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Statistics Identify large populations of Adoptees in prisons, mental hospitals and committed suicide.
Fifty years of scientific studies on child adoption resulting in psychological harm to the child and
poor outcomes for a child's future.
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Sunday, September 22, 2013
The Narcissistic Adoptive Parent's Tool Of Triangulation
The Adoptee's Domination and Control By the Adoptive Parent's Tactic and Use Of "Triangulation".
The term triangulation is used to express a situation in which one family member will not communicate directly with another family member, but will communicate with a third family member, which can lead to the third family member becoming part of the triangle. The concept originated in the study of dysfunctional family systems, but can describe behaviors in other systems as well, including work.
Triangulation can also be used as a label for a form of "splitting" in which one person plays the third family member against one that he or she is upset about. This is playing the two people against each other, but usually the person doing the splitting will also engage in Character assassination, with one or both parties.
The Dominate Adoptive Mother Asserts Authority and Control Over Adoptee.
The Adoptive mother is the facilitator of all communication and information going to and from the Adoptee. No family members will talk to the Adoptee directly and are discouraged from direct communication with the Adoptee. The Adoptive parents have encouraged, promoted and mediated this negative form of deceptive communication that protects the biological siblings from the Adoptee outsider. The unethical behavior of triangulation and it's use gives the parent dominating control over the Adoptee's connection to the extended adoptive family. The narcissist's command over the Adoptees external relationship with deceptive impulses, creating a negative influence in the communicated information. With the intentional malice to invalidate, discredit and inflict emotional harm to the Adoptee, by the distortion of facts, creating indifference in other's relationships.
Similar to opening another persons mail and writing a hateful exaggerating message in reply.
Although many lonely older people intentionally engage in the behavior of triangulation, example a hospitalized relative. Speaking on the behalf of the hospitalized person the family calls the "middle-man" instead of the hospitalized person. The lonely middle-man receives the wanted attention, feels a sense of importance by the control of the information and the information seekers have to contact the middleman.