The adoptee's ponders their inadequacy as infants. I have read
over and again that when adopted children reach the time of
concept understanding, they want to know why. They want to know about the circumstances that lead to their adoption. I
personally never thought about why, It just is in my case.
Through the get-to-know-you process of reconciliation, I never
thought to ask. My aunt explains that her father was controlling
and dominant, Yet grandfathers rarely raise children except in the case of the story "Heidy". My mother was a legal adult and self sufficient living in another state when she got knocked up. I use this term because it is degrading, tacky and lacking in intelligence. My half brother is a year younger than me, so there may be multiple knock-ups. She married my brother's father and career in circuit factory. No excuse of educational pursuit.
She just did not want her first born child. My father and grandmother wanted me attempting military legal assistance for my custody ended in failure. At that time I was living as a foster care system dependent. As A ward of the state, and four foster homes later during the time when my father and grandmother's lawyer was requesting information from the county of SanDiego.
The most disturbing thing about my mother is her lack of human
compassion. Maybe it is a racial thing, A white woman giving birth to a Cherokee Indian child. My brother and his wife got knocked up very young and chose adoption. My mother was strongly against adoption, and never let her secret out until I appeared....Very disturbing person.
Do not base your future on time-frame social protocols.
There are never good reasons to abandon your offspring.
The abandoned child will return someday to know from whom they belong. The time in abandonment distorts and injures a baby's well being forever. The broken child now adult returns at a fraction of their potential. In the twenty second century we have the scientific knowledge to determine fertility and control fertility. Responsible people don't get pregnant without wanting
a family. Accidents happen and some change the world forever.
Adopted children want to know why they were abandoned.
What was so terrible about your baby, to abandon it?
The old reliable phrase "for a better life" does not apply
to adopted children, as the abandonment at birth is scientifically
proven to scar a child for life. The millions of broken people
surviving adoption seem to have a key part missing.
"Money" Is not a valid reason as all people with children are
broke and getting by. Family support or lack of, does not work
either as raising a child is the mother's job and family support or interference matters not to an adult person who lives their life.
The argument for out of marriage pregnancy is no excuse to abandon your baby. Half of the population would be adopted
if the religious standard of marriage then pregnancy was law.
A good reason is You don't like children, but when you grow your own child and that child emerges belonging to you it is precious and astounding. Your life is changed forever in your best interest.
Abandon,Auction,Lost, Desert,Maroon,Discard,Disuse, renounce