About Adoptee Rage

Statistics Identify large populations of Adoptees in prisons, mental hospitals and committed suicide.
Fifty years of scientific studies on child adoption resulting in psychological harm to the child and
poor outcomes for a child's future.
Medical and psychological attempts to heal the broken bonds of adoption, promote reunions of biological parents and adult children. The other half of attempting to repair a severed Identity is counselling therapy to rebuild the self.

Tuesday, November 13, 2012

An Adoptee Visit to the Normal Family

When I met my best friend Heather, on occasion I would be permitted to spend the night. This family was amazing, with a beautiful home and
everyone had their very own privacy. I always felt privileged  to be accepted and allowed in their home. I was expected to help with chores,
the dishes and cooking....I would open the pantry and spy the blueberry
muffin mix. The mother frequently yelled at me when I added the blueberry juice to the mix. What I would give to hear her yell at me
for not following the directions once more. I admired, dreamed of her
throughout my life. Her dignified manner, her elegance charm and beauty...As she was my dream mom. Teaching her daughters the skills
needed to be adult women. Trusting her children as important parts of
her life. There were no fights, breaking glass or threats of suicide in this house at least while I the guest was present. The order of things, the to do list, the chores the fun and the freedoms awarded were respected.
They loved me back and tolerated my visits as they knew it was respite
for my troubled home-life. I never lied or stole from the family that welcomed my troubled soul, and still in my heart love and miss them.
It was an ordinary summer school college day when I showed up to carpool in the driveway. I jumped in my friend's car and we drove away.
The next day I was called into question. It seemed a bank card and envelope with a code had been stolen out of her mother's desk a few days prior. Several hundreds of dollars had been removed from her parent's bank account. They were giving me the chance to confess before the police would intervene. I was shaken with the enormity of the guilt of this atrocity. This offence will mean the end of my only long-term
relationship with this normal loving family. I felt so sick inside knowing
as usual that I would no longer be welcomed. A week passed and the
police published the photos of the thief. The night before I went to the home, my friend got a distress call from a friend in a drug rehab. She
went immediately to the hospital and rescued the girl. As we drove off that morning to school the rehab resident left behind to sleep in the empty home. Once alone she began to scour the house for money.  Finding the key to the bank, her boyfriend picked her up and their two week drug binge began. Even though I had nothing to do with the crime, I was guilty in the eyes of society and in the long term trusting relationship with the family I wanted so desperately to be part of.
Adoptees are not trustworthy individuals and easily manipulated. Based on the need of approval, adoptees can never remedy what is ingrained
at their core. Being conditioned to live a phony identity to protect the secrecy of strangers and adoptive parents. Having no ability to normally grow in to real and truth based identity of a unique individual. The adoptee is the bearer and scapegoat of the indiscretions of society.

Mother the Humilliator

When you are five years old, and have been put in a dress so short
that your panties show. No one has taken the time to teach you how
girls are supposed to sit, when sitting on the floor in the back of a cafe,
while Mother is having coffee with her friends. They keep looking back
at me, laughing. Finally she demands from across the room "sit like a
lady". I do not understand what this means. When finally she gets up and walks over to slap my face. While the entire cafe looks on, she tells me to put my knees together.
In retrospect, I think the cafe's breakfast patrons were laughing at her
cruel and ignorant way to punish a child by humiliation. She walks back to the counter stating "see what I have to put up with everyday"

Tuesday, November 6, 2012

Anti-Abortion's "Person-hood" Strategy Will Give Adopted Children Civil Rights

The Christian community's ongoing diatribe against abortion, will be the double edged sword that will pierce their religiously delusional bubble.
The legal strategy to grant "products of conception" the same civil rights of adult United States citizens, by the legal designated title of person-hood.  The result of giving the fetus a legal status of a person, now grants that a person has a right to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. These civil rights must be applied uniformly to all children,
born and unborn. The granting of civil rights to all children will have serious impacts on the adoption industry and foster care system. The
commodity of children in today's market, exist without rights until age eighteen. To grant a commodity civil rights will destroy the adoption industries practices as business as usual, as well as the social service
industry. All federal and state funding will be instead used to finance
new legal issues and lawsuits by the newly granted civil right population.  
All Christian based adoption agencies and child related organizations will become bankrupt by lawsuits. The irony of the anti-abortion legal challenges will have the domino effect into implosion upon itself.
Good Luck with that!

Thursday, November 1, 2012

Adoptee's Reality of Untruth and Biological Family Lies

As the lies begin to roll down the hill, with time and force they gather
more words. The information becomes engorged with passion, pseudo
truth and too much to loose if truth were extracted from the fast rolling boulder of lies.
The boulder of lies from my father, came crashing down on me upon my pathetic need for verification of facts. The grand story of this pseudo Vietnam Veteran.....Impersonator. With his far over reaching arrogance
he claims Purple heart, Valor, Honor and more Army issued decorations.
The stupidity of old men's life stories in this digital age is indeed punishable in a court of law. The Stolen Valor Act is the law that protects
a soldier's honor, and Identifies liars and deceivers for who they really are.  When I read the email's truthful words about the lies I had been researching in vain, I already had a hunch. But why would my own biological father who through his own efforts deceive me with such a shameful lie? As time passed the story grew. In my efforts to get the story straight I went through extreme details and researched every aspect of each item for the claims research. Over eighty hours of reading
manuals and  Veterans websites and claim filing information. Each time that I would find some new benefit information I would call him in my investigation's excitement. With each call his personification would be interested in my findings. To learn the fact that he went to boot camp and got hurt a couple of weeks into and discharged., The fact that he never stepped foot on Vietnamese soil is astonishing. The need to make up a phony self to present to the long forgotten, lost child makes my
compounded need for truth seem impossible reality of Adoptee's life.