About Adoptee Rage

Statistics Identify large populations of Adoptees in prisons, mental hospitals and committed suicide.
Fifty years of scientific studies on child adoption resulting in psychological harm to the child and
poor outcomes for a child's future.
Medical and psychological attempts to heal the broken bonds of adoption, promote reunions of biological parents and adult children. The other half of attempting to repair a severed Identity is counselling therapy to rebuild the self.

Sunday, June 16, 2013

How Normal Biological Fathers Feel Toward their Daughters

Adoptee Rage!

I stumbled across this post this AM and was strongly
affected on how biological fathers regard their daughters.
I was dumbfounded and felt significant lacking inside to
understand how the other side lives in biological splendor.
How a biological father worries about how his child will be
treated by her future husband, and the precious personal       and unique identity he has worked so vigilant to form, groom and grow in her. I naturally felt jealous, anger at my own
parent lacking and sad for myself for my pitiful state. But
this reality is for children who's parents have a commitment
to their lives, unlike Adopted Children. This is what defines
our most inner being, the awareness that bio children will grow up to be individuals and adopted children are forever objects.

Full Article:
http://drkellyflanagan.com/2013/04/17/a-daddys-letter-to-his-little-girl-about-her-future-husband/


Dear Cutie-Pie,
Recently, your mother and I were searching for an answer on Google. Halfway through entering the question, Google returned a list of the most popular searches in the world. Perched at the top of the list was “How to keep him interested.”
It startled me. I scanned several of the countless articles about how to be sexy and sexual, when to bring him a beer versus a sandwich, and the ways to make him feel smart and superior.
And I got angry.
Little One, it is not, has never been, and never will be your job to “keep him interested.”
Little One, your only task is to know deeply in your soul—in that unshakeable place that isn’t rattled by rejection and loss and ego—that you are worthy of interest. (If you can remember that everyone else is worthy of interest also, the battle of your life will be mostly won. But that is a letter for another day.)
If you can trust your worth in this way, you will be attractive in the most important sense of the word: you will attract a boy who is both capable of interest and who wants to spend his one life investing all of his interest inyou.