About Adoptee Rage

Statistics Identify large populations of Adoptees in prisons, mental hospitals and committed suicide.
Fifty years of scientific studies on child adoption resulting in psychological harm to the child and
poor outcomes for a child's future.
Medical and psychological attempts to heal the broken bonds of adoption, promote reunions of biological parents and adult children. The other half of attempting to repair a severed Identity is counselling therapy to rebuild the self.

Thursday, October 25, 2012

Adoptees Forced Conditioning of Deception

The forced conditioning of deception, Is how adoptees are trained to comply with their new owners. The problem is that the child has already lived in it's true identity, In Utero and birth has already occurred. The infants identity has already been biologically established and imprinted by DNA upon the child forever. Adopted children are forced to live  and assume the life of a legally fictional person created by the new owners.
The adoptee is then forced to comply unconditionally without question of the details that they are given. The basic fact in forced alliance of a phony identity, then the fact that the child does not really belong with the family, Is a conflicting paradox within the truth. The evidence for troubled adopted children points the blame at the child. In reality the double standard forced on adoptee children, when the blame should fall on the deceptive story that adoptees are forced to bear for their lifetime.
A young adoptee is given bits and pieces of information and when they begin to put it into understanding they are labeled defiant. The greatest problem of normal healthy adopted children is that they grow into adulthood. In adolescence the concept and understanding of complex abstract thinking is an expected age related development. For adopted children this time of development is problematic and anticipated to be punishable with great consequences of understanding development.
The irony is that the legally defective child and grounds for returnable compensation, Is actually the child who will not grow into the despised  understanding phase of the adolescent child.,Thus continual embracing
of the deceptive story and identity of the adopted child who can never grow up. That should be the child that is sought for adoption., who will sustain the adoption allegiance for their lifetime., Never questioning what they are told to believe. 
How can Adoptees begin to build a real Identity, While sorting out the lies of their puppet masters?  
I feel sometimes that the lies are so thickly embedded in our recollections, that we should scrap even the good memories?

To look back on what was good, and then realize the untruth of the
information is unfortunate of the adoption deception story.
As infants, we are submersed into a new fictionalized story complete with a new fictionalized identity that we are conditioned to comply.
Adoptees are desperate to be accepted, putting aside reason when faced with unstable facts. We jump into new relationships as innocent lambs,
trusting the wolf's impending slaughter. We want to trust and to believe
that we are worthy of anyone pity. We look directly into the eyes of the liar and want desperately to believe them. It is what we are taught to do.
Because we have come of age, we think situations and people will be different, be better. We somehow still believe that future people will be better, truthful and loyal. We are forever in disappointment of our lives.