of the adopted child. The adopted child presents all the complications in social and emotional development seen in the own child. But the ego of the adopted child, in addition to all the normal demands made upon it, is called upon to compensate for the wound left by the loss of the biological mother. Later on this appears as an unknown void, separating the adopted child from his fellows whose blood ties bind them to the past as well as to the future.
Environment, or experience, influences the personality in very different ways, depending upon the age and maturity the individual. Those experiences and emotional relationships which exist in earliest childhood have effects that are incorporated into the very structure of the personality. Experiences and relationships after the Oedipal development may mold or modify the presenting or external personality but their effects are as a general rule not incorporated or built into the personality. It may be said the external environment functions in two capacities. In the earliest years, it combines with constitutional factors to determine personality. Later on, through the influence of education, environment and experience modify persona1ity manifestation, even to the extent of creating the person we think we know. Though analogies are unsatisfactory, we might say that, in the construction of the personality, constitution provides the basic metal, infantile emotional relationships and experiences add alloys and temper the metal, and childhood education and environment provide the superstructure, facade, and the paint.
The implications of this for the psychology of the adopted child are of the utmost significance. The child who is placed with adoptive parents at or soon after birth misses the mutual and deeply satisfying mother-child relationship, the roots of which lie in that deep area of the personality where the physiological and the psychological are merged. Both for the child and for the natural mother, that period is part of the biological sequence, and it is to be doubted whether the relationship of the child to its post-partem mother, in subtler effects, can be replced by even the best of substitute mothers. But those subtle effects lie so deeply buried in the personality that, in the light of our present knowledge, we cannot evaluate them. . . .
Although the adopted infant obviously cannot experience fully with his substitute mother the satisfactions of the nursing period, he will experience with her his first and supremely important socializing relationship. The process of receiving food or sucking is for the infant at first an intensely personal experience, but through it the child establishes his earliest meaningful rapport with another individual. If his first social relationship is satisfying and free from tension, his later social relationships will be easier for him. If his feeding experiences in infancy consist of one battle after another, he is apt to go battling through life, tense, suspicious, and anxious over social relationships.
The child who, before being placed for adoption, has lived in an institution or a foster home has been profoundly influenced by his feeding experiences. Babies cared for in institutions are usually fed by a number of different nurses or attendants who are more interested in getting correct amounts of formula into their charges at specified times than they are in the infants themselves. Some institution babies are even left alone in their cribs to suck from a bottle propped on a pillow. These children lose their earliest and most important opportunity to establish an object relationship through which they can progress from the stage of primitive narcissism to that of socialized human beings. . . .
The following case is one that shows very clearly the traumatic effect of an ill-advised adoption on a boy whose social and emotional development was tied up with a previous foster-home placement.
Dan is a nine-and-a-half-year-old boy, who was adopted at the age of three years. He was referred to a children’s study home because of running away, bunking out, and a devastatingly negative, hostile reaction to his adoptive mother. Dan ran away only when his adoptive mother was at home. He never ran very far, , but rather than come home, he would endure untold hardships and discomforts. On one occasion, in the dead of winter, he stayed out for several nights, and when the police found him, his legs were both badly frozen. . . .
Dan’s immediate life situation in no way explained his behavior. The home was a good one and offered all the satisfactions that a boy would need. The adoptive father was an exceptionally fine person, and the adoptive mother, although tense and neurotic, was kindly and well-intentioned.. The adoptive brother [another child of Dan’s age, but adopted in infancy] was making an adequate adjustment and was devoted to Dan. For the key to Dan’s behavior, we have to go back to the story of his adoption and his life prior to that fateful event.
When arrangements for the adoption were made, the foster parents were loath to lose their baby, but felt that in the adoptive home he would have far greater educational opportunities than they could hope to give him. They did not wish to upset him by telling him that he was to leave home, so he was told one day that after his nap he was to go for a drive with a friend of “Mummie Kay’s.” Sonny complained that he did not want to go, but would prefer to stay at home with “Mummie” (his foster mother). However, after his nap, when the big automobile drew up at the house, Sonny climbed in full of enthusiasm for a ride in the car with the nice new lady. He was driven away and has had no contact since with either of his foster parents or with “Mummie Kay.” One can imagine what a horribly traumatic situation this must have been for a three-year-old child whose entire world revolved around his love objects.
When Dan arrived in his new home, he showed a typical childish absence of a mourning reaction. It is likely that Dan’s sorrow at the security he had lost was so great that his immature ego could not face it and his sorrow was, therefore, entirely suppressed or denied. Dan repressed all memories of his first foster home. In his unexplained outbursts of crying, he is now giving evidence of a deferred mourning reaction. He cries, but he does not know why or for what he cries. It may also be that in his symptom of running away and hiding, he is repeating, in a distorted form, the traumatic situation to which he was subjected at the age of three. He comes back from his expeditions in such a condition that he has to be put to bed and lovingly cared for and nursed. . . .
 Source: Florence Clothier, “The Psychology of the Adopted Child,” Mental Hygiene 27 (April 1943):222-226.

Adopted Child Suicide Statistics



Adopted teens try to kill themselves much more often than teens who live with their biological parents, says new research.
However, a group of Ohio researchers add, the risk for both groups drops greatly when there are strong family ties.
That's the official word from a new study of more than 6 500 adolescents that appears in the latest issue of the journal Pediatrics.
"The real take-home message in this study is that a strong family unit with a strong sense of belonging is one of the best ways to prevent teen suicide, whether the child is adopted or living with their biological parents," says study author Dr. Gail Slap, a professor of pediatrics and internal medicine at Children's Hospital Medical Center, University of Cincinnati College of Medicine.

The researchers compensated for factors likely to influence the outcome - including divorce, single-parent households, even parental education and the family's economic level - in finding that adopted teens' rate of suicide attempts seem double that of those who live with biological parents.
But some experts say the study did not look deeply enough into issues like the teens' mental state and experience before drawing its conclusions.
"I think it's an important study that will hopefully help us to better recognise children at risk. But to say that it is unequivocally adoption that increases their risk - I think the study leaves too many unanswered questions to say for sure," says Dr. Cynthia Pfeffer, a teen suicide expert and director of the Childhood Bereavement Program at Weill Medical Center of Cornell University.
Among the areas the study didn't address are hereditary risk of depression, age of the child at adoption, and any pre-adoption experiences, including what may have occurred developmentally during the birth mother's pregnancy, says Pfeffer.
"Did their birth mother drink alcohol or use drugs - and did that influence the child's development in any way that could be a link to suicide later in life? We don't know these answers," says Pfeffer.
The study group was gleaned from a larger sampling of more than 90 000 adolescents who took part in the National Longitudinal Study of Adolescent Health - a school-based report that sampled students from grades 7 through 12.

The study group was gleaned from a larger sampling of more than 90 000 adolescents who took part in the National Longitudinal Study of Adolescent Health - a school-based report that sampled students from grades 7 through 12.
The final group of 6 577 students selected for this arm of the study were living with either their adoptive parents (3.3 percent) or their biological parents (96.7 percent).
In addition to the students' gender, age and race, the researchers also noted mental and physical health; time spent in counselling; educational experiences, including grades; and high-risk behavior, which included smoking, alcohol and drug use, physical fighting and aggression, and impulsive behavior.
In terms of the families, they looked at income levels, parental education, and the overall sense of family "connectedness" to see "how big a role the parents played in the child's life, how connected the child felt to his or her parents, and how satisfied the mother felt with the child-parent relationship," says Slap.
The final analysis showed that 7.6 percent of the adopted children were likely to attempt suicide, compared to 3.1 percent of children living with their biological parents. But overall risk of suicide was much lower in both groups when strong family ties were present.
"Adoption doesn't predict suicide, but it should be taken into consideration when accessing a child's behaviour and their overall risk for suicide," says Slap.

The final analysis showed that 7.6 percent of the adopted children were likely to attempt suicide, compared to 3.1 percent of children living with their biological parents. But overall risk of suicide was much lower in both groups when strong family ties were present.
"Adoption doesn't predict suicide, but it should be taken into consideration when accessing a child's behaviour and their overall risk for suicide," says Slap.
The more important message, she emphasises, is the vital role that family love can play during the crucial teen years.
Other experts agree.
"I don't believe we should stigmatise adopted children by singling them out as suicide risks," says Pfeffer. But she adds, "I do believe that studies like this one can help raise awareness about teen suicide and help parents, teachers, doctors and other adults give special attention to the children that need it most."
Although there are no statistics on the number of attempted teen suicides, according to the American Psychiatric Association, 5 000 teens take their own life each year. Previous studies have been split on the role that adoption may play: seven studies have shown no difference between adopted and non-adopted teens; 15 studies showed poorer psychological adjustment among adopted teens; three studies revealed that adopted teens are actually better adjusted than non-adopted teens.

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Saturday, November 23, 2013

The Longterm Damage of Adoption

The Childhood Dangers Of Adoption
The Compounded Risk of Foreign Adoption

The Consequence Result from Adoption Practice

What is somewhat infuriating about this photoshoot is that it utterly fails at raising any kind of awareness or discussion about the issue. It is a typical bland fashion shoot with lifeless models that associates fashion with death. The photoshoot was removed from the Vice's website but is still in the print version.

Asian adoption is the despicable practice of buying foreign children to fill an arrogant and selfish need, to fill a personal
void or the expectation of charitable recognition for "Saving a child from it's burdensome life of poverty". This socially a new common, acceptable and legal behavior by American citizens
to exploit, extortion, and is a detrimental self-fulfilling prophecy.
The stereotyping adoptive parent's negative regard of foreign culture, causes detrimental maltreatment by overburdening the child with unrealistic expectations, that negatively affecting the regard, treatment and outcome of the foreign child.
The primal wounding of the child (being taken from it's mother) and the intentional infliction of secondary regard causes the child compounded psychological damage. The forced submission and control combined with a lack of childhood discovery creates a desperate state of hopeless compliance of submission to the dominating parent's control. Suppression of primary personality
and learned indisposition dialog to satisfy the parent, leaves no opportunity for the child to grow one's individual personality, independence or self esteem.

Friday, November 22, 2013

Repression Tolerance of Adoptive Children

Repression Tolerance of Adopted Children

Toleration is "the practice of deliberately allowing or permitting a thing of which one disapproves. One can meaningfully speak of tolerating, ie of allowing or permitting, only if one is in a position to disallow". It has also been defined as "to bear or endure" or "to nourish, sustain or preserve". Toleration may signify "no more than forbearance and the permission given by the adherents of a dominant religion for other religions to exist, even though the latter are looked on with disapproval as inferior, mistaken or harmful".
There is only one verb 'to tolerate' and one adjective 'tolerant', but the two nouns 'tolerance' and 'toleration' have evolved slightly different meanings. Tolerance is an attitude of mind that implies non-judgmental acceptance of different lifestyles or beliefs, whereas toleration implies putting up with something that one disapproves of.
Historically, most incidents and writings pertaining to toleration involve the status of minority and dissenting viewpoints in relation to a dominant state religion. In the twentieth century and after, analysis of the doctrine of toleration has been expanded to include political and ethnic groups, homosexuals and other minorities, and human rights embodies the principle of legally enforced toleration.

The Anger in Adoptive Parents Toward Their Adoptive Children



Anger is an emotion related to one's psychological interpretation of having been offended, wronged, or denied and a tendency to react through retaliation. 
Sheila Videbeck describes anger as a normal emotion that involves a strong uncomfortable and emotional response to a perceived provocation. Raymond Novaco of UC Irvine, who since 1975 has published a plethora of literature on the subject, stratified anger into three modalities: 
1. cognitive (appraisals), 
2. somatic-affective (tension and agitations), 
3. behavioral (withdrawal and antagonism). 
William DeFoore, an anger-management writer, described anger as a pressure cooker: we can only apply pressure against our anger for a certain amount of time until it explodes.
Anger may have physical correlates such as increased heart rate, blood pressure, and levels of adrenaline and noradrenaline. 
Anger as an emotion which triggers part of the fight-or-flight  brain response. 
Anger becomes the predominant feeling behaviorally, cognitively, and physiologically when a person makes the conscious choice to take action to immediately stop the threatening behavior of another outside force. 
The English term originally comes from the term anger of Old Norse language. 
Anger can have many physical and mental consequences.
Signs of Anger
The external expression of anger can be found in facial expression, body language, physiological responses, and at times in public acts of aggression. 
 Humans and animals, for example, make loud sounds, attempt to look physically larger, bare their teeth, flaring nostrils and stare (Stink-eye).  
The behaviors associated with anger are designed to warn aggressors to stop their threatening behavior. Rarely does a physical altercation occur without the prior expression of anger by at least one of the participants. While most of those who experience anger explain its arousal as a result of "what has happened to them," psychologists point out that an angry person can very well be mistaken because anger causes loss in self-monitoring capacity and objective observation.
Modern psychologists view anger as a primary, natural, and mature emotion experienced by virtually all humans at times, and as something that has functional value for survival. Anger can mobilize psychological resources for corrective action. Uncontrolled anger can, however, negatively affect personal or social well-being. While many philosophers and writers have warned against spontaneous and uncontrolled fits of anger, there has been disagreement over the intrinsic value of anger. The issue of dealing with anger has been written about since the times of the earliest philosophers. Modern psychologists in contrast to earlier writers of note warn of serious effects of holding in anger.
The Intentional Cultivation of Anger in the Adoptive Child
An unfortunate fact of adoption is the 25% to 48% failure rates in pre and post adoption finalization., Years after an adoption finalization, now common practices of "wrongful adoption" lawsuits and annulments by adoptive parents. The most serious and distressing new problem for adopted children, An easy quick solution for the unsatisfied adoptive parent. This is a most despicable practice by Adoptive parents who are"Re-Homing" their legally adopted children. Getting out of their financial obligation, working around the legal system by removing physical custody and responsibility the adoptive parents get away with legal dumping of used goods-children. The reality is that adoption is not natural, moral or beneficial to a child with living parents. Adoption disrupts the American nuclear family and adopted children are the number one victims of child abuse in the United States.
The problem before "Re-Homing" was the adoptive parents enduring the last eight years of their financial obligation through psychological exhaustion dealing with a non-biological stranger's child and pretending it is the same as natural born offspring.  When this denial has worn off and the adoptive parent is warn out, the problem of dealing with the outsider becomes a daily reminder of making impulsive decisions of buying children. There are no long term rewards from the broken adopted children who became mortally wounded, defective and sociopathic the day they were removed from their mother. 
 percentage of adoptions 
The forced submission in early childhood training; Strong enforcement in late childhood and the dominating control over the emerging adolescent's normal emerging independence creates hostility, resentment and anger toward the adoptive mother. The Adoptive mother is threatened by the child growing in maturity and worldly awareness., The mother's personal choice not to pursue educational goals beyond high school and feels challenged by the adopted child's growing intellectual capacity, In her failed attempts to suppress the child's educational and intellectual ability cause the mother great anger and jealousy.   
 of the adopted child's personality  
The serious, harmful and psychologically compromising effects of suppressing anger can lead to 
The intolerant adoptive parent's frequent displays of anger toward the adopted child
 can be used as a psychological manipulation strategy for social influence. 

Psychology and Sociology of Anger (Wikipedia.org)

The Anger of Achilles, by Giovanni Battista Tiepolo depicts the Greek hero attackingAgamemnon.
Three types of anger are recognized by psychologists: The first form of anger, named "hasty and sudden anger" by Joseph Butler, an 18th-century English bishop, is connected to the impulse for self-preservation. It is shared between humans and non-human animals and occurs when tormented or trapped. The second type of anger is named "settled and deliberate" anger and is a reaction to perceived deliberate harm or unfair treatment by others. These two forms of anger are episodic. The third type of anger is called dispositional and is related more to character traits than to instincts or cognitions. Irritability, sullenness and churlishness are examples of the last form of anger.
Anger can potentially mobilize psychological resources and boost determination toward correction of wrong behaviors, promotion of social injustice communication of negative sentiment and redress of grievances. It can also facilitate patience. On the other hand, anger can be destructive when it does not find its appropriate outlet in expression. Anger, in its strong form, impairs one's ability to process information and to exert cognitive control over their behavior. An angry person may lose his/her objectivity, empathy, prudence or thoughtfulness and may cause harm to others. There is a sharp distinction between anger and aggression (verbal or physical, direct or indirect) even though they mutually influence each other. While anger can activate aggression or increase its probability or intensity, it is neither a necessary nor a sufficient condition for aggression.
The words annoyance and rage are often imagined to be at opposite ends of an emotional continuum: mild irritation and annoyance at the low end and fury or murderous rage at the high end. Rage problems are conceptualized as "the inability to process emotions or life's experiences" either because the capacity to regulate emotion (Schore, 1994  has never been sufficiently developed or because it has been temporarily lost due to more recent trauma. Rage is understood as "a whole load of different feelings trying to get out at once" (Harvey, 2004) or as raw, undifferentiated emotions, that spill out when another life event that cannot be processed, no matter how trivial, puts more stress on the organism than it can bear.


Anger makes people think more optimistically. Dangers seem smaller, actions seem less risky, ventures seem more likely to succeed, and unfortunate events seem less likely. Angry people are more likely to make risky decisions, and make more optimistic risk assessments. In one study, test subjects primed to feel angry felt less likely to suffer heart disease, and more likely to receive a pay raise, compared to fearful people. 
In inter-group relationships, anger makes people think in more negative and prejudiced terms about outsiders. Anger makes people less trusting, and slower to attribute good qualities to outsiders.
When a group is in conflict with a rival group, it will feel more anger if it is the politically stronger group and less anger when it is the weaker.[26]
Unlike other negative emotions like sadness and fear, angry people are more likely to demonstrate correspondence bias– the tendency to blame a person's behavior more on his nature than on his circumstances. They tend to rely more on stereotypes, and pay less attention to details and more attention to the superficial. In this regard, anger is unlike other "negative" emotions such as sadness and fear, which promote analytical thinking.
An angry person tends to anticipate other events that might cause him anger. She/he will tend to rate anger-causing events (e.g. being sold a faulty car) as more likely than sad events (e.g. a good friend moving away).
A person who is angry tends to place more blame on another person for his misery. This can create a feedback, as this extra blame can make the angry man angrier still, so he in turn places yet more blame on the other person.
When people are in a certain emotional state, they tend to pay more attention to, or remember, things that are charged with the same emotion; so it is with anger. For instance, if you are trying to persuade someone that a tax increase is necessary, if the person is currently feeling angry you would do better to use an argument that elicits anger ("more criminals will escape justice") than, say, an argument that elicits sadness ("there will be fewer welfare benefits for disabled children"). Also, unlike other negative emotions, which focus attention on all negative events, anger only focuses attention on anger-causing events.
Anger can make a person more desiring of an object to which his anger is tied. In a 2010 Dutch study, test subjects were primed to feel anger or fear by being shown an image of an angry or fearful face, and then were shown an image of a random object. When subjects were made to feel angry, they expressed more desire to possess that object than subjects who had been primed to feel fear.

Passive anger

Passive anger can be expressed in the following ways:
  • Dispassion, such as giving someone the cold shoulder or a fake smile, looking unconcerned or "sitting on the fence" while others sort things out, dampening feelings with substance abuse, overreacting, oversleeping, not responding to another's anger, frigidity, indulging in sexual practices that depress spontaneity and make objects of participants, giving inordinate amounts of time to machines, objects or intellectual pursuits, talking of frustrations but showing no feeling.
  • Evasiveness, such as turning one's back in a crisis, avoiding conflict, not arguing back, becoming phobic.
  • Defeatism, such as setting yourself and others up for failure, choosing unreliable people to depend on, beingaccident proneunderachievingsexual impotence, expressing frustration at insignificant things but ignoring serious ones.
  • Obsessive behavior, such as needing to be inordinately clean and tidy, making a habit of constantly checking things, over-dieting or overeating, demanding that all jobs be done perfectly.
  • Psychological manipulation, such as provoking people to aggression and then patronizing them, provoking aggression but staying on the sidelines, emotional blackmailfalse tearfulness, feigning illness, sabotaging relationships, using sexual provocation, using a third party to convey negative feelings, withholding money or resources.
  • Secretive behavior, such as stockpiling resentments that are expressed behind people's backs, giving the silent treatment or under the breath mutterings, avoiding eye contact, putting people down, gossiping, anonymous complaints, poison pen letters, stealing, and conning.
  • Self-blame, such as apologizing too often, being overly critical, inviting criticism.

Aggressive anger

The symptoms of aggressive anger are:
  • Bullying, such as threatening people directly, persecuting, pushing or shoving, using power to oppress, shouting, driving someone off the road, playing on people's weaknesses.
  • Destructiveness, such as destroying objects, harming animals, destroying a relationship, reckless drivingsubstance abuse.
  • Grandiosity, such as showing off, expressing mistrust, not delegating, being a sore loser, wanting center stage all the time, not listening, talking over people's heads, expecting kiss and make-up sessions to solve problems.
  • Hurtfulness, such as physical violence, including sexual abuse and rapeverbal abuse, biased or vulgar jokes, breaking a confidence, using foul languageignoring people's feelings, willfully discriminating, blaming, punishing people for unwarranted deeds, labeling others.
  • Manic behavior, such as speaking too fast, walking too fast, working too much and expecting others to fit in, driving too fast, reckless spending.
  • Selfishness, such as ignoring others' needs, not responding to requests for help, queue jumping.
  • Threats, such as frightening people by saying how one could harm them, their property or their prospects, finger pointing, fist shaking, wearing clothes or symbols associated with violent behaviour, tailgatingexcessively blowing a car horn, slamming doors.
  • Unjust blaming, such as accusing other people for one's own mistakes, blaming people for your own feelings, making general accusations.
  • Unpredictability, such as explosive rages over minor frustrations, attacking indiscriminately, dispensing unjustpunishment, inflicting harm on others for the sake of it, using alcohol and drugs,[19] illogical arguments.
  • Vengeance, such as being over-punitive, refusing to forgive and forget, bringing up hurtful memories from the past.

Six dimensions of anger expression

Anger expression can take on many more styles than passive or aggressive. Ephrem Fernandez has identified six bipolar dimensions of anger expression. They relate to the direction of anger, its locus, reaction, modality, impulsivity, and objective. Coordinates on each of these dimensions can be connected to generate a profile of a person's anger expression style. Among the many profiles that are theoretically possible in this system, are the familiar profile of the person with explosive anger, profile of the person with repressive anger, profile of the passive aggressive person, and the profile of constructive anger expression.


People feel angry when they sense that they or someone they care about has been offended, when they are certain about the nature and cause of the angering event, when they are certain someone else is responsible, and when they feel they can still influence the situation or cope with it. For instance, if a person's car is damaged, they will feel angry if someone else did it (e.g. another driver rear-ended it), but will feel sadness instead if it was caused by situational forces (e.g. a hailstorm) or guilt and shame if they were personally responsible (e.g. she crashed into a wall out of momentary carelessness).
Usually, those who experience anger explain its arousal as a result of "what has happened to them" and in most cases the described provocations occur immediately before the anger experience. Such explanations confirm the illusion that anger has a discrete external cause. The angry person usually finds the cause of their anger in an intentional, personal, and controllable aspect of another person's behavior. This explanation, however, is based on the intuitions of the angry person who experiences a loss in self-monitoring capacity and objective observational-ability as a result of their emotion. Anger can be of multicausal origin, some of which may be remote events, but people rarely find more than one cause for their anger. According to Novaco, "Anger experiences are embedded or nested within an environmental-temporal context. Disturbances that may not have involved anger at the outset leave residues that are not readily recognized but that operate as a lingering backdrop for focal provocations (of anger)." According to Encyclop√¶dia Britannica, an internal infection can cause pain which in turn can activate anger.

Cognitive effects

The Toleration Of Adopted Children


The Toleration of Adopted Children

Toleration is "the practice of deliberately allowing or permitting a thing of which one disapproves. One can meaningfully speak of tolerating, ie of allowing or permitting, only if one is in a position to disallow". It has also been defined as "to bear or endure" or "to nourish, sustain or preserve". Toleration may signify "no more than forbearance and the permission given by the adherents of a dominant adoptive parent to allow the outsider, the offspring of a social deviant and an illegitimate child that is flawed from the sins of his sinful parent to be born and given to adoption by the acceptable Christian religion following parent.  
A dominate religion allows for other religions to exist, even though the latter are looked on with disapproval as inferior, mistaken or harmful", especially the offspring of social deviants (Non-Christian) is viewed as inferior and born in sin.
There is only one verb 'to tolerate' and one adjective 'tolerant', but the two nouns 'tolerance' and 'toleration' have evolved slightly different meanings. Tolerance is an attitude of mind that implies non-judgmental acceptance of different lifestyles or beliefs, whereas toleration implies putting up with something that one disapproves of. The adoption of an illegitimate child born of the sinful lust of sexual behavior, is a primary strategy to apply labels to offenders breaking the religious rules of the
majority Christian religious society.  The labeling of the non-religious minority's 
conduct as rendering social punishment on the offending unmarried parents who 
are not in observance of the majority religion by behavior and resulting pregnancy.
The oppression and punishment of the non Christian population (deviant sexual 
behavior of non marriage status) resulting in the abundance of illegitimate children  
available to Christian adopters seeking to indoctrinate the children into the 
Christianity and saving the children from their sinful status of bastard. Although 
the "saving" is a ploy to free the children for adoption, the adoptive parents will 
regard the illegitimate children as the outsider and the adoptive parents will not
bond or treat the adoptive child as an independent human being, the status given to most naturally born biological offspring. The adoptive parent will enjoy the child's infancy, early childhood and tolerate the emerging adult as long as the adoptive child remains submissive, obedient, compliant and grateful to the domination of the adoptive parent.
Historically, most incidents and writings pertaining to toleration involve the status of minority and dissenting viewpoints in relation to a dominant Christianity. In the twentieth century and after, analysis of the doctrine of toleration has been expanded to include political and ethnic groups, homosexuals and other minorities, including Foster and adopted children.