About Adoptee Rage

Statistics Identify large populations of Adoptees in prisons, mental hospitals and committed suicide.
Fifty years of scientific studies on child adoption resulting in psychological harm to the child and
poor outcomes for a child's future.
Medical and psychological attempts to heal the broken bonds of adoption, promote reunions of biological parents and adult children. The other half of attempting to repair a severed Identity is counselling therapy to rebuild the self.

Sunday, June 2, 2013

"Sending the Problem Child Adoptee to Counselling" "Individuals Are Shaped By Their Caregivers In The First Three Years of Life"

Adoptee Rage!



Individuals are Shaped by The Caregivers in First 3 Years of Life

Individuals are shaped by their experiences with caregivers in the first three years of life. Used as a foundation for Object Relations Theory.    John Bowlby 
The Strange Situation experiment with infants involves a systematic process of leaving a child alone in a room in order to assess the quality of their parental bond.
Mary Ainsworth ...Attachment Theory.
Object Therapy
Individuals choose relationships that attempt to heal insecure attachments from childhood. Negative patterns established by their parents (object) are projected onto their partners.

Reasons Not to send a child to therapy

Psychotherapy can be adapted in ways that are accessible and developmentally appropriate for children. It is generally held to be one part of an effective strategy for some purposes and not for others. These are four purposes that are generally considered inappropriate or pointless reasons for placing a child in psychotherapy:
  • to determine why a child originally began misbehaving,
  • to improve the child's self-esteem,
  • to make up for inconsistent parenting, and
  • to make the child capable of coping with a parent's drug addiction, interpersonal relationships, or other serious dysfunction.
In addition to therapy for the child, or even instead of it, children may benefit if their parents speak to a therapist, take parenting classes, attend grief counseling, or take other actions to resolve stressful situations that affect the child.
"Send the problem child Adoptee to counselling"
The Parent's Denial
...That any parental behavior produces any problem.
In the parents self observation, they are honorable and
commendable for the hard work of parenting. 
By sending the problem child to therapy as a punishment
for bad behavior. The singled out problem child is formally acknowledged as the outsider in the family's ideology.
 The problem child is now and forever labeled mentally incompetent by the family due to counselling therapy.
The problem child is now expected to have learned behavior 
modification due to the expense and time driving the child to the counselling appointment. The child will be ridiculed and
repeatedly reminded of the cost of their therapy, Although
the child was forced into counseling the parent uses guilt to
shame the child. The parent's generation and continues today
is the preconceived notion that counseling is for the mentally ill,
and the next stop for someone in therapy is institutionalization.
  
  One unexpected occurrence is the therapist's recognition of
family dysfunction. The problem child is given empathy, tools 
and told that they are not a problematic or defective person.
When a child in therapy is truthful about family life, real growth
begins to form and the child learns to work around the family.
The child is for the first time given hope for themselves.