About Adoptee Rage

Statistics Identify large populations of Adoptees in prisons, mental hospitals and committed suicide.
Fifty years of scientific studies on child adoption resulting in psychological harm to the child and
poor outcomes for a child's future.
Medical and psychological attempts to heal the broken bonds of adoption, promote reunions of biological parents and adult children. The other half of attempting to repair a severed Identity is counselling therapy to rebuild the self.

Thursday, March 22, 2012

Work of Alice Miller on Emotions, Unhealthy Relationships and Corporal Punishment

Work of Alice Miller on Emotions, Unhealthy Relationships and Corporal Punishment:

'via Blog this' I the "Adoptee" have a psychological
Hand print on the right side of my face., From the
continual slapping of my face by my mother. No matter the crime, mistake, or out of order speaking
that comprise my offense. The quick reaction to the
adopted kid opening their mouth and letting sound come out, or the "Look" being slapped off my face
as a way to control any form of contempt. The not so appreciative child may learn to internalize all anger and madness to the point of explosion or personally initiated destruction. To program your child not to express any feelings, is like waiting for an atomic bomb, eventually she will go off.,Or will hold all those feelings inside to self implode.

Wednesday, March 21, 2012

"Closure" Invalidates the Adoptee

As a Victim of Adoption, I recently discovered my true identity. The fraudulent and disreputable  circumstances of which I was bought and sold.

 I am routinely asked about my biological family; the most common reply I hear is in regard to "Closure"......Closure of What? What is going to close?....It is not five o'clock yet. What exactly am I closing?      How do we go from "Vitally Important Personally Identifying Information" (I have waited all my life to find information) to the responding word "closure".
 This phrase is invalidating to myself, my life-long struggle with having no identity, and the lack of tools and knowledge to learn how to properly identify and deal with the problems associated with adopted children. Adoptees are expected to ignore and avoid such situations., Do not talk about it, Don't bring up the subject, not to be  self-centered, selfish children. Be silent 'Be seen and not herd' and 'Speak when spoken to', Do not interrupt or annoy the adults.

  I have not had the choice or opportunity to discuss being abandoned, sold or adopted in the first place. Now they want to shut me down before I have had time to process all of this information, not to mention the unmentionable
'Feelings' that should accompany the biological discovery. Through this dialogue I have come to despise the word Closure. It is like a catch-phrase
people are programmed to say, when they do not want to really hear what I am saying. People are programmed to be polite, like asking someone
"How are You" when they do not care.
In our culture to be a liar to someone's face is considered to be polite. Commonly saying things
that people want to hear, although not truthful.

This disturbing behavior this is just a bad habit to act like you care when clearly we don't. To give the illusion of being polite liars.