The Birth Trauma of Adoptees
The newborn infant is traumatized at birth upon taking their first breath of air, the infant is taken away from his or her mother, the only person the infant knows on a cellular level of familiarity. The separated newborn is traumatized by not being connected to mother and every minute that passes in absence of the mother, causes the infant excruciating fear.
The newborn's continued isolation and solitude cause the exacerbation of fear to build, eventually the confined infant goes into psychological shock from this continued frightening experience.
The monumental consequences of separating a newborn infant from his biological mother creates the trauma that becomes the infant's first, foundational life experience. This intentionally tragic situation that is psychologically excessive, physically exhausting and emotional overwhelm that the newborn will never forget. As the event is imprinted upon the infant emotional brain, physical body that creates the psychologically charged memory. This pre-verbal, pre-cognitive memory is remembered as the most extreme monumental event that the infant will compare all future events against.
The physical and mental effects of the historic trauma's impact will haunt the child for the rest of his life.
This trauma will seriously disrupt relational attachments, create defense mechanisms to avoid social attachments. Important aspects of child foundational development are derailed, occurring out of normal age appropriate order.
Traumatic events that follow exacerbate the reaction and increased physical manifestations of various coping mechanisms that occur before the age of three years. The fear-based trauma bonding and attachment disorders in relationships to new caregivers or adoptive parents.
Thee cascade of trauma related symptoms spill over into delayed foundational development skills. Delays in the areas of language, mobility, physical and social skills and emotional regulation skills.
All articles recap on how to quickly fix the child and situation. Most psychology articles are selling a particular type of therapy and each has their own spin on things.
There is no way to un-crack an egg or remove a trauma experience without drugging or hypnotizing away mental resources. What adoptees need is to read many, different aspects of the way we were traumatized, without an
antidote or quick fix.
Adoptees need to be able to sit with the realization of what we suffered, how we suffered and let the truth of the facts sink in and accept it. Not everything is fixable and some things should be allowed to remain as they always will, encapsulated in time. We were traumatized at birth, and no one cared. Everyone was more concerned with getting what they wanted and they got what they paid for. We adoptees are living proof of a society that does not care about what they have done to others in their pursuit of buying happiness. We the damaged are all that remains of a morally and ethically corrupt greed-based society that buys and sells human children, the fresher, the newer...the better.