About Adoptee Rage

Statistics Identify large populations of Adoptees in prisons, mental hospitals and committed suicide.
Fifty years of scientific studies on child adoption resulting in psychological harm to the child and
poor outcomes for a child's future.
Medical and psychological attempts to heal the broken bonds of adoption, promote reunions of biological parents and adult children. The other half of attempting to repair a severed Identity is counselling therapy to rebuild the self.

Sunday, August 25, 2013

Adoptive Parents "Who Did Not Do The Best That They Could Have"


The Adoptive Parents Who Did Not Do Their Best

The growing population of disconnected, neglected and abused as children, Adult Adoptees search for answers of what it is that is missing in them. Some enjoy the ignorance from the truth, while others attempt to find a tangible object of responsibility.
In learning about the psychological problems that accompany child abuse and neglect, we are able to pinpoint familiar and horrible behaviors that bring the memories of our parents cruel
and cold parenting style.   

Human Behavior is the logical consequence of childhood experiences.....Freud

"Dependent, Docile and Disobedient" 
The Suffocation From Mother's Love.
The Adopted child's usefulness is dependent on staying a needy child throughout life to the mother. The child will never grow and never become an adult in her eyes. The child is four years old for all eternity. The mother says she loves you over and over again like a sick mantra. She can only say she loves you as you are a small ignorant child, incapable of understanding the world.
The dominating mother will destroy any resistance she sees in her forever child, thinking her love is enough for you in life. The
mother's narcissistic control holds the child's emotional identity as a psychological hostage and life-term prisoner. She controls the child's memory, views and opinions to verbally or physically correct the nonsense when spoken.  She states repeatedly that she has people everywhere watching you, and they report to her your behavior and the things that you say. She reminds you that what you say always comes back to her and causes her grief, disappointment and anger at your lack of respect.
Reviewed Title: 
 The Body Never Lies: The Lingering Effects of Cruel Parenting 2005
Reviewed Publisher: 
 New York: W.W. Norton. 207 pp. ISBN 0-393-06065-9.
Dr. Alice Miller boldly goes where most people wouldn't dare. She raises to the surface the long-standing moral code that children shall honor their parents to live a long life (referred to as the Fourth Commandment in her book) and shows how adherence to this code may actually cause the very thing the commandment purports to prevent, a short-lived life. She illustrates through the lives of well-known authors the lingering effects of abuse, after studying their writings and other resources.
Miller's theory is grounded in the principle that early abuse by a parent often causes a disconnection between a child's experience and the consciousness of it. Her theory is that as long as the conscious mind has not validated the true experience, the body will manifest this truth, revealing it through symptoms or illnesses. The cure - for both psychoemotional and physical ills - is to bring the conscious mind and the body's memory into congruence through validation. Validation may be simply the individual acknowledging what truly happened or having an outside witness provide validation.