About Adoptee Rage

Statistics Identify large populations of Adoptees in prisons, mental hospitals and committed suicide.
Fifty years of scientific studies on child adoption resulting in psychological harm to the child and
poor outcomes for a child's future.
Medical and psychological attempts to heal the broken bonds of adoption, promote reunions of biological parents and adult children. The other half of attempting to repair a severed Identity is counselling therapy to rebuild the self.

Thursday, February 2, 2012

The Adoptee's Lack of Legal Rights

 When tip-toeing around the fact, an adoptee's two legal names.  All adopted persons have two identities. The original real name,
and the fictitious adoptive name change. This fictitious name
that adoptees are forced to accept by law, but in our hearts we will never give it the respect that law demands. Young adoptees
plan to find themselves at their legal adulthood age of 18.
Adult adoptee's view the entire 'adoption secrecy quagmire' as
redundant, and absolutely ridiculous., The most hysterical fact of the Adoption Industry partner with the states is
that all state sponsored Adoption Industry Agency will clean up your sexual indiscretions, Pay you to ignore your child, and
legally backed transactions making sealed records not obtainable
to adoption victims.

Fact: In California, Filing formal court request to unseal adoption records., Providing legal documentation of illness and need. You are dying from an acceptable documented disease,and need a
Bone marrow transplant to save your life. The court will say No! As this case is not compelling enough for the court to unseal the records. They will use the privacy rights of the birth parents in
their rejection of your case.

We find a way, and like a magic wand, Our identity is found. We
begin to walk the road of self-discovery when we know who we are. When we know who we are, we begin to allow ourselves to
trust in the facts. So much of the adoption agencies files,records and documentation are LIES! What we have been told is LIES!
The only thing we adoptees can trust in is factual evidence.
Non adoptee, birth parent or adoptive parent may lie about so
many things to justify, or live with what their selfish and guilty offensives.

We are not allowed to Talk About Adoption!

Not often we adoptee's are asked what we think about adoption. If we were asked, we could not properly answer the question due to several variables. Our guilt based christian programming gives
us negative feelings about bad and good, causing us confusion to an already broken self esteem. Raised in the "speak when spoken to" era, teaches us that our "input" is not wanted, and will result in punishment if we give our unsolicited opinion. We were not asked what we thought, Nor did we know how to reply.                                   
We were not taught or encouraged to participate in family
conversation. Many of us adoptees still do not know how to talk, or engage in adult discussions. The chronically repeated term "Be seen and not herd" means to a child: you have no value, to the family., Excluding is something adoptees have learned well.
We were excluded from the group of which we belong from birth.
Exclusion is how we define ourselves, what we identify as normal and common. The adoptive parents and their many groups are well aware of our adoption status. Adult conversations about our
downfalls and limitations are attributed to the fact that we are adopted. In our presence,  families and their friends talk openly about our adoption, yet not with us. A dishonorable state we are kept in, to survive the humiliation we deny the behavior's existence. Creating excuses and alternative reasoning of
the many denial factors of which we operate., Suppressing  the deep down seeded shame adopted children live with every day.
question. Depending on who asked, and for what reason., There
is an unspoken rule: Adopted kids are not allowed to talk about being adopted. If put on the spot, we are expected to give the appropriate answer: My parents are all I need, want, or something similar and a genuine tribute to the prizewinning parents that disrupted their lives to give an unwanted child a home. Other responses we all know and loathe: "I was chosen"
"They chose me"....bla, bla, bla, Vomit!
I am not interested in searching for someone who does not want me...When we say 'Afraid of getting hurt' we are lying, as "hurt"
is the only thing that is consistent in our lives.
 We are broken props that were useful when we were babies,
Then we grew up. With age comes the awareness about what
huge mistakes were made in our "Best Interest", Were not to
benefit our best-interests at all. The decisions made for our best interest were for the interest of the 'flash in the pan' temporary
maternal want to own a genuine baby. To keep the Adoption  Industry's systems and administrators keeping their jobs. To
keep the arrogant adoption administrators in their chosen field  "playing God" while selling other people's children. So if you think you have got the bastard adopted child all figured out,
you do not know anything. We are not going to cooperate!