About Adoptee Rage

Statistics Identify large populations of Adoptees in prisons, mental hospitals and committed suicide.
Fifty years of scientific studies on child adoption resulting in psychological harm to the child and
poor outcomes for a child's future.
Medical and psychological attempts to heal the broken bonds of adoption, promote reunions of biological parents and adult children. The other half of attempting to repair a severed Identity is counselling therapy to rebuild the self.

Sunday, March 17, 2013

The Narcissistic Parent, Parental Narcissism, Abuse in the Narcissistic Home

Adoptee Rage        Narcissistic Parent's Abuse

The Narcissistic Parent is a cruel, manipulative and emotionally
disturbed caregiver that negatively influences a growing child to the point of psychosis. To survive childhood leaves the young person enters adulthood without necessary relevant knowledge and life skills. The intentional retardation of emotional well being
by narcissistic parent, which is of no concern to a narcissist.
The child is reluctant to display emotion, misunderstands,  misuses and inappropriate use of their emotions. Children of narcissistic mothers adapt to the changing behaviors with great seriousness. The Bipolar type of mood swings can be set off by a child's lack of conforming to the current situation of the parent. The child's growing need for independence is met with abuse and punishment. The self consumed narcissist will punish a child for not being greatful for an expensive meal although the rest of the evening is in the bar drinking (not age appropriate). The many hours that a child spends in a cocktail lounge seemed like the punishment to the child, but the punishment comes later.
The growing up and independence of a child send the message of fear to the controlling parent. But the fear message is true about the child's impending age and plans to run far away from the mother grow daily inside the child. The flight response plan is a guarantee that the child has kept himself mentally intact and sees the possibility of freedom away from the parent.

The U.S. Department of Justice defines emotionally abusive traits as including causing fear by intimidation, threatening physical harm to self, partner, children, or partner's family or friends, destruction of pets and property, forcing isolation from family, friends, or school or work.[4]
Straus and Field [21] report that psychological aggression is a pervasive trait of American families: "verbal attacks on children, like physical attacks, are so prevalent as to be just about universal". A 2008 study by English, et al.[22] found that fathers and mothers were equally likely to be verbally aggressive towards their children.