About Adoptee Rage

Statistics Identify large populations of Adoptees in prisons, mental hospitals and committed suicide.
Fifty years of scientific studies on child adoption resulting in psychological harm to the child and
poor outcomes for a child's future.
Medical and psychological attempts to heal the broken bonds of adoption, promote reunions of biological parents and adult children. The other half of attempting to repair a severed Identity is counselling therapy to rebuild the self.

Monday, June 17, 2013

Adoptee's Search and Getting-to-know-you Behavior Topics

ADOPTEE RAGE!    Healing, Formation The Post Search Identity

Some predictable behavioral topics of the Adoptee's search and
Getting-to-know-you process I have personal experience with.

An Adoptee search is a deeply personal satisfying process necessary to the Adoptee's formation of their new adult Identity.

#1. The Adult Adoptee, "AA":
  A. Has grown beyond the forever child personification.
  B. The AA resents the ignorant child role by AP.
  C. The AA's drive for legitimate identity is their life quest.
  D. The AA has a personal right to know facts of their life.
  E. Has trouble digesting all information at once.
  F. Takes time to sift through false identity claims of BP, and           small and big lies about themselves get caught easily.

#2. Adoptive Parents, "AP":
  A. Adoptive Parents Struggle to Hold Control Over Adoptee
  B. The Jealousy and anger as the adult child is forcing change.
  C. The AP was happy with the parent-child-forever relationship.
  D. The AP resents the search, the AA's longing and the BP.
  E. The ungrateful Adoptee is at fault for instigated changes.
  F. The AP thinks search will bring closure, No it brings open.
  G. May create drama to focus off AA's search or banish AA.

#3. Biological Parents, "BP":
  A. BP Feels Guilt for the child's adoptive circumstances.
  B. Genuine hope to make up for the lost years.
  C. May tell tall tales about their hero status in life,
      Telling Lies about themselves for the AA's benefit.
  D. Does not want their cover of good christian,citizen blown.
  E. Pretends Not to be affected by years of absence.
  F. Holds in the pain, guilt from relinquishment.
  G. Pretends Lost Memory by Choice and Convenience.
  H. BP Avoid responsibility, Avoid AA relationship from
      repressed anger, pain and hostility in personal life,
      and holding in shame of themselves for relinquishment.
This list is an ongoing topic....as it unfolds in my awareness.