About Adoptee Rage

Statistics Identify large populations of Adoptees in prisons, mental hospitals and committed suicide.
Fifty years of scientific studies on child adoption resulting in psychological harm to the child and
poor outcomes for a child's future.
Medical and psychological attempts to heal the broken bonds of adoption, promote reunions of biological parents and adult children. The other half of attempting to repair a severed Identity is counselling therapy to rebuild the self.

Thursday, April 11, 2013

Adopting a Child Process of Events: "Adoption Disruption Abandonment and death"

ADOPTEE RAGE  




 What Exactly Constitutes Attachment:

 Attachment develops as a result of predictable experiences of enjoyable social interactions connected with everyday care routines. It can't be forced and is not "cupboard love"--- that is, attachment to an adult is not connected with receiving food from that adult (although often fun social interactions are associated with eating). 


                                                               

                                                                     This is NOT an attachment example  

Children become attached to adults when they recognize the adults' power and authority, so adoptive parents need to make sure the children are completely dependent on them for all their needs.
Reality:  Attachment develops as a result of predictable experiences of enjoyable social interactions connected with everyday care routines. It can't be forced and is not "cupboard love"--- that is, attachment to an adult is not connected with receiving food from that adult (although often fun social interactions are associated with eating). Withholding food so a child has to depend on the adult for it, or preventing a child from feeding herself when it is developmentally appropriate for her to do this, are likely to have the unfortunate consequences of reducing children's food intake. A number of cases where adopted children were injured or killed have involved food deprivation or provision of unpalatable or indigestible foods (for instance, in the case of Viktor Matthey, who died as a result of malnutrition, exposure, and injuries).

View the complete article at: Psychologytoday.com/blog/child-myths/201004/adoption-disruption-abandonment-death

Jean Mercer
Jean Mercer is a developmental psychologist with a special interest in parent-infant relationships.

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