About Adoptee Rage
Statistics Identify large populations of Adoptees in prisons, mental hospitals and committed suicide.
Fifty years of scientific studies on child adoption resulting in psychological harm to the child and
poor outcomes for a child's future.
Medical and psychological attempts to heal the broken bonds of adoption, promote reunions of biological parents and adult children. The other half of attempting to repair a severed Identity is counselling therapy to rebuild the self.
Monday, April 22, 2013
The Unrealistic Expectation of Grattitude
To hold back your anger from cruel and
cold people that you do not belong, yet are owned by.The fictional birth certificate bears the deception invented
by a parent hypocrisy,
and a country's greed.
The Adoptee's has the right to feel anger, and all other emotions that goes along with human situations. Unrealistic expectations are created by people outside
of the group and not members of the group they are judging.
The public expectation of grattitude is an unrealistic burden on adopted children. Are biological children expected to convey gratitude toward their parents for the parent's choice to bear children. Parenting is a choice, not an expectation. Parenting is a temporary state that should lead to a child's self sufficiency.
We Adoptee's have the right to be angry, in a society that sells other people's children. The children sold in adoption, grow up and realize something is terribly wrong. Living a dual identity is extremely difficult and morally wrong. In adolescence we realize the monumental reality of being adopted and can not properly compartmentalize the dual identity as it is a falsehood. The untruth does not come together naturally into making sense.
The truth of adoptee's identity is how the adoption triad comes full circle, ending in the truth of who I Am. Who I am Not is who they wanted me to be is a predictable guarantee of failure. When the adoptee turns 18, the day we hope for, wait for and dream of the day freedom begins. To many Adoptee's the magic day of the eighteenth birthday will guarantee freedom and provide a point in time that the sharade is over. The time of the beginning of a new life, far distanced from the child who was owned by a family that treated her without dignity, respect and
did not genuinely celebrate the way doteing parents support the biological child that they adore. Adoptee's have provided the service that was expected of their innocent childhood. On the eighteenth birthday, all Adoptee's should automatically receive the real and factual birth certificate that clearly displays their true identity's name. The truth is deserved, Important to sanity and human growth, and reconcile with the biological parents.
We want change of current laws, studies prove that the keeping of secrets causes great pain, psychological conditions and is destructive to all parties involved. Secrets are the root of the adoptee's problem and also the simplest to answer. Adoptee's
want accountability and freedom from lies and deception of adoption industry.The fact that there is no one responsible for
the destruction to millions of people by the adoption Industry.
There is NO government accountability and due to the revenue
generated by the adoption industry, government's hands reach in to the money pot. We adults must evolve beyond secrets.