Did You Know Jane Is adopting?
This is an ignorant social trap, Why the hell do these people tell me this kind of shit? As I watch the narrative unfold everybody's happy input makes me want to vomit. The congratulations, and "the child will be so fortunate to have you as a mother all makes me want to beat my head against a wall. Nothing it seems has changed regarding all of the hard work we adoptee writers bleed on public spaces for. The social networks we use to being information about adoption into the public knowledge seems to fall on death ears. The response is always the same. My husband's relatives keep making the adoption announcements as the socially naive always respond predictably. Their responses are not only hurtful to me but completely humiliating, as the joke about it in their family way. Adoption is a joke to me as the definition of comedy is "tragedy plus time. When I hear my spouses relatives talk about their adoption plan, they are quick to fault the child adoption process, especially the screening and psychological testing that can be easily gone around if a potential adopting parent fails the psych test.
The social problem of adoption is in the public denial of the adoption consumers. They discount any teaching in the adoption education that gives a realistic image of future problem that they will experience and encounter with their adopted child. The social position is one that sees the adoption process as lame and unnecessary. They joke about how impersonal the adoption process related questions like preference for a particular race or age like they were going to the grocery store to buy bread.
The potential adoptive parent's believe they are saving a child, that that child has no parents and have no idea what a paper orphan is. The new parents have picked out new names months into the adoption process that says they have no regard for the child's current and future identity as long as they get to pick it out. There is no mention of the real parents as if they don't exist and never will. Many adoptive parents I have talked to recently have no idea what the baby scoop era is, nor are they aware of the realities that adopted children live. The new adoptive parents only want possession to fill their own needs and the child is part of that plan. Sadly I know that the uneducated adoptive parent is as ignorant today as the baby scoop era adoptive parents in their demand for live babies.